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GOALS (Introduction): Time To Write Down Those Goals | Keto Mom Book Club

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  "𝘚𝘵𝘦𝘱 𝘯𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦. 𝘞𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘴𝘶𝘣𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥"... ~𝘡𝘪𝘨 𝘡𝘪𝘨𝘭𝘢𝘳

Points To Ponder:

01:09 Our Goals

02:17 "Goals" by Zig Ziglar

02:47 Keto Protein Shake

03:07 Keto Kreme

04:10 3 Things I Did Not Do In My Life

05:45 Nothing Is Achieved Overnight

06:11 I Don't Have Enough Dreams

07:11 Why People Do Not Reach Their Goals

07:23 What Are Your Fears

08:01 Things I Wanted To Do

09:10 I wanted To Be An OB Nurse

10:10 People Told Me I Can't Do It

11:01 I Believed Other People

12:08 I Wanted To Lead By Example

13:12 People Are So Mean

14:13 I'm Going To Take The Action

15:29 People Don't Know How

16:30 It's Not About Your Abilities

17:10 Have You Written Your Goals?

18:00 Your Action Step

20:50 Balance Your Goals

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey, everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, and we are actually going to dive into setting goals. I do a morning FB-live almost every single day and we go through a book. We talk about mindset and the importance of believing in your goals. If you see it, pay attention to your words, take action, then you will eventually achieve your goals. But if you look at things negatively, if you're speaking trash, then it is unlikely to happen.

𝚃𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚘 𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜, 𝚋𝚘𝚝𝚑 𝚙𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜. 𝙰𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝'𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚘𝚗 𝙸 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎, 𝚝𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚋𝚘𝚘𝚔𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚐𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑 𝚋𝚘𝚘𝚔𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚗𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜. 𝙱𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝙸 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚕𝚢 𝚋𝚎𝚕𝚒𝚎𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚙𝚘𝚠𝚎𝚛 𝚘𝚏 𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚜𝚎𝚝 𝚒𝚜 𝚍𝚒𝚛𝚎𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚛 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞.
Welcome to day 1 of our Book 10 session

Earlier this morning, we finished this book, "The 5-Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. And I know I said we're going to start this book, "Goals" by Zig Ziglar, by tomorrow, but actually we're going to do that now. I'm going to go through a couple of things, and we're going to start thinking about our goals. We're not going to wait until January, we're not going to wait until December 28th or 29th. I know that Christmas is just around the corner, & some might still be out shopping. Our kids have already opened up everything. We're done with everything because we're traveling on Christmas Day. We did things a little bit differently this year, and it was so much fun...

So if you're watching while you're shopping, at home wrapping presents, if you're thinking about starting, or whatever the case may be. I want you to think about a couple of things as you're going through your next few days before January comes. Earlier today I was actually thinking "What should I do", or "What should we talk about?"...

By the way, I'm going to shake up my ketones. I shake one up every time I give you a Keto tip in the afternoon. But today, I'm shaking up a protein shake, mainly because I just really want one... What I want to do is go through this book with you, it's called "Goals" by Zig Ziglar. I want to give you some very tactical things to think about and an action step that you can do, as you are wrapping, shopping, and doing all the fun things for the holidays. First of all, where are you tuning in from? I'm tuning in from Minnesota. If you're new, post "New" below, I'd love to chat with you and get to know your goals.

I'm shaking up a Keto Protein shake with Keto Kreme

I'm shaking up a Keto protein. I call it my Mom Fuel, but it's still Ketones. I decided to drink the Keto Protein instead because we really didn't have lunch. We ate like a brunch and I'm not really hungry. This is what I'm having, it's not meant to be a meal replacement, but it's a protein shake. I'm adding our Keto Kreme, this is what we put in our coffee. I also like the collagen for my hair and skin, but today I'm adding the creamer to my protein. This is a chocolate protein and a peppermint cream. It's kind of a peppermint shake and it's really good...

