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Take Control Of Your Destiny (The Noticer by Andy Andrews)

    "If you logically know that the doubts or the fears in your life should not even be in your head, the easiest way to defeat the fear, worry, or doubts is with logic". ~ Andy Andrews

Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, and we are going through the book called "The Noticer" by Andy Andrews.

"It's time to stop letting your history control your destiny".

This book is not a step-by-step book, instead, the book is in story form. It's going to give you perspective to help you in a lot of different areas in your life.

In the book, the fictional character named Jones is coaching different people in different chapters. For today's chapter, Jones is talking about the man he is coaching, who is always worried, afraid, and living in his past life. This person is allowing his past to define his future.

And I wonder if maybe that's you...

Are you allowing your past to dictate, rule, or control the things that you do or don't do?

I'm not going to read the entire chapter to you, but I'll give you an overview. I love the logical thinking that this chapter gives you. It's all about worry, fear, and letting your history control your future.

𝗝𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗮𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱.

So Jones told the man that very smart people worry sometimes. "If you weren't smart, you wouldn't worry. But don't worry, because we're going to learn how to beat worry and fear. We're going to beat your past or the things that happened in your history. And we're going to learn how to beat it with logic"...

"If you logically know that the doubts or the fears in your life should not even be in your head, the easiest way to defeat the fear, worry, or doubts is with logic".

"40% of the things that you worry about will never come to pass. 30% of the things that you worry about have already happened in the past, and all the worries in the world aren't going to change the things that have already happened. I'm thinking that 12% of all these worries have to do with needless imaginings about our health".

So for example, the man in the book was constantly worrying about something. We often run these kinds of stories in our heads...

  • My leg hurts

  • My mom died of this, so I will die of this.

  • My family has this, so I'm going to have this.

  • My grandma had this, so I'm going to get it.

I am shocked at how many people speak death of their life because somebody in their family had it, and it's in their history.

You have to understand the power of your words, biblically and also, scientifically. The Bible said, "Your words have the power of life and death". There is also the science behind it. Years ago, we did a homeschool experiment where in we placed rice in 3 different jars.


𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗦𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀.

For the 1st jar, we placed it somewhere by itself and we didn't do anything to it.

For the 2nd jar, we talked positively about it. We said things like, "You're so healthy rice", or "You're doing so great rice".

And for the 3rd jar, we spoke negatively about it. We said things like, "You're never going to amount to much", or you could speak however you want to because I don't cuss.

We did this over the course of 5-6 weeks, and we saw a significant increase in mold growth in the 3rd rice jar, which received a lot of negative talks.
You can actually look this up on the internet. So in conclusion, we saw the least amount of molds in the jar that we spoke positively to.

𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁.

I spoke life over one plant, death over the other, and both plants got what they were spoken of.

So wherever you fall in your beliefs, I believe that your words are powerful. Part of this chapter is about what you're believing in, the things that are going through your mind, and if these things are run by fear, worry, or things of the past.

If you're constantly speaking negatively about yourself, then don't be surprised if you get exactly that. But if you can stop yourself, then stop it.

40% of worries and fears will never happen. 30% have already happened and you're just playing it over and over in your head. 12% of them are things that you're worried about because of your history.
"10% would be about petty little things, or worrying about what other people think".

How many of you do that? How many of you worry about what others are going to think of you? That's only 10% which actually shocked me, I thought it would be more.

"8% is for legitimate concerns. It should be noted that these legitimate 8% concerns are things that you actually can deal with".

So Jones recommended getting a piece of paper and write things down. It's like brainstorming or a brain dump. Some people suggest you should do a brain dump at the end of the night before you go to bed. Some people say to do it in the morning to help your mind be at ease and figure out what are your actual concerns in life and the things you need to do.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻-𝗱𝘂𝗺𝗽 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗱.

It could be things that you are task-oriented that you're worried about. Brain dump everything on a piece of paper so you can identify which things are silly, and which ones are part of the 8% that need to get done.

"A person consumed by worry can focus. A person who is worried or afraid can actually focus, but they're focusing on the wrong things. Worry is the focus".

But if you're worried, afraid, and running those stories from the past or your history, then you can completely focus but you're just focused on the wrong area. And that's what you're probably going to get.

"From this point on, you will focus on what you can control. And you will no longer focus on being sad or worried. Focus on being grateful. The seeds of depression cannot take root in a grateful heart".

So then Jones talked about getting up in the morning and writing down the things that are running through your mind.
  • Why am I not taking action on certain things?

  • Am I allowing worry and fear to run my life?

𝗪𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀, 𝘀𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘃𝗶𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.
And then next to it, I want you to write down all of the things that you're thankful for.
Go crazy about writing the things that you were thankful for.

If you let worry and fear create a seed of depression in your life, it's going to create roots. And you're going to have to pluck those roots out. The longer you sit there with worry and fear, it's going to get deeper and deeper. And it's going to be harder and harder to pluck out.

"The seed of depression cannot take root or not stay in a heart of gratitude".

I want you to start right now. Just tell yourself, "I'm thankful". I'm going to tell you guys a crazy story. I had this weird moment last night when I was getting ready for bed. It's minuscule, but it has to do with the book. The power of your words is very important. Your thoughts depict how you see life and the things you focus on. A heart of gratitude can stop the root of depression. It can shift the direction and trajectory of your life.

So last night, as I was getting ready for bed. I looked in the mirror and I said, "Lord, thank you for my curly hair". That's all I said in my head. I was actually reminded of the words that I spoke over my hair my entire high school and early 20s. I used to fight my curly hair, and I remember throwing brushes across the room and yelling at my mom.

I've already got teenagers of my own, and I've already heard this from them too. So these things flooded into my mind last night in a split second.
𝗜 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿.

I used to complain about my curly hair when I was a young teen and in my early young adult life all the time. And then, around 2018 my hair started falling out because I had to work on some hormone stuff and I was super stressed out.

There were things in my life that year that stressed me out and I was pulling chunks of hair out. So our words are powerful, and I needed to go tell my daughters what I said during my teen years so they don't do the same. I hear my girls do the same, there are times when they complain about how they look.

So I ran out of the room at night, and I told my girls, "Girls, I gotta tell you something really quick. I looked in the mirror, and I just simply thanked the Lord for my hair that it has grown back".

These are examples of things that you might be running through your mind. It could be negativity, fear, or worry. Remember that the words that are coming out of your mouth are more than just a thought or a word. These are things that might control your life, and you're going to reap those words that you're speaking of.

You're might see that come to pass, whether you believe it's biblical or not, and science has proved it as well.

So I told my girls...

  • You were made for a reason.

  • You were made for a purpose.

  • You've got greatness inside of you.

  • I don't want to hear you complain out loud with your words.

𝗜 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀, 𝘀𝗼 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁.
  • I had to change the way I saw it.

  • I had to change the way that I viewed what I was blessed with.

  • I had to change the words that I was speaking over myself because it was not good.

I reaped the harvest of those words for years, and then I had to change it.

So if you're constantly calling yourself fat, or ugly, or you don't like how you look. Stop it! Even if you don't love where you're at today, how are you going to change it if you can't look at yourself and just simply love yourself?

The past hurts, and I know some things that people have spoken over you may be hurtful. Maybe you did not grow up in a great environment, or you didn't have people that loved you. But if you choose not to deal with these things, you're going to most likely live a life that you don't want.

You can choose to make things better by working on your mindset, being grateful, watching your words, and finding other people to encourage you.

You can learn to love yourself, so that you can be loving, caring, and encouraging to other people.

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