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"WINNING THE WAR IN YOUR MIND" (Chapter 4): Cross Wires in your Brain | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Oct 11, 2021

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You have to have an awareness, it's going to feel weird, it's going to get uncomfortable. You're going to have to realize that this is the rut that you are in, and you don't want to be in anymore. You're here to learn to create a new habit and to create a new neurological pathway. In the beginning, it can feel awkward but if you recognize the pattern and the rut that you're in, you're going to start creating new pathways and new ways of doing things with consistency overtime.

Points to Ponder

02:14 Mindful Mornings

02:51 Speaking Positivity of Ourselves

02:56 Rewire our Brain

03:31 Creating Neural Pathways

04:13 Unconscious Competence

05:46 Triggered an Automatic Response

06:01 Have an Awareness

07:46 Create a New Neurological Pathway

09:17 Consistency Overtime

09:42 Create New Systems and Habits

10:57 Break the Pattern

11:31 Time to Implement

11:36 Action Step for Today

12:13 All of this Takes Time

14:30 How to Get Started

Full Episode Transcript

Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. Today, we are talking about the crossed wires in your brain. We're on chapter four of "Winning the War in your Mind" by Craig Groeschel. So as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? I feel like we might have to cut this chapter in half, and maybe we'll have to do that for the rest of the book. There's some really great insights and content and things to think about, and I've realized we've been going through it really fast. So my apologies, because the book is incredible.

Welcome to day 4 of our Book 5 session
And it takes time to have an awareness of where you're at, and to actually take into account, to pay attention to the words that you're speaking, the things that you're saying, and what it truly means to rewire your brain.

And so I'm going to go through chapter four, I don't think I'm going to go through the whole thing. We will probably go through part of it, to make sure we understand it. It's not too long, but still, how do you feel? As you're going through books, do you feel like reading a chapter a day is a lot or do you feel like you can keep up? Okay, so who's reading the book and who's following along? Is it helpful? I want to know if you feel like the mindful mornings are helpful. Alright, so we've already gone through three of the chapters of this book. And the basic concept of really having an awareness of what's going on in your mind. Because if we get your mindset right, and we understand why we look at situations, why we believe the things that we do, why we speak the certain words over our lives, we are going to be able to rewire that.

So that we do believe that we can do this, we do have confidence in ourselves, we're speaking positivity of ourselves and others. It's really all an awareness, and how we rewire our brain to understand that, that was a lie and I need to put a truth in my mind, So chapter four is talking about cross wiring and understanding why our brain works a specific way. So if you're brand new, we're doing a book club in the morning. This book is from a pastor, and he talks about how it's biblical and scientific. Chapter four is a lot about science, and he talks about the way your brain works. He talks about creating neural pathways, and why when you do habits, it's like a dog in a yard that runs around the yard in a specific pattern and all of the grass in the pattern that the dog runs over, dies.

Same concept of your brain, when your brain does a certain habit for so long, it creates a neural pathway. It creates a rut, and then you do it all the time. So you might be asking, "I don't know why I get up every morning and grab a soda", "I don't know why I do these specific habits"...
Why do we do things over and over again?

It's because the longer you do something, the easier it gets. The more you do it out of unconscious competence, and you just do it. So you have to get comfortable with saying "I realized that's a rut, and I need to change it"... He shares a lot of stories, and basically the question is "Why do we lack the power to live the way we want, and why do we often make so many irrational and self defeating decisions?", "Why do you grab the donut, why do you hit your alarm clock?", "Why do you choose to go through the drive thru instead of eating the bag lunch you packed?", "Why do we try so hard to change but we end up doing the things that we hate?", "Why do you decide to commit to stop arguing with your spouse, and then keep arguing?", "Why do we worry non stop, when we decided we're not going to worry?"... So he goes through lots of different things. "Why do you decide that you are going to lose weight, you are going to get healthy. And then you find yourself grabbing a soda and a candy bar at the gas station?"...

There are common threads, common themes and things that you've done in your mind. And you've done over and over again, like you go to the gas station, you've been going there for years. You automatically walk in and you grab the candy bar and the soda. Even though you said an hour earlier that you are going to be on a diet. You went to the gas station, it triggered an automatic response. You go in, you grab it, you get home, you eat it, and you're realize you were suppose to be on a diet. It's that neuro pathway that he talks about in the book.

So you have to have an awareness, it's going to feel weird, it's going to get uncomfortable. You're going to have to realize that this is the rut that you are in, and you don't want to be in anymore.

He says "The reason you make these poor decisions is because of how our brains work. So we need a solution that works with the way that we think. We have to not only recognize the unhealthy patterns, but we also have to figure out the problem and stop the problem. What is the rut, and we're going to figure out how to stop it. If we want to win the war in our minds, we have to be willing to rewrite our thought patterns and rewire our brain"... Are you willing to do that? Is there anything that you can think of right now that you naturally do, that you find yourself in a rut?

It's having the awareness that you want to change
What is something that you do all the time, that it's become a habit and you don't want to do it anymore. "We all know what being in a rut is like. Thinking the same thoughts, doing the same things, experiencing the same problems. It's like we are hopelessly entrenched in the mud"...