Okay! I need to know where are you tuning in from and who actually has not done their shopping yet? The girls and I went to Cabela's this afternoon because we were trying to find something for my dad. Does anybody else feel like dads are the hardest to buy gifts for? I feel like whatever they want, they just go buy it for themselves. So we went there and just found something kind of silly for him... We also have church tonight, we're doing Christmas Eve service. I'm singing on the worship team, and I just recently started doing that.

𝙸'𝚖 𝚊𝚕𝚜𝚘 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛 𝚒𝚗 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚊 𝚜𝚎𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚍. 𝙸'𝚖 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚎𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸 𝚍𝚒𝚍 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚍𝚘 𝚒𝚗 𝚖𝚢 𝚕𝚒𝚏𝚎 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚝𝚘𝚕𝚍 𝚖𝚎.
𝙸𝚜𝚗'𝚝 𝚒𝚝 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚠𝚎 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚠𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚓𝚞𝚍𝚐𝚎 𝚞𝚜, 𝚘𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚕 𝚞𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚠𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚗'𝚝 𝚍𝚘? 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎'𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚍𝚎𝚊𝚕, 𝚠𝚎'𝚛𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚎𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚊𝚕𝚜 𝚘𝚛 𝚊𝚝 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊𝚗 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖...

Before that, if you want to know about my Mom Fuel or just ketones in general, I'll be talking more about it specifically throughout the week. You can just post "Five" in the comments and we'll chat. I'll share with you how I got started, why I drink them, and all of those things. I also would love for you to press the share button because sharing is caring and it also allows other people to join us... Here's what I want to go over with you. I would love to know who sets goals? Do you already have goals set for the new year, and are they specific? I didn't ask anybody to get this book, mainly because it was given to me, and so I thought I'd just walk you through the book. Here it is, "First things first, you first put in the effort, and then you receive the benefits"...

Nothing great is ever achieved overnight

ᴀꜱ ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴇᴡ ʏᴇᴀʀ, ᴀꜱ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴛʜɪɴᴋɪɴɢ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴀᴄʜɪᴇᴠᴇ ᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴜʀꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛᴡᴇʟᴠᴇ ᴍᴏɴᴛʜꜱ, ɪᴛ'ꜱ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʀᴇQᴜɪʀᴇ ᴡᴏʀᴋ, ᴅɪꜱᴄɪᴘʟɪɴᴇ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴡᴏʀᴋ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ɢᴇᴛ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴏᴠᴇʀɴɪɢʜᴛ. ᴇᴠᴇʀʏʙᴏᴅʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴏɴ ꜱᴏᴄɪᴀʟ ᴍᴇᴅɪᴀ, ɴᴏᴛ ᴏɴᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ɢᴏᴛ ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴏᴠᴇʀɴɪɢʜᴛ ᴀɴᴅ ɪᴛ ᴡᴀꜱɴ'ᴛ ʟᴜᴄᴋ. ɪ ɢᴜᴇꜱꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴏᴛᴛᴇʀʏ ɪꜱ ʟᴜᴄᴋ ʙᴜᴛ ʙᴇꜱɪᴅᴇꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ, ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ʙᴇʟɪᴇᴠᴇ ɪɴ ʟᴜᴄᴋ. ɪ ʙᴇʟɪᴇᴠᴇ ɪɴ ʜᴀʀᴅ ᴡᴏʀᴋ ɪɴꜱᴛᴇᴀᴅ...

I'm going to let you make a list for yourself and it's up to you if you do it or not. I'm going to do it myself as well, I actually started yesterday. And I realized that I don't have enough dreams. Does anybody else feel like that? Like, you're in mom mode or work mode. And then somebody asks you, "What do you like to do?", or "What are your hobbies". You answer, "I'm a mom", or "I love to read"... It really will just make you think about your goals or the things that you want to achieve over the next year. I want to give you a perspective or thought of what you might have to work through. "More than ninety percent (90%) of what is put into our minds daily, is of a negative nature"... So the first thing you're going to have to work on is your mindset. Whether that's listening to a podcast, reading, or people that you're watching.

𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚘𝚗𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚢 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚍𝚘 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚌𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚒𝚛 𝚐𝚘𝚊𝚕𝚜. "𝙽𝚞𝚖𝚋𝚎𝚛 𝚘𝚗𝚎, 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛. 𝚃𝚑𝚎 𝚏𝚒𝚛𝚜𝚝 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚘𝚗 𝚒𝚜 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚏𝚎𝚊𝚛. 𝙵.𝙴.𝙰.𝚁, 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚌𝚑 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍𝚜 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝙵𝚊𝚕𝚜𝚎 𝙴𝚟𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝙰𝚙𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚁𝚎𝚊𝚕."...

What are you afraid of? Are you afraid of success? Are you afraid of somebody might judge you? Are you afraid that your parents, spouse, or somebody might say, "You'll never look like that?", "You're never going to lose the weight", or "I can't believe you're going to a gym". Maybe you're just afraid to walk into a gym? It's the power of what people say over us, and what we think somebody might say even if they might never say it.

There were things in my life I wished I had done

I'm going to tell you three things. When I was done with high school, I went to visit a college in South Dakota. I'm from Minnesota, born and raised, and I really wanted to be a sign language interpreter. I wanted to be an interpreter so badly, I took classes. I took all of the community classes I could take. I went to visit a college out in South Dakota and I became afraid. My parents and I, all went to the college visit, I walked around and I was only eighteen.

ꜱʜᴀᴍᴇ ᴏɴ ᴍᴇ, ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ꜱᴇᴇᴋ ᴏᴜᴛ ᴄᴏᴜɴꜱᴇʟ ᴇɪᴛʜᴇʀ. ɪ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴍʏ ᴘᴀʀᴇɴᴛꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴀꜰʀᴀɪᴅ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ, ɪ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ. ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀʏ ʙᴀᴄᴋ, ᴡᴏʀᴋ, ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴀᴠᴇ ꜱᴏᴍᴇ ᴍᴏɴᴇʏ. ɪ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇꜱᴇ ᴇxᴄᴜꜱᴇꜱ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ɪ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴀꜰʀᴀɪᴅ, ꜱᴏ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ...

Thinking back today as an adult, I wish somebody would have asked me, "Are you sure it's just because you want to save money?", or "You really were passionate about sign language, so why are you not doing it?"... Number two, I then decided to go to a community college. Do you ever think about things that you regret in life? I went to a local college, I worked, and I decided to enroll in the nursing program. I wanted to be an OB nurse. Today, looking back, I actually think I would have been an incredible nurse. So I enrolled in the program, and I remember going to my first anatomy and physiology class. I sat in this big class and we were having a lecture. The first thing they said was, "What does everyone want to do?", "What kind of nurse do you want to be?"...

ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀɴ ᴏʙ ɴᴜʀꜱᴇ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴜᴘᴘᴏʀᴛ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴀɴᴅ ᴅᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀ ʙᴀʙɪᴇꜱ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴀᴅʏ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴇᴄᴛᴜʀᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ʏᴏᴜ ᴡɪʟʟ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ʙᴇ ᴀɴ ᴏʙ ɴᴜʀꜱᴇ. ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴀɴʏ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇᴍ, ɪᴛ'ꜱ ᴛᴏᴏ ʜɪɢʜ ɪɴ ᴅᴇᴍᴀɴᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡɪʟʟ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ɢᴇᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ". ɪ ʀᴇᴍᴇᴍʙᴇʀ ᴛᴜʀɴɪɴɢ ʙᴇᴇᴛ ʀᴇᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ᴛʜᴇɴ, ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀ ɴᴜʀꜱᴇ". ʙᴜᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴀᴛ, ɪ ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴡᴇɴᴛ ʙᴀᴄᴋ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄʟᴀꜱꜱ. ɪ ᴡᴇɴᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ʙᴜꜱɪɴᴇꜱꜱ ᴅᴇɢʀᴇᴇ ɪɴꜱᴛᴇᴀᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴇᴠᴇɴ ᴜꜱᴇ ᴍʏ ᴅᴇɢʀᴇᴇ ᴛᴏᴅᴀʏ...
Other people's opinion should not be your truth

