"𝗜𝗳 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴" ~𝗔𝗻𝗱𝘆 𝗔𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗲𝘄𝘀
Hey everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page, my name is Stephanie. We are going to talk about Chapter 1: The Buck Stops Here. What does that mean? We're going through this book called "The Seven decisions".
Somebody messaged me today, and she was just not in the right space. She was not happy, and her life was not great. The question is, "What did you read today?"
I hear you, you fell off the wagon, and things aren't going the way that you want them to go. Your mindset is not great, and you don't feel great about yourself. Okay, so what are you reading? What are you listening to? I told her to stop what she was doing and go read or listen to podcasts. Go put in some worship music, sit down, be quiet for a moment, and gather your thoughts.
You're choosing the thoughts you have right now, which will ultimately result in a bad day if you keep going down that route.
So you have an awareness, and gather yourself for a little bit. What do you need to say to yourself? What do you need to push behind you? What do you need to give yourself? This book is great because each chapter gives you a decision or a thought as you go throughout your day.
Chapter 1: The Responsible Decision.
"If decisions are choices, and our thinking dictates our decisions. Then we are where we are because of our thinking"...
Do you believe you are where you are now because of your thinking? I 100% believe that. How you think is a result of how you feel. It creates action, it creates what you do throughout your day, and then that ultimately will be your results.
The phrase of the day that I want you to think about it, "The buck stops here! We're done right now!".
"I am responsible for my past and my future. The buck stops here! The responsible decision is always about owning our own power. In a way, our choices have made us where we are today. And fundamentally our thinking, the internal lens through which we see the world, creates a pathway to success or failure".
So you didn't grow up in a great home. You were told you're always going to be fat, or big-boned. You were told it's in your family, it's hereditary, or that you will never amount to anything. People have these things in their minds, I understand.
This chapter is all about you, you're all done!
Done with the victim mentality
Done with blaming the past
Done with unforgiveness
You've got to stop it! The buck stops here!
I'm going to forgive
I'm going to choose to be done with the past
I'm not going to live in the past
I'm not going to blame, shame, or justify anything in my past for where I am today
It stops now and I'm going to have complete awareness and ownership of where I'm going. I do believe that part of the reason people are where they are today and where they're going, is that they're constantly living in thoughts of "I will never", or "I didn't get this in the past".
It's this past mentality of how they were treated, and it might have been terrible. There are things that happened in your life, or somebody else's life that should have never happened. But as an adult, there is an option of seeking counsel, getting help, and not being able to forget, but forgive. And if you're wanting better in your life, you have to be able to move forward.
Oftentimes, our past sits right here, which creates our thinking, our actions, and our results.
"To accept responsibility for our choices includes becoming aware of an accepting responsibility for our thinking. Decisions are an outward expression of our thinking".
All you have to do is listen and watch somebody. I do it all the time, and I'm not
judging but I can tell where they're at mentally or even spiritually by just watching them. Watch somebody's fruit, watch their outward decisions, watch how they're living their life, in a non-judgmental way, and you can tell most likely where they're at with their mindset.
"Most people agree that their decisions have guided them to where they are today. If you want to create a pathway to success, you have to dream of it, rather than the reality you are currently experiencing. You've got to change your thinking".
"If you are in a bad place financially, physically, emotionally, socially, or spiritually, what does that tell you? Think about it, nobody sets out to fail. Nobody says 'I'm going to get up and have a very bad day and make bad decisions every single day". Instead, 'I'm going to figure this out".
"And yet often, we end up in a horrible place in spite of ourselves. How does this happen? In many cases, our thinking gets a hold of us. The primary way our thinking must change is to realize that we are responsible for where we are right now and where we are going".
"If we are responsible for where we are, we have hope. We are responsible for where we are, and then we can be responsible for where we are going. By disowning our responsibility for our present, we are giving power away and denying ourselves our incredible future".
"What thoughts do you have on a regular basis that may be leading you to be unhappy in your mind? Very often, these are thoughts that form a question of defeat, for example, why am I so fat?"
"It's not the question that will help you understand what steps to take towards the change in your situation. However, 'How can I enjoy sculpting my ideal body and reclaiming my energy?'. Changing the question will move you in a direction where you want to go".
"What questions do you habitually have to ask yourself in order to grow?"
A lot of this is an awareness of what's going on in your mind. I've got a great group of friends, and if any of us says anything negative, we call each other out. The other day, one of my girlfriends said "This is always going to be this way. I hate it!". And I and we all looked at her and asked, "Is that what you're believing for?"...
If you're saying it will always be this way, then it's always going to be this way. If you say things that are negative, is that what you're believing? Is that what you're really wanting? If you sit and pay attention to what you're thinking about, and the words that are coming out of your mouth, you can really see where somebody's going to go.
Your words and your thoughts are powerful. They're going to ultimately guide you in a direction of negative or positive. You've got to have an awareness of that.
"My mind will not dwell in the problems of the past, it will live in the solutions of the future".
So we're going to stop there because I didn't realize how long this chapter was. If you just need one thing to ponder on today, "The buck stops here". What are you blaming, shaming, or justifying from your past? Even if it's just physically how you look? Where do you need to have awareness? Where do you need to take responsibility? Who do you need to forgive?
Sometimes people feel they can never forget what happened to them. You probably won't forget, but there's an aspect of letting your heart forgive and letting go. You're an adult, you're going to own this and move forward. You might need counseling or you might need to find mentors. But you need to truly work on forgiveness.
Alright! I hope we've helped somebody out there. You can also go to ketomomsecrets.com, that's our blog. We've got recipes, we've got a book club, and we've got ketones.
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