"ATOMIC HABITS" (Chapter 19): Don't Quit out of Boredom | Keto Mom Book Club
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There's no overnight success, and it's okay to be bored. You might not be motivated one day, but do you want to know who draws the line in the sand and who keeps going? The person that doesn't get into boredom. It doesn't matter which avenue of life you're working on, it's all the same. It all requires work, it all requires systems and habits. It all requires effort and energy to get to where you want to go.
Points to Ponder
00:08 "Atomic Habits" by James Clear
00:42 Power of mindset
01:36 It all requires work
02:11 "The Traveler's gift" by Andy Andrews
02:40 A fun idea
03:36 Steve Martin the comedian
04:21 It's easy to blame or shame
05:29 Lifestyle, one day at a time
07:20 Who can handle the boredom
08:39 It all comes down to passion\
09:06 Find a way to show up despite feeling bored
09:28 Mastery requires practice
09:38 The greatest threat to success
10:07 Don't mess up good for perfect
12:19 Giving mom fuel away
Full Episode Transcript
Good morning! All right, we're going to dive right in, because I love what he says in this chapter. We're almost done with "Atomic Habits" by James Clear, and we're going to dive into a new book on Monday. If you're watching this, today, we're going to dive into new books soon. But as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? Welcome to the Keto Mom page, we are going through "Atomic Habits". I'm going to be reading a book every single day for the rest of my life, I always do so I thought I would share it with you. And if you choose to join me, awesome or if you choose to watch, still awesome. But the hope is that you understand a couple things. First of all, the power of mindset. Second of all, there's no such thing as an overnight success. We're going through chapter Nineteen, and I often think people look at people's stories, whether it's in business, or finances, or relationships, or health, and they don't see the story that's behind it. They don't look at all of the work, or you forget. It's not like you intentionally say that they got lucky, but it's easy to look at somebody's success and say woe is me, how did they do that?...
My hope is that if you went through this book, and you saw the power of discipline and creating habits and systems over a period of time. It doesn't matter which avenue of life you're working on, it's all the same. It all requires work, it all requires systems and habits. It all requires effort and energy to get to where you want to go.
So we're on chapter Nineteen, and he says, "How do you stay motivated in life and work?"... I love what he says, so if you've been reading the book with us, you know that he shares stories. He gives you some science and data, he gives you a thought provoking question, and it's really good. We've got one more chapter tomorrow, and then I'm going to give you some time to order "The Traveler's gift" by Andy Andrews, we're starting on Monday. It's an incredible book about perspective, and on Monday I'm going to be covering chapters one, two, three. Because chapter three is where you get to the first thought provoking question. So if you have it, your goal by Monday is to get to chapter three... All right, so my husband's going to say hi, we have a fun idea. "I would say this, for those of you who go order this book from Andy Andrews, just go to his website, order it. For every day you cover it, we should give away some fun gifts for those who share their perspective. Giveaway mom fuel every day"...
We're going to do that. Okay, so starting on Monday, for those who check in, has the book, and whoever shares their takeaways, we'll just grab a winner, and we'll send you some mom fuel. So that's what we're doing, and it is so fun, I love that. My husband always got great ideas. So a couple things, how is "Atomic Habits" going for you? Even if you just started, have you created systems, have you putting this into play? I want you to listen to two concepts behind what he's talking about in this second to last chapter.
He talks about the story of Steve Martin, the comedian. He basically told his story, and how it took Steve Martin over a decade to get to where you are seeing him today. He talks about how he had ten years of learning, four years of spending time refining, and then four years of wild success. And some people say that was overnight, but you just don't usually put in the time to go look at what somebody else did over the course of years and years to get to where they are today. Even in your diet, or your lifestyle... It's easy to watch somebody that you work with, a co worker, a mom, a friend, a sibling or somebody online and say, they just got lucky, they've got genetics, or they've got more time.
It's easy to blame, shame or just justify watching somebody else. Because if you don't have the success that you want, it's easy to say, that's not going to be me because their circumstances are different. It's not, but it's the work they put in.
So he says, "Why is it that, that some people like Martin stick to those habits whether practicing jokes, drawing cartoons or playing guitar, while most of us struggle to stay motivated. How do you design habits that pull us pull us in rather than fade away"... So in the first part of the chapter, he talks about making habits desirable, manageable, and not too difficult. He says, our human brain loves a challenge, but only if it works within the optimal zone of difficulty. If you dive into something too quickly, like maybe you're brand new here, and you're diving into the Keto diet, so you clear out your fridge and clear out your cupboards. You're going to start working out and you've never done any of these things. But you're going to dive full force, and you don't really know what you're doing.
That's probably a little bit outside of manageable difficulty, it's too difficult. But if you take your lifestyle one day at a time, one meal at a time, your goal is to go move your body for twenty minutes, you go for a walk, you're drinking more water, these are right outside your comfort zone, it's manageable, and you're going to stick with it long term.