Okay! Number three, I've had a lot of people say things to me like, "You can't do that", or "You won't do it". I need you to know something, earlier I asked you to make a list. So if you have decided to take control of your life and there are things you are passionate about, then you're going to have to do the activity from the book. I have been a singer my whole life. I am not a professional singer, but I love to sing and I love to worship. My dad and my mom pushed me to sing for years when I was young. I had my own little show at the fair until I graduated, and I would sing for an hour and I got paid to do it. I would sing country songs and I loved it. I also joined a couple of worship teams.

ᴏɴᴇ ᴛɪᴍᴇ, ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴍᴀɴ ᴡʜᴏ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ɪᴛ ᴀꜰꜰᴇᴄᴛᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴍᴀɴ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ꜱᴜᴘᴇʀ ʜᴜʀᴛꜰᴜʟ, ʜᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ʏᴏᴜ ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ꜱɪɴɢ". ɪ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ɪ ᴀꜱᴋᴇᴅ ʜɪᴍ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ʟᴇᴀʀɴɪɴɢ ʜᴏᴡ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ʜᴀʀᴍᴏɴɪᴢᴀᴛɪᴏɴ. ᴀɴᴅ ʜɪꜱ ʀᴇꜱᴘᴏɴꜱᴇ ᴡᴀꜱ, "ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ꜱɪɴɢ. ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ꜱɪɴɢ ᴀɴʏ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴏʟᴏꜱ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ꜱɪɴɢ"...

After that, I kept thinking, "Why didn't anybody else tell me I couldn't sing?". I've been singing my whole life, although not at the level of Carrie Underwood. Well, do you want to know what happened? I actually dropped off the worship team and I did not try out. Now, in every church I've been to, I would watch the worship group and I'd I love it. I would see myself worshiping and I love it. So I decided a few months ago that I was going to audition, or just try to reach out to the worship leader. I said, "Hey, I think I could actually help and I would love to support you". I told myself I was going to finally do it. I wanted to also show the girls, our daughters, and I wanted to lead by example. They had talked about doing worship, playing, and singing.

ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ, "ɪꜰ ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴛʜɪꜱ, ɪᴛ'ʟʟ ꜱʜᴏᴡ ᴛʜᴇ ɢɪʀʟꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀꜰʀᴀɪᴅ. ɪᴛ'ʟʟ ꜱʜᴏᴡ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ᴛʜᴇʏ'ʀᴇ ᴘᴀꜱꜱɪᴏɴᴀᴛᴇ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ". ꜱᴏ ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴛᴀʟᴋᴇᴅ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ɪᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ɪ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ɪᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇᴍ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴛʜᴇɴ ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟɪᴢᴇᴅ, ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴏɴᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴍʏ ᴅᴀᴜɢʜᴛᴇʀꜱ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴘʟᴀʏ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴜɪᴛᴀʀ ᴀɴʏᴍᴏʀᴇ, ɪ ᴡᴀꜱ ʟɪᴋᴇ, "ɪ ᴅɪᴅ ᴛʜɪꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜ". ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ɪ ʀᴇᴀʟɪᴢᴇᴅ, "ɴᴏ! ɪ ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ᴅɪᴅ ɪᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ"...
People can be really mean, especially in social media

I'm telling you this because sometimes people are mean, not all people though. My daughter has an Instagram account called @AGirlWithJesus. Her goal is to encourage teenagers to bring about a positive mindset, not be so negative, and gossip. She did her first live video the other day, it was great, and she was just answering questions. She did another live video earlier today, and suddenly she got off of it.

