Updated: Mar 19
"𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗼𝗳 𝗷𝗼𝘆, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗱𝗮𝘆" ~𝗝𝗼𝗵𝗻 𝗠𝗮𝘅𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹
Full Episode Transcript:
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie. I hope you're having an incredible Friday morning. We're diving into chapter three of this book, "The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth" by John Maxwell. Usually every morning we go through a book to help you with your mindset and in all areas of your life. We've been going through books since April. This whole page is about fat loss, ketones, keto, low-carb recipes, and mindset. Whether you have the book or you don't have the book, it's completely fine.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝘂𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝗻, 𝗵𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗮 𝗴𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘁, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.
If you were on my text message campaign, I send out inspirational text messages in the morning. I was listening to a podcast about focus, and he said most people let the world and their day control them. Between all of the books that we've gone through since April, the common theme is that your mindset is important. Owning your morning, owning your day, being intentional and focused on what you want in life. Because if you don't, then the world will tell you when you're going to do things and what you're going to do.
"𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗮𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗶𝗿𝗿𝗼𝗿"
'"𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗱𝗱 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳"
You might be the best encourager to other people. You might have great words of encouragement, and you can see value in others. But if you aren't working on your mindset, and you don't see it in yourself, the likelihood of you reaching your goals is unlikely.
What does that mean? He said, "I've often asked myself what keeps people from being successful in any area of their life. I believe all people have seeds of success within them. All they need to do is cultivate those seeds, water them, feed them and they will begin to grow.
That is why I've spent my life trying to add value to people. I love to see people blossom. So why do so many people fail to grow and reach their own personal potential? I've concluded that one of the main reasons is low self-esteem, most people don't believe in themselves"...
𝗥𝗔𝗧𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳:
10 = I 100% believe I can do it
1 = there is no self-esteem here.
If you wanted to rate yourself publicly, what would you rate yourself, where's your self-esteem?
So he talked about "How self-esteem is the single most significant key to a person's behavior. We can do very few things in a positive way if we feel negative about ourselves. No factor is more important in a person's psychological development and motivation and the value judgments they make about themselves. Every aspect of their lives is impacted by the way that we see ourselves"...
𝗗𝗶𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂? 𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁. 𝗪𝗲'𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗴𝗼𝘁 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗺.
I'm going to give you five steps today and then I'll give you five steps tomorrow. By the way, I was not able to draw names for book giveaways yet, but I've sent out all the books that I did draw names for. I think I mailed out ten books so far this week, and I'll be mailing out some more. If you want to join, just press the share button and let me know you shared.
Going back he said, "The value we place on ourselves is usually the value others place on us. A man went to a fortune teller to hear what she had to say about his future. She looked into the crystal ball and she said you will be poor and unhappy until you are 45 years old.
And the man said, 'Oh, what's going to happen after that?' Ask the man hopeful. And 'Then you'll just get used to it.
I'm sorry to say that that's the way most people live their lives according to what others believe about them. If the important people in their lives expect them to go nowhere, then that's what they expect for themselves. That's fine if you're surrounded by people who believe in you. But what if you're not surrounded by people that believe in you?"...
𝗜𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁, 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳?
Is it worth it? Only you can answer that...
He said, "You shouldn't become too concerned about what others might think of you. You should be more concerned about what you think of yourself. You don't have to accept what others say. Here are the steps to build your self-image. If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will put a small price tag on you as well".
１０ Ｓｔｅｐｓ ｉｎ
１． Ｇｕａｒｄ Yｏｕｒ
This is one of the most important things even our family talks about in our home, the power of guarding yourself talk. Your words are powerful, it is biblical and scientific. If you're speaking negatively towards somebody or yourself, your words are powerful and they bring either life or death. Do you encourage yourself? Do you bring yourself down? That is ultimately going to decide the choices that you make in your life, so always guard yourself talk.
He said, "If we want to change our lives, we have to change the way that we think of ourselves. And if we want to change the way we think of ourselves, we need to change the way that we talk to ourselves"
𝗣𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲, 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗮𝗿𝗰𝗮𝘀𝗺.