So he talks about our brain, he loves to throw in some science and some data. He says, "When you're starting a new habit, it's important to keep the behaviors as easy as possible so that you can stick with it even when the conditions aren't perfect"... Listen, I've been working out and getting up early for a long time. It doesn't mean that it's easy, although it's simple, and I can do it, I know what to do but I can easily slack off with my workouts, but I did the workout. It does take me extra effort to get to where I want to go, but it's manageable. I get up, I go do my workout, I follow the routine, I push myself a little bit, and I get it done.
But how to stay focused, when you get bored working on your goals. This is the most important part and this is something that I hear often. I'm bored of the keto food, I'm bored.
Do any of you ever say that I'm bored? I'm bored of the foods, I'm bored of the routine. And I ask, do you want success, or do you want to give into boredom? There is a part of achieving something that you want, and guess what's going to come to you? Boredom... I'm going to read to you what he says. He talks about an athlete, or about a coach talking to his team. The coach says sometimes there's genetics, some people believe in luck, there's a part of talent. But at some point, it comes down to who can handle the boredom of training every day. Who can handle the boredom of eating the same foods every day, and doing the same lifts over and over again, is the one that will have success. The one that can handle the boredom, is that you? For my husband, and myself, for the first year of diving into this lifestyle, I made the most basic, simple meals every day, because that's what I knew, would get him to where he wanted to go.
And that's all I knew to cook, it wasn't trying all these fancy Keto meals. It wasn't trying all these fancy Keto desserts. There wasn't even keto snacks back then, nothing was labeled Keto, back then it was still gluten free.
So we ate the same thing over and over again, because that's all I knew, and I didn't get bored. I was like, we're just going to have eggs. We're just going to have some meat and broccoli, that's what we did.
And so he says "Whether it's business or sports, or art, or you can say your diet, you hear people say things like, it all comes down to passion, or you have to really want it. As a result, many of us get depressed when we when we lose focus and motivation. Because we think that successful people have some bottomless reserved passion, they have the motivation, I don't have the motivation like that person does. But this coach was saying that really successful people feel the same lack of motivation as everybody else".
He says "The difference is that they still find a way to show up despite feeling bored"... Listen, I don't always want to get up and workout. I don't always want to cook at home. I don't always want to, but the ones that are going to be driven and reach the success they want are the ones that are okay with boredom, and they keep going. Mastery requires practice, but the more you practice something, the more boring and routine it becomes. The greatest threat to success is not failure, but boredom. This book is so good, my hope is you read the book.
You put some things into play, put some quotes in your brain so that when you're going through your everyday life, you can say don't mess up good for perfect.
There's no overnight success, and it's okay to be bored. It's okay to eat the same meals. It's okay, because I have bigger goals and dreams on the other side of boredom. How am I going to stay motivated? You might not be motivated one day, but you want to know who draws the line in the sand and who keeps going? The person that doesn't get into boredom. I don't want to eat my sack lunch today, I'm going to go through the drive thru. I'm bored of this video workout that I always do, I'm just going to skip it, it's not a big deal. Why does one day matter? How often can one day turn into the weekend, and the weekend turn into the month and a year of not getting back on track. Can you embrace boredom? "Professionals stick to the schedule, amateurs let life get in the way. The only way to become Excellent is to be endlessly fascinated by doing the same things over and over again. You have to fall in love with boredom". I think this chapter is great, we've got one more chapter tomorrow. If it speaks to you awesome.
I think that if you read the Miracle Morning with us, and if you read this book, five percent of people will stick with their habits, and everybody else just gives into mediocrity. Ultimately, nobody can make you do it, it's up to you. So are you going to give in, are you going to be able to do it when you're not motivated?
There's a point of you can't just always seek motivation, it has to come within you. If you don't have the vision, the passion, and you can't deal with the boredom, then we're going to be chatting a lot over and over again.
Every single month or every single year, every six months, when you've decide that you've got that little bit of motivation today. The book is great, so if you have not gone through it, I think you should go through it. Or just follow along here every morning, we've got one more day tomorrow, and then I'm going to recap some highlights of the book until Monday. After that, we're going to start "The Traveler's gift" on Monday. If you read it with us and you tune in, you share your biggest takeaways, we're going to be giving mom fuel away every single day.
I already have chapters one through three, because the first chapter set up the rest of the book. It's an easy read, try to get through chapters three. Order the book, join in. I am really excited to talk to you about this book. It's about perspective, but it's going to change your life I promise. So that's all I got for you. I hope you have an incredible day, and I'd love for you to press the share button below. If you're brand new, post new below and I'd love to get to help you, meet you, help you on your goals. Otherwise always message me, I will always answer your questions. Tune into the page for tips and recipes and tricks on the Keto lifestyle.
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