ꜱʜᴇ ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛᴏʟᴅ ᴍᴇ, "ᴍᴏᴍ, ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ꜱᴏ ᴍᴇᴀɴ. ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴡᴇʀᴇ ᴛᴇʟʟɪɴɢ ᴍᴇ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ᴏꜰ ʜᴏᴡ ɪ ʟᴏᴏᴋ. ᴛʜᴇʏ'ʀᴇ ꜱᴀʏɪɴɢ ᴅɪꜱɢᴜꜱᴛɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ. ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴡᴇʀᴇ ᴄᴀʟʟɪɴɢ ᴍᴇ ᴀ ʙɪʙʟᴇ ʙᴀɪᴛ".

And so I told her, "Amelia if you decide to put yourself out there if you decide to have goals and dreams. Or you might decide to write things down and put them in your mirror. Eventually, somebody's going to find out that you have goals, and they might be mean about it, but you have to have the determination. You must know that "Hurt people, hurt people"...

So if you have goals, and you have a desire in your heart. You can put a couple of steps into play, it doesn't matter what other people say. You might not believe that you can lose a hundred pounds or fifty pounds. Maybe you want to be a coach to somebody. But if you can just take a step back and say, "It doesn't matter what other people say", "I'm going to do it no matter what", "I'm going to do the activities", "I'm going to take the action", "I'm going to do it consistently every single day"... I bet that if you do this, and you give yourself an adequate amount of time, no matter what anybody else says. Let's see if anything changes in your life...

Alright! Back to the book. The first thing he said was, "I want to bring awareness to you". The reason people don't hit their goals is that number one they're afraid. Number two they've got a poor self-image, which we're going to work on. That's why we read and talk about the power of our mindset. Number three, the reason people don't think they can achieve their goals is that there's no buy-in. He said, "I'm going to give you the specific tools, and the steps. But you have to do the work, it's not going to be handed to you. You will be able to work when you work, play when you play, and have your mindset not all over the place. We're going to be specific and focused".... The last thing he said was, "People don't know how". There should never be an excuse for not knowing how, maybe it's just a lack of direction. If you don't know how to do something, we have every single thing that we need, accessible at our fingertips. Even simply saying, "Siri, please tell me how to bake this cake"...

We keep on planning, but we must also take action

"I don't know how" really just means, "I need to take a little bit of time to go figure out how". There's YouTube, Google, there are pages like Keto Mom. It's not just mine, there are recipes, tips, and tricks everywhere. All it comes down to is, "I need to put into action what I'm learning, and I need the steps on how to do it". You need to be committed to yourself. You need to have the why behind what you're doing. And then you're going to have to put it into play...

ꜱᴏ ʜᴇʀᴇ'ꜱ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴠᴇʀʏ ꜰɪʀꜱᴛ ᴀᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ, ʜᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ɪᴛ'ꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀʙɪʟɪᴛɪᴇꜱ. ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴍᴀᴋᴇꜱ ᴀ ᴅɪꜰꜰᴇʀᴇɴᴄᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴛʜɪɴᴋɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ᴏᴜʀ ᴅɪʀᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ"... ʏᴏᴜ'ᴠᴇ ɢᴏᴛ ᴛᴏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʀɪɢʜᴛ ᴍɪɴᴅꜱᴇᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴡʜᴇʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ. ʜᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴀɴʏ ᴀᴍᴇʀɪᴄᴀɴꜱ ꜱᴘᴇɴᴅ ꜱᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ᴘʟᴀɴɴɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ᴡᴇᴅᴅɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ꜱᴘᴇɴᴅ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ᴘʟᴀɴɴɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴀɢᴇ". ʜᴇ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ɢɪᴠᴇꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪɴ ᴄᴏɴᴛᴇxᴛ, ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴡʜʏ ᴅᴏ ᴡᴇ ꜱᴘᴇɴᴅ ꜱᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ᴘʟᴀɴɴɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ɴᴏᴛ ʟᴏᴏᴋ ᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ʙɪɢɢᴇʀ ᴘɪᴄᴛᴜʀᴇ?...