I love to be funny and joke, but I actually seriously hate sarcasm. My husband heard this from our CEO or maybe somebody else. "There's always a little bit of truth in what people say"... People will say something and then go, "Oh, I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding". There's always a little bit of truth in what you say. Whether you say it out of sarcasm, or just trying to be funny. Your words are powerful, watch what you say...
He said, "You need to learn to become your own encourager and cheerleader. Every time you do a good job, don't just let it pass. Give yourself a compliment. Every time you choose discipline overindulgence, don't tell yourself that you should have done it anyway. Recognize how much You've been helping yourself and how far you've come. Every positive thing that you can say to yourself will help"
２． Ｓｔｏｐ Cｏｍｐａｒｉｎｇ
"𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗼𝗳 𝗷𝗼𝘆, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗱𝗮𝘆"
３． Ｍｏｖｅ ｂｅｙｏｎｄ
"𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗼, 𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼. 𝗔𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁. 𝗜𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗻𝗲. 𝗗𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲, 𝗮𝗰𝘁, 𝗼𝗿 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗮𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝘄𝗮𝘆"...
You get to decide, you get to speak the words over yourself. You need to be your number one encourager, I'm not going to say that it's easy because it's not. And there are different things you can learn like watching your words, not letting other people decide your choices, or not comparing yourself, but staying in your own lane. Even if that means you stop following certain people.
I tell people on our team in our business world, if you can't follow somebody to learn from them, and you're only following them to compare yourself, you're jealous, or it makes you envious.
Do you want what they have, and it brings you anger? Then you don't really need to unfriend those people, but maybe you need to hide that person for a little bit. Because usually what bothers you is about you.
So you need to get your own mental state under control. Your own desires, your focus and you need to stay in your lane. It doesn't mean that person is wrong or boastful, we're not going to judge that person. But you need to stay in your own lane and focus on what you want. Sometimes you need to not watch anybody for a little while to figure yourself out.
If you're not watching people learn from them, then you need to remove that. Go to where there's truth and figure this out. You do you.
４． Ａｄｄ ｖａｌｕｅ
"𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲".
If you feel like you're lacking something throughout the day like you feel you need a hug because your love language is PHYSICAL TOUCH. By the way, do you know what your love languages are?
"Ｔｈｅ Ｆｉｖｅ Ｌｏｖｅ Ｌａｎｇｕａｇｅｓ"，
ᴵᵗ'ˢ ᵗʰᵉ ʷᵃʸ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ʸᵒᵘ ᶠᵉᵉˡ ˡᵒᵛᵉᵈ ᵒʳ ᵛᵃˡᵘᵉᵈ
Words of Affirmation
Acts of service
This is very important in marriages. Usually, we do what we want but if you keep trying to serve your husband and that's not filling his cup, then you need to back up and think. Because it might be your love language, but that's not exactly what he loves. I'm telling you all of this because if you want something, then finding out what people want is also important. I've read somewhere that if you want a hug, go give a hug. If you need some quality time, or just need some time with somebody, then go do something for somebody else. That's how you add value to others.
５． Ｄｏ ｔｈｅ ｒｉｇｈｔ
ｔｈｉｎｇ， ｅｖｅｎ ｉｆ
𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿, 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁, 𝘀𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁𝘆.
Alright! We're going to go into the last five steps tomorrow because that was a lot to cover. But if there's one thing that I tell people to truly focus on, that can change everything in your life, besides reading and working on your mindset, it's paying attention to the words that are coming out of your mouth, not sarcasm.
The things that you're speaking to your spouse, your children, your job, or your boss. Shut your mouth, you've got two ears and one mouth. If you're not going to say something that's going to add value to yourself or anybody be around you then don't say it, especially to yourself. Just stop it because that's not true, it's actually trash...
My family, for the longest time, play a game in our home called "Truth or Trash". My mentor, Sherry, made this little game, and they played it with their kids.
I haven't necessarily played the game with our girls. But sometimes when they're saying things and I ask them, "Is that true or not?"
You can do this with your kids too. Start identifying the words that are coming out of your mouth and in your family, or the people around you, like your friends and coworkers.
We even do that with things that we're watching, music, we're listening to, and all the other things that we're putting into our minds. There is truth and there is definitely trash. It's very important to be able to identify that and to stop it before you speak it.
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