"WINNING THE WAR IN YOUR MIND" (Chapter 7): Lenses and Filters | Keto Mom Book Club
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We might be looking at life through a defective lens. It could be the words that people have spoken over us, our environments, or our upbringing. All these, can create this lens of how we look at the world, our bodies, or how we look at our family. It's all a matter of Perspective. The things that people have told you, can create your world and your perspective, and so he says this, "Remember, a lie believed as a truth, will affect your life as if it were a truth". So you've got to learn to capture the lie, and replace it with the truth. You need to take ownership of your mindset.
Points to Ponder:
00:10 "Winning the War in your Mind" by Craig Groeschel
01:53 You have a Choice on who you Listen to
02:27 Upgrade your Mindset
02:54 Ownership in your Life and your Health
03:25 Look at Life in your Perspective
04:37 Looking at the World through a Defective Lens
05:21 It's all a Matter of Perspective
06:09 Capture the Lie, and Replace it with the Truth
07:09 Cognitive Bias
07:42 Create your Attitude of Negative or Positive
08:33 React versus Respond
08:55 Cognitive Reframing
10:51 Change your Thinking, Change your Life
11:17 I Believe in Myself
13:08 Basic Action Steps
Full Episode Transcript
Good morning! Happy Monday and Welcome to the Keto Mom page. We're diving through "Winning the War in your Mind" by Craig Groeschel. So as you're tuning in, where you tuning in from? We are diving through chapter seven, we've learned a ton and we are going to continue to learn together. So how was your weekend? Do you read over the weekend or do you kind of check out off everything, which I normally do. This weekend, I just got home, and our kids were at Camp from Thursday to last night. I didn't see them till this morning, one of them is still sleeping and one is at volleyball, and two of my littles are here.
And so it's so fun to see them this morning, since I have not seen them since Thursday. My husband and I went to an event called upgrade your marriage, which was incredible. I'm going to be sharing a lot more about that on my personal page and in my story. So if you're interested, I'll share it on my stories when we do it. He is at an event today called upgrade your human, it's about body and your mindset, so I'm super excited to watch him do that. Tomorrow, we're going to do something called upgrade your business. We just have a lot of things going on, and it's been incredible. Why do I tell you all of this? Because I walk you through these books, and my hope is to do lives to help you upgrade your perspective.
To help you upgrade your thinking, and to help you understand that you are like the people you surround yourself with.
You are like the people that are in your life, good or bad. And oftentimes, you might say "I don't have a choice", You actually do. You do have a choice on who you listen to, who you get advice from, the people that you model your life after. That's why we went to this marriage thing, we were seeking higher level. People in their marriage that love Jesus, and that are business minded, we just were seeking out something that we wanted in our marriage, in our life and in our business. And so we went looking for it, we found it and we found an incredible community to plug into. So my hope is that if you don't have people like that around you right now, that you can tune into this page, and hopefully learn to upgrade your mindset. How do I learn to think "I get to" and not" I have to". I want to show up for my family, therefore I've got to take care of my body so that I can be around longer, or that I can feel better, and have a better attitude. How am I going to teach my kids if I don't know how to do it.
And so I truly believe that having ownership in your life, your health and your body starts with your mindset.
And if you're not willing to get your mindset right, then you're going to go through a vicious cycle of life of hitting goals, but not having the systems and habits in place. Then falling off track, starting over again, and getting irritated. This applies to any area of your life. Whether it's relationships, physical, financial or spiritual. It all starts with how you look at life in your perspective.
Chapter Seven talks about lenses and filters. Pastor Craig shares a lot of stories, and so I would encourage you to get the book. I love that a lot of you have been messaging me telling me about what you think of the book. Are you reading it on you own, or are you following along? Either one is great. You don't have to be on the chapter that I'm on, I tend to go through books fast.
The book we're going to go through in September, we're going to take a little bit longer and we're going to slow it down. We're going to create vision boards, which I'm super excited about.
But for the rest of August, we're going to finish "Winning the War in your Mind". And then I'm going to go through all of the books that we've gone through since May and give you the highlights. At the end of September, we're going to start creating dreams, visions, mapping it out and the book is going to help you. Okay, going back... Chapter Seven, is about the concept of "What are you looking at your life through" or the lens that you're looking through. He says "What if you're looking at the world through a defective lens?"... It could be your perspective, your environment, your defective lens. "We won't be able to see reality the way that reality actually is"... And so he walks through like different stories of how his wife was looking at him and he felt so sexy and she's like, you really don't look great. He then took off her new glasses, and he she's like, "Oh, I see you"...
It's funny and yet it's about perspective, we might be looking at life through a defective lens. It could be the words that people have spoken over us, our environments, or our upbringing.
And all these, can create this lens of how we look at the world, our bodies, or how we look at our family. It's all a matter of perspective. and the things that people have told you, can create your world and your perspective.
And so he says this, "Remember, a lie believed as a truth, will affect your life as if it were a truth".