Okay! Here are the things I need you to think about. "Number one, have you written out your goals?". Have you written them down? As you're shopping, wrapping gifts, laying in bed, as you get ready in the mornings, doing your makeup, or cooking. What are you doing with your time? I want you to think about your goals and what is in your heart? What have you always been wanting to learn and achieve? You need to start writing them down. That's going to be the number one action step. He said, "Have you spelled out the details of why you want to do each of these goals?". What are your goals? Why do you want to do them? And what are the obstacles that you might have to overcome?.

ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴛᴏᴍᴏʀʀᴏᴡ ᴏɴ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ ᴛᴡᴏ, ʙᴜᴛ ʜᴇʀᴇ'ꜱ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ ᴏɴᴇ, "ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ. ꜱᴛᴇᴘ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ ᴏɴᴇ ɪꜱ ᴡʀɪᴛɪɴɢ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ᴏʀ ʜᴀᴠᴇ"... ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ɪᴛ! ɴᴏ ᴛʜɪɴᴋɪɴɢ ᴏꜰ, "ʜᴏᴡ ᴀᴍ ɪ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ ɪᴛ", "ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴀꜰꜰᴏʀᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ", ᴏʀ "ɪᴛ ᴡɪʟʟ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ʜᴀᴘᴘᴇɴ". ᴀʟʟ ɪ'ᴍ ᴀꜱᴋɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪꜱ ɢᴇᴛ ᴏᴜᴛ ᴀ ᴘɪᴇᴄᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴘᴀᴘᴇʀ ᴏʀ ᴀ ᴊᴏᴜʀɴᴀʟ, ɪ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ʜɪɢʜʟʏ ʀᴇᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴅ ɢᴇᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛᴇʙᴏᴏᴋ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ɪɴ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇꜱᴛ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ʏᴇᴀʀ. ᴀɴᴅ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ᴏʀ ʜᴀᴠᴇ.
Start writing those goals down

That's it! I just want you to write it down. What do you want to do? What do you want to achieve? What do you want to have? The reason you need to write it down is, "Because writing requires greater concentration which moves what you have written into a subconscious mind"... You have to write them down, that's all I'm going to ask you to do. So I've given you one action step, write your goals. What do you want to do? What do you want to achieve? What do you want to have? Who's committed?

I am actually going to do it. I'm going to show you that I've started it. And remember how I told you, I don't dream big enough? Well, I don't. I went through this the other day, and here's what's on my list. I've been talking about this for a long time, and it's about writing my own book. But the book isn't going to actually be a written book. I'm going to do live videos, and I'm going to speak the book that I want to write. We're going to turn it into a podcast and then we're going to write the book, from the live videos.

ꜱᴏ ɪ ᴡʀᴏᴛᴇ ᴅᴏᴡɴ, "ʟɪᴠᴇ ᴠɪᴅᴇᴏꜱ ᴘᴏᴅᴄᴀꜱᴛ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴀ ʙᴏᴏᴋ". ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ. ɪ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ʙᴜꜱɪɴᴇꜱꜱ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ꜰɪɴᴀɴᴄɪᴀʟ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏᴜʀ ꜰᴀᴍɪʟʏ. ɪ ᴡʀᴏᴛᴇ ᴅᴏᴡɴ, ɢᴇᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴀ ʜᴏʀꜱᴇ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏᴜʀ ᴅᴀᴜɢʜᴛᴇʀ, ᴋɪᴛᴄʜᴇɴ ʀᴇɴᴏᴠᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱ, ᴀ ꜰʟᴏʀɪᴅᴀ ᴛʀɪᴘ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴍʏ ꜰᴀᴍɪʟʏ. ᴍʏ ᴇʟᴅᴇꜱᴛ ᴅᴀᴜɢʜᴛᴇʀ ᴡᴀɴᴛꜱ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴀ ʙᴏᴏᴋ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇʟᴘ ʜᴇʀ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴀᴛ. ᴏᴜʀ ʏᴏᴜɴɢᴇꜱᴛ ᴅᴀᴜɢʜᴛᴇʀꜱ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɢʀᴇᴀᴛ ᴀᴛ ᴛᴇɴɴɪꜱ.