And we want to change it, you're on here for a reason. You're probably not in here just to watch, you're probably on here to learn how to eat keto. To learn how to eat low carb, or for somebody to tell you drink more water or put down the pop. Here's an idea of some recipes and meals. Here's a good breakfast, here's a good lunch and a good dinner. Stop snacking, stop eating when you're not hungry. You're here to learn those things, and now you have to do them over and over again, to create a new habit and to create a new neurological pathway. Alright he says "Let's talk about how the brain works"... He goes through the entire brain process. It's super interesting, you'll have to get the book if you want to read that part.

"This is why thinking new thoughts and trying new things is awkward because you feel awkward when you're doing it"...

An example would be, how many of you have heard me say take the buns off your burgers, the croutons off the salad or grab a lettuce wrap... And how many of you on your very first try, you ordered a burger with no bun, and it felt weird. Maybe all of your friends are sitting around, your family members and you're eating the burger with no bun, it felt awkward. The bun is missing, and your family thought you were weird. Or you decided you are not going to have the fries, instead you are going to have some vegetables. "Hey, I'm going to eat a little differently", "Nope, we're not going to go out this week, we're going to make our food", "Sorry coworkers, I have goals, I'm going to stay in the office. And where you go grab pizza, I'm going to eat my bag lunch"...

In the beginning, it can feel awkward but if you recognize the pattern and the rut that you're in, it will feel awkward for a period of time but you're going to start creating new pathways.
Believe in the power of Mindset

You're going to start creating new ways of doing things, and eventually with consistency overtime, you will create neural pathways. To automatically take the buns off the burgers, ordering your salad with no croutons and dressing on the side, grabbing a protein and a vegetable, packing your lunch, and not going into the gas station at all. Because you've stopped the habit, and you are aware. Now we're going to create new systems and habits that might be uncomfortable, but long term, will serve you better.

And so, if you haven't figured this out, and you've been reading the books with us for the last three months, they all have the basic concept. It's having an awareness of what you're doing. You're going to stop what you're doing, and we're going to start creating new habits. Not out of perfection, but by learning. He said "You were designed to smoothly, effectively create and fall into habits"... Now it's up to you which habits you're going to create. There's things you do automatically like brushing your teeth and overeating. Some serve you, some are good for you, and you have to be able to pick out the ones that are not serving you...

You know what, were probably fine going through this chapter, but we might have to take the next chapters and really break them down. Because he's going to start helping you rewire your brain. He says "Unless we decide to break the pattern, our lives will continue moving in the wrong direction"... And so I love at the end of each chapter, he gives you action steps and exercises. He says "Time to start recognizing the ruts that you're in"... So it gives you some space to write and then we're going to start going into what do we have to do to replace the lie, the rut, or the bad habit with a truth. This last chapter was all about awareness, as in most chapters, and the other books are the same. Having the awareness, having the understanding, and now it's time to implement and stop doing those things.

So my action step for you today is, we've been working on paying attention to the words that we tell ourselves. The lies that we tell ourselves, what are the natural habits that you do, because you just naturally do them, but they're not serving you.
The key is to take Action on what you have learned

So when you leave the house, or maybe you work from home, pay attention to when you're eating. Pay attention to what you're eating, why are you eating it and are you hungry. It's a habit the clock says to eat, do you always go through the drive thru because it's something that you do. Do you not take time to plan your week, so then naturally, you run behind.

All of this takes time, and all of it takes you stepping back and looking at all of the actions that you do and why you do them. You are not going to naturally fall into healthy habits. You have to decide, you have to be intentional, you're going to have to get focused, and you're going to have to have the awareness of what you're doing.

And then decide to be done with that, to make a pivot. We're going to go in new direction. All of the books that we have been reading, have the same overlying overview of what you have to do. We have to create new habits, we've got to create new systems, we have to become aware, we've got to have the discipline. And you have to decide, because you will not naturally choose to be healthy, you are naturally going to choose what's comfortable. So my question to you is, "Are you ready?"... Only you can answer that. I can't make you do it, I can only give you things to think about and then you have to decide. So I hope this book is helpful. You can always reach out and ask questions.

If you want a basic foods list, I have a basic list with a video of how I started six years ago. Post food in the comments, I would love to give that to you. If you want to ask me specific questions, just send me a message. I would love to have a conversation with you. I would love to know what your goals are, so reach out. You're never going to get your questions answered if you don't ask them. The power of asking question, you never know if somebody would give you all you need to do. So yes, post food in the comments when I'm done. I will come back to you and send you a message of how I got started. It's pretty basic, it's not a secret. I don't feel like there's a one size fits all in this lifestyle. I truly feel like it's going to be looking at your habits, what's going to work for you. I'll give you some ideas. I'll show you the basic overview of drinking more water, some breakfast ideas, having an awareness of how to get started. So I hope that's helpful, and I hope you guys have an incredible morning. Continue to tune into the page for lots of different keto tips and tricks.

And I will talk to you later, have a wonderful day.

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