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What's Your WHY?

Updated: Oct 5, 2022

	"Why you are doing what you're doing?" The other day, my daughter said, "I don't want to be like everybody else, I don't want to be average". We talked about "Average", and what it means to be average. Is being average bad? It depends on who you're comparing yourself to. What it boils down to is understanding the "why" you're doing things, or why you're not doing things. 

Welcome to the Keto mom page, my name is Stephanie. We're going to get down to "Why you are doing what you're doing".

Have you ever thought about that? I'm doing something a little different this morning. A lot of the things I talk about usually come from books, or questions people ask me.

A lot of the live videos come from things that you ask me, and so I love it when you ask questions because it gives me great topics to talk about. I also like to read books to hopefully inspire you and encourage you to read things that are going to grow your mindset.

We started this page over seven years ago. There are so many recipes we've shared and there's no shortage of keto tips and tricks. You can also go to for more recipes, mindset, or tips on how to get started. We have seven years of great information and knowledge to help you on your journey.

𝗜'𝗺 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗼𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱.

So we have four girls, we're a homeschool family, and we like to travel. I initially started this keto diet to help my husband, and then I started sharing online because I thought maybe families might want to learn with us.

One of the things my 15-year-old daughter asked me the other day was, "How do I know?"

How many of you have listened to motivational or inspirational speakers, or read some self-development books?

How many of you have filled your minds with different perspectives, and listened to other people that have gone before you?

Oftentimes, people who have written books or have podcasts will say things like, "You don't want to be average"...
  • How do you become the 1%?

  • How do you become better?

  • How do you become more?

So the other day, my daughter said, "I don't want to be like everybody else, I don't want to be average. Are we successful?"

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲?

We were talking about the word "Average", what it means to be average, and whether average is bad. It depends on what you're comparing yourself to. What it really boils down to is understanding the "WHY" you're doing things, or why you're not doing things.

  • Why do you want to be better?

  • What do you want to achieve?

  • Is it for the likes?

  • Is it truly to inspire other people?

  • What kind of success do you want to have?

  • Who are you comparing yourself to, to say that you don't want to be like that person?

Today, I want to encourage you to think about "Why are you where you are today?".

A majority of you are here to get healthy, stronger, lose fat, lose weight, and work on your physical or health spoke. You have different spokes, and you might have things that you need to work on in your finances, relationships, spiritual or emotional. But most of the time, we're working on physical spoke here.

And so the question is, "Why do you choose the foods that you choose?"

It might seem super simple, but what if I say things like...

  • Get rid of all the Oreos out of your house.

  • Stop going through the drive-thru

  • I want you to eat these meals for 30 days.

𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱-𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘁 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁?

I can tell you what to eat or how to eat, I can tell you to drink more water, move your body, or pay attention to your sleep. Do you understand the true "why" or the true reason why you usually go through the drive-thru? Why do you grab the foods that you often gravitate towards? Why you're overweight, or why are you physically the way you are today?

There are reasons as to why you do these things. It could be that you're on a "SEE-FOOD" diet, which means every food you see, you eat. Maybe you can't help it, you see it and you eat it.

If you can understand the "why" and the root cause of why you're doing what you're doing, then I can give you the how-to's, and teach you how to choose better. That way, when you implement them for a period of time, it actually becomes a habit.

But if you don't get to the nitty-gritty and if you don't understand "Out of sight out of mind", then it might not work. If you keep giving excuses like, it's convenient, lack of planning meals, or that you were never taught how to plan. Maybe it's money, we actually talked about budgeting yesterday. It could also be that you just need to know how to eat healthily within a budget.

Or maybe it's something deeper than that, like your emotions or something you were told your whole life. And so food becomes a comfort for you. It could just be the way you grew up, and it's all you've ever known. You may have also used food as a reward. It may be because you stressed out.

Figure out the root cause and pay attention to the things that you do throughout your day.

Ask yourself, "Why did I just skip the gym today?"... Maybe it's because I love the TV show. I sit down and I don't get back up. I'm scared, and I'm comparing myself to other people. Get down to the nitty-gritty and pay attention to the choices you make every single day...

  • Why do I do this?

  • Why was I almost going to say no to that?

  • Why did I not pack my lunch and went through the drive-thru for the 12th day in a row?

  • Why do I have a candy drawer?

Just ask yourself those questions. Pay attention to your whole day, and just simply ask yourself WHY? Then, you can hopefully get down to the nitty-gritty. Have a little bit of awareness that when you feel this way, you realize that you eat chocolates.

My friend Kelly and I were laughing because her daughter was over here playing, and I think she hurt her finger when they were playing basketball. So she ran inside the house crying. My sweet friend Kelly helped her daughter with her finger.

And then all of a sudden the girl said, "I just need some chocolates!", and we all laughed. Is that ever you? When you're emotional or having a hard day, you say "I just need a piece of pie". And then you would feel like that would fix your day.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗻𝘆, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹?
"I've done so great, I'm going to go reward myself with food".
This excuse has been used for lots of different reasons. And so my challenge to you today is to simply pay attention to these things...
  • Why do you make certain decisions?

  • Why do you make excuses?

  • What do you gravitate towards?

  • What is that feeling?

  • Has it been something you've been told about your whole life?

  • Have you used it as a crutch?

  • Have you used it as a reward?

  • Have you used it as an emotional support?

Just ask yourself WHY? Figure that out so we can get down to that, we can pluck it out, then replace it with something else. You can then take some of the Keto, low carb, carb-conscious tips, tricks, and recipes, and turn them into habits.

That way you can have success, reach your goals, and you don't fall back to the old emotions, rewards or excuses.

That is the goal! I can't do that part for you, I can only give you the how-to's. So I need you to go back and figure out the why. As soon as you have that awareness, whenever an emotion pops like when you're sad, angry, frustrated, or excited. You will realize that you don't need to celebrate or depend on food.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗴𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗮 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱.
Instead of giving yourself a reward with food, you can save up all of your rewards and get a massage, celebrate with a movie night, or whatever the case may be.
You've got to replace those with something else.

All right! That's all I have for you today. I hope that you were having an incredible morning, and thank you for tuning in. If you have any questions you can send me a private message.

We're going to be doing a fun 10-day challenge with ketones, accountability, and working on your food. It starts this October, I can plug you into a private group and we'll do it together.

If you want to know more about the challenge, message me and we'll chat about that.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲'𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗻𝘂𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗽, "𝗗𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿".

You have no idea how many people I had to ask if they were drinking enough water. Usually, people send me messages about having headaches or not feeling so great.

Are you are you truly drinking your water?

This is important because your body is made up of 70% of water. So with water, take your weight and divided it in half. You need to be drinking half your body weight in ounces of water. So drink your water, and it's going to help you in a lot of different areas.

I know it sounds silly, but it's the easiest and simplest tip, "Drink your water". That's it! So, send me a message with your questions, and I'll come back later and chat with you. Have an incredible day and we'll talk to you soon. Bye, everybody.

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