I actually had a great conversation with a friend this morning, and she was talking about how she believes that she's a failure. She's working on her belief system and where it stemmed from in her past, why she believes that and how to get past that. She believes it, because it was from her past, and somebody spoke that over themselves and her and it created a lens of how she looked at herself, and therefore that was her reality, because she believed it. It's not true. It's a lie.
So you've got to learn to capture the lie, and replace it with the truth.
The book is super powerful. He says "We could say, a lens with a distorted view will make the lie seem like it's true. I wonder how often you see what you expect, instead of you see what is true"... What are you expecting? Do you expect negativity, like "Oh, that's always going to happen, I'm always going to look like this way", "It's always me, woe is me"...
If that's your expectation, and that's the lens you're looking at through your life, then you're going to get what you look for. Sometimes there's a tough love... You need to watch the words that are coming out of your mouth, we need to look at the music you're listening to, and the things you're watching. The things you're reading and the people you're surrounding yourself with. Because you get what you look for, you get what you surround yourself with, and so you need to take ownership of your mindset. He talks about cognitive bias, he says "You create a subject reality in your life. That construction of your reality, not actually reality will dictate how you respond and behave to the world"... Your reality creates your responsiveness. Do you react or do you respond? Do you have a great perspective on life and if you don't, let's change it. But the way you view life, people, the way you view yourself is going to ultimately create your attitude of negative or positive. Are you going to have a high E.Q., this is something that we coach our team on.
How is your emotional quotient?... So you've got an I.Q. which measures how smart you are. And you have a certain A.Q., for adaptability, or how adaptable are you in life? Then you have an E.Q., which is going to be your emotional quotient, or how do you handle life emotionally?
How do you handle things when they come up to you, do you have a strong emotional quotient? Can you respond when you take a second, and have an awareness of what's going on in your life, or do you react out of instinct?
Do you react out of the your false reality? React versus Respond. I actually think I probably need to do a live on just that, because that's a whole topic all by itself. He talks about being a control freak, and about life in general. He says "Social psychologists have a name for taking control of perceived things. They call it cognitive reframing. It's when we learn to identify and correct irrational thinking. We could say this happens when we have an unbiased or bias. One frame is how we view things. It's a cognitive bias through which we look at and interpret what happens"...
What frame are we looking at a situation, and are we believing a lie, or a truth. "Experts in the psychotherapeutic world share steps to help you reframe, and to take control of your thoughts"...
So he says, we're going to teach you how to be calm. I want to teach you how to respond versus react in any situation. Whether you're looking at yourself, you're going down a negative mindset, anything that happens in your life, we're going to work on responding versus reacting. We're going to work on staying calm, identifying the situation having an awareness, identifying our automatic thought, and if it's bad, we need to reframe that and put something positive in there. This is a Learned process, this is not something you're going to read the book and be done. This is like, I'm going to give you an awareness of what you're thinking, I'm going to give you awareness of your perspective on life, and you're going to have to work on it for a long time. Until you create a habit of taking a negative, or a lie, and replacing it with a positive. Which is plugging into a community that believes in you, you believing in yourself and working on your mindset.
He says "You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control how you frame it. To change your thinking, it's the reframe principle. Reframing your mind and restoring your perspective. Reframing has to change my thinking, and it will change my life"...
So change your thinking, change your life, and that includes your health. If you can't look at yourself with a perspective of I can get better, I will get better, I want to get better, I want to be healthier, I am worthy, I'm going to get stronger, I'm going to eat better. You're going to draw a line in the sand and say I'm going to do this, whether other people believe in me or not, I believe in myself, and part of it is reframing my thoughts. So he gives you action steps at the end, he's going to give you a hey, here's my cognitive bias, and he's going to walk you through being controlling. He's going to walk you through writing out basic steps to get you to start thinking about mindset. Again, all of the books that we read, are on mindset. I do it every single morning, my hope is to do by 7:30, Central.
So listen, I believe in you, and you can do this. I am not better than anybody else, but I focus on my mindset, and my husband and I do it together. We focus on our children's mindsets, and not an "I have to" mentality but "I get to".
And if I don't get up in the morning with a definite purpose, with a good intention, I've got my day set of reading, working out, moving my body and doing all of the things that I want to do before my kids get up. If I don't own my morning, and I'm intentional, then I'm going to let the world own my morning. I'm going to let everybody else own my day, and I'm not willing to do that.
So I'm going to talk a lot more and just go back over some of those books that we read about owning your morning and creating systems and habits and mindset.
I'm going to give you the basic, very key principles of all of those books that we've read after this book is done. So we'll probably get through "Winning the War in your Mind" in the next week. And then for the rest of August we will go through basic action steps to help you on your mindset journey to finish off this year strong. I hope you're loving the book. Continue to tune in, I appreciate you all and I hope this is helpful. I hope it makes sense and you can always ask questions. Otherwise continue to tune into the page for tips and tricks and ideas on the keto low carb lifestyle. I appreciate you and have a great day
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