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Thieves of Joy ( At Your Best by Carey Nieuwhof )

    "Unfocused time happens when you do your most important things, randomly squeezing them into leftover slots of your day". ~Carey Nieuwhof

Welcome to the Keto Mom page, my name is Stephanie. I have two things I want to share with you.

We're going through this book, "At Your Best" by Carey Nieuwhof. I'm not going to read anything from the book for you today, but I'm going to tell you what it's about and help you understand that your mindset is essential.

We're going to talk about how you manage your time, priorities, and your energy. And if those things are not managed well, it can cause stress. And stress causes a lot of issues in your body... That's why this book is a great book because it will help you with your time, energy, and priority management.


There are phrases that popped into my mind that I wanted to leave you with this morning...

  • "Comparison is the thief of joy".

  • "Stress is the thief of joy"

  • "The lack of time management is the thief of joy".

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗹𝘆.

You may be comparing your health journey to somebody else's. It can be in the way that you manage your time or lack thereof. I usually ask people...

  • "Hey, have you prepped your meals today?"

  • "How is your keto journey going?"

  • "How is your week going?"

And what I often get from people is, "I don't have enough time to plan my meals, go to the gym, or have self-care".

This book is going to address stress. You might be living a life that you chose and are excited to have, but you don't have your time under control. You're not managing your time, but other people are. You are not managing the time of day that you are most energized, and your priorities are out of whack.

"Comparison is the thief of joy".

Who are you comparing your life to? There are things that we all have to work on, like our health or our marriages. But if you're comparing yourself to other people, it's going to make it even worse. You need to stay in your lane, focus on what you need to do, and the best choices that you need to make. You have to realize that your journey is going to look different than others, in all areas of life.

"𝗗𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲".

I was reading a friend's post this morning, and it seemed like they were seeing a certain situation worse than it is. All you have to do is listen and read what people say, watch people's actions, and you will realize that you're in comparison mode, you're not thankful for where you're at, and you're probably seeing a situation worse than it actually is.

Sometimes, we even see our own self-image as worse than it is. I'm coaching an amazing mom on her health journey, and she does look great and she's getting stronger.
She's walking and running further. She's making great choices in her food. And yet she's comparing her journey to other people's journeys.

She doesn't love the way she looks, and she lets it control her mind. She really has stinking thinking and she's seeing it worse than it actually is.

I keep telling her that she looks great, she feels great, and she is strong. I know that she doesn't look the way she looked prior to babies, but she's seeing this worse than it actually is.

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗶𝘀?

You have to understand that you didn't get here overnight, so you're not going to get back to where you want to be, or have it where you want it to be overnight. Sometimes I can make a huge deal out of something when I can look at where I'm at and realize that it really isn't that bad.

I can make it worse if I keep going down the negative route and if I keep making bad choices.

You can have the awareness of you're here today, and you're not going to make any more of those poor choices of comparison. You're going in another direction and you don't have to see it worse than it actually is. You know where you're at, you can make it right, and make a pivot.

You've got to hear it! Even, I was ready to get really frustrated because of the internet. Isn't it funny how it's so easy to get mad at other people? I had to tell myself that it was not my husband's fault. I told myself that I'm not going to be frustrated and I'm not going to see it worse than it is. It's not anything that I can physically control, I'm going to do the best that I can.

𝗜 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝘂𝘆𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗱𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝘆𝗽𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲.

It's not my fault that the internet's not working. I don't need to lash out at my husband or anybody else at home. If it doesn't work, I can wait till later. It does not need to affect the rest of my morning.

If you have mornings like this, then you have to know that it does not need to affect the rest of your day and it does not need to steal your joy for the rest of the day.

This book is going to help you with time management. And the only thing that I read to you from this morning is this.

"Oftentimes we think that a vacation, days off, or the need to just get away we'll fix the problem. A vacation, a sabbatical, or a certain time off will not fix the problem of poor time management. Stress spiral's into people's lives when they don't know how to manage their day. It happens when you let yourself live with unfocused time, unleveraged energy, and hijacked priorities".

"It leaves you feeling overwhelmed, overcommitted, and overworked".

"Unfocused time happens when you do your most important things, randomly squeezing them into leftover slots of your day".

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗮𝘀𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝘁𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗮𝘆...
  • I don't have time to plan my meals.

  • I don't have time for self-care.

  • I don't have time to read in the mornings.

  • I don't have time to go to the gym.

When you say those things, but your priority is your health? That's an example of "unfocused time".

Time not put into your priorities happens when you do the most important things randomly and try to squeeze them in. The reason you might not be hitting your health goals is that you've taken those important things and you haven't made them a priority. You squeeze them in when it works.

  • I'll go to the gym if it works.

  • I'll plan my meals if I can squeeze them in.

  • I'll work on my health in the cracks of my day.

Your health is probably one of the most important things right now, because if you feel like garbage, then you will treat other people like garbage. If you don't feel good, then it overflows into other people. So you need to make it a priority.

"The reason other people don't value your time is that you don't value your own time. If you don't make time for what you need to make time for, then other people will fill it for you".

𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲'𝗹𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸.
We're going to be talking about time, where you're spending it, and where you're putting your energy.

If any of that resonates with you, it would be a great book for you to actually go through. You can answer the questions and fit them into your life. So that you can make some priorities, make some shifts, and truly hit some goals.

That's it! Thank you for tuning in, I truly appreciate it. I hope it added some type of value, and I hope you guys have an incredible morning. Take a deep breath if you had a morning like mine, and just be thankful for where you're at and share something you're thankful for.

It's going to be a great day. Bye, everybody!

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