There are just things, and when I wrote them down I told myself, "Alright! I can do all of these things because they've already been in my heart. But what else do I want?" I'm still figuring that out... He's going to have you write everything down. We're going to talk about "Why" you have them written down. We're going to talk about eliminating some things that might not be great to focus on this year. We're going to make sure that they're not hurting anybody else. And he wants to make sure they're balanced. Like if I had all of my goals, and every single one of my goals was 24/7 focused on our business, what do you think is lacking? That would be the relationship with my kids, my spouse, and probably some other things that I might have missed out on.

When writing your goals, you have to balance it out

ʜᴇ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ'ꜱ ᴀ ᴘᴏɪɴᴛ ᴡʜᴇʀᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ɴᴇᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ʟᴏᴏᴋ ᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ꜰɪᴠᴇ ꜱᴘᴏᴋᴇꜱ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʟɪꜰᴇ. ᴀꜱ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴡʀɪᴛɪɴɢ ᴏᴜᴛ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ, ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ꜰᴀᴛ ʟᴏꜱꜱ. ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴅᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀɴʏ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱʜɪᴘ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʏᴏᴜʀ ꜱᴘᴏᴜꜱᴇ ᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴋɪᴅꜱ? ᴏʀ ᴍᴀʏʙᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅ? ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴍᴀʏʙᴇ ꜰɪɴᴀɴᴄɪᴀʟ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ ᴏʀ ᴘʜʏꜱɪᴄᴀʟ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ, ᴡʜɪᴄʜ ɪꜱ ᴡʜʏ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴀʟʟ ʜᴇʀᴇ. ᴍᴀʏʙᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ꜱᴘɪʀɪᴛᴜᴀʟ, ᴏʀ ᴇᴠᴇɴ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴀʟ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ...

I wish I could do this for you. I was thinking today, I really should have been a counselor. I would have loved to do that, just talk online. I think there are a lot of things I actually would have loved to do. I really would have loved to have been a baby nurse, but it is what it is. Now you can walk other people through the things that maybe you have not done in your life. Just because somebody told you couldn't, you shouldn't, or that you wouldn't be able to accomplish it...

ᴏᴋᴀʏ! ꜱᴏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴀᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ. ɢᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ. ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ, ʜᴏᴡ ᴀᴍ ɪ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ, ᴏʀ ʜᴏᴡ ᴀᴍ ɪ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴀꜰꜰᴏʀᴅ ɪᴛ? ɴᴏɴᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴀᴛ. ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪꜱ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴅᴇꜱɪʀᴇ, ɢᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛᴜɴᴇ ʙᴀᴄᴋ ɪɴ ᴛᴏᴍᴏʀʀᴏᴡ. ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴏɴᴛɪɴᴜᴇ ᴛᴀʟᴋɪɴɢ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ "ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ" ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏʀɴɪɴɢ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴄᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴛʜᴇ ʀᴇᴘʟᴀʏꜱ ᴛᴏᴏ...

So I hope you have an incredible day, and I appreciate you all. I should probably drink my protein shake and have to get ready to go worship tonight. We're doing Christmas Eve service, we're going to be doing Christmas songs like Silent Night, Oh Holy Night, Joy to the world, all of those songs for Christmas. It's going to be great. I appreciate you all, continue to reach out. I'm here to help and I hope you have a wonderful evening!

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