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Winning The War In Your Mind: Your Words Become Your Destiny

  "Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character it becomes your destiny". ~ Craig Groeschel

Welcome to the Keto Mom page! My name is Stephanie and we are going to dive into the conversation of "Repetition". We're going through this book called "Winning The War In Your Mind", by Craig Groeschel.

Repetition is a great thing, but if used on the wrong habits, clearly it creates the opposite.

"Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character it becomes your destiny".

So as you're tuning where you're tuning in from? I'm tuning in from my bedroom in Minnesota, and it's going to be an incredible Friday. The conversation is around repetition and the thoughts that you're believing.

"𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗲𝘁𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗿𝘂𝘁".

If you feel like you're in a rut, or you're not accomplishing the things that you want to. If you feel like you can't get out of it, or you can't change this habit. It's because you've probably done the same things over and over again.

So repetition can be great when you're working on building muscles, not going to the drive-thru, making lunches every morning, or planning your food every Sunday. Repeating good habits can get you good results. The same thing goes for bad habits.

"Repetition is the reason for a rut. You want to hear something fascinating? Increasing research proves that the way to get someone to believe a lie is to simply repeat the lie. Psychologists call this the Truth effect. It's been called a glitch in the human psyche".

"The reason we're so likely to believe something we hear repeatedly is because we use only 10% of our brain. Our inability to engage more of our brain capacity hinders us from distinguishing truth from mistruth. Except Guess what? We don't only use 10% of our brain. That is a lie. But a lie most people believe".

"𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻 𝗖. 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗱, 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁. 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗻, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁, 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁".

How many things are you believing as truth when they're actually a lie? It could be things that people have said to you over time. It could be things that you say to yourself or your mindset. The reason you are where you are today is probably because of the thoughts that you tell yourself, or the things that somebody has told you in the past that you say over and over again. That can create a rut in your brain.

You use more than 10% of your brain That's a lie, but it really creates these habits, systems, and these thoughts. And then you believe it so much that that's where you get stuck.

"How will you replace the old rut with a new pathway?"

If you've been following our story, our second daughter Emery was thrown from a horse. We've been working on some brain therapy for a long time. We're seeing a specialized doctor, and one of the things that the doctor is doing is recreating Emery's neural pathways.

She figured out some of Emery's fears and how she didn't believe in herself. The doctor is not only working on reversing the concussion, but we've been working on a lot of different things with Emery.

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹.

Every night before Emery goes to bed, she would do affirmations. She says things to redo her brain, and recreate the way she believes in herself, and the things that she's seeing, to eliminate fear, and to believe that she can do anything that she wants.

The things that she was fearing, things she felt she couldn't do, she couldn't achieve, and the lies she's been believing. We've been reversing that by giving her phrases, affirmations, and words to repeat over and over again. I think she has to repeat them until October, we're in a 90-day sprint.

I'm sharing all these things because it's real. That's what Emery has been doing, and what so many of you have been doing too, in the wrong way. You've been saying things like "I never", "I won't", "I can't", "I'll never be able to do that", "I will never look that way", and "I could never be that person", or "I could", "I won't", "I can't". These thoughts need to be stopped.

𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱.
"You're going to have to write it down, think it, and confess it until you believe it. That is going to get you out of that negative rut. There's a word I want you to actually remember".

Words are powerful! We talk about this with our kids all the time. We have been teaching our kids since they could talk. "Truth or Trash" and "Right or Wrong". We would play a game called Truth or trash. Anytime my kids would say something that wasn't true, I would ask them "Is that truth or trash?".

I've got teenagers and I've heard my girls say "I'm so ugly", "I hate my hair", "I hate", "I don't like". And I would ask them, "Is that truth or trash?", "Is that what you're believing for?".

What are the words that you're thinking, or what are the words coming out of your mouth towards other people in your life? Your words are powerful. Your words have the power of life and death. And even if you don't believe it, it's true.

I don't care if you don't believe it. It's legitimately the truth. You're going to reap the words that you are speaking over yourself, your kids, your spouse, and even your job.

𝗕𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗼𝗳. 𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲.
"Here's one word I want you to understand and the word is Automaticity.
Automaticity is the ability to do something without thinking about what you were doing. And then repeating it allows an action to become an unconscious automatic".

Just like going into the shower, we don't tell our brains what to do, because we automatically know. We go in the shower and our brains are actually walking us through, as we naturally automatically do all the things we need to do in the shower.

"Automaticity is also why we keep doing the things we don't want to do. Repetition has led us to negative, harmful things, becoming automatic".

I want you to think about the power of your words, how things can be automatic, and what you need to reverse in order for you to go further faster or to go forward. Watch your words. Pay attention to your thoughts. Recreate different pathways. Write it, say it, and believe it.

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗮 𝗽𝗶𝗲𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗮𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄.

I have a friend who tells herself every single day, "I am a disciplined person". I know in the past she wasn't, because she kept telling herself "I'm not a disciplined person", "I can't get up in the morning".

She might sometimes still think the same in her head, but she's writing it down and she's saying this one phrase every morning, "I'm a disciplined person". The more she says it and the more she writes it down, it's going to allow her to make better choices.

  • I'm a disciplined person, I'm going to go to the gym.

  • I'm a disciplined person, I'm not going to go to the drive-thru.

  • I'm a disciplined person, I'm going to get up in the morning instead of hitting the snooze five times.

Those are the things she's telling herself. And I can promise you, within the next 30,60, or 90 days, she will become a more disciplined person. You don't have to have this profound affirmation. You need to figure out the 1-2-3 things that you believe in and then say them out loud, even if it feels weird.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words.

Watch your words, they become your actions.

Watch your actions, they become your habits.

Watch your habits, they become your character.

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

"The journey to your destiny starts in your thoughts. The right thoughts lead to the right life.
Zig Ziglar says this, 'Repetition is the mother of learning and the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment'".

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹, 𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀.
Your thoughts and your words become your actions, and it becomes your life.

I feel like I say that over and over again. And yet, it takes me or other people saying things over and over again for it to finally click into somebody's brain. Your thoughts are powerful.

What are you watching? You might be watching something and think it's funny. But if you actually sat back and paid attention to the TV shows, the movies, and the music that you're listening to, you might second guess it. You might turn it off and realize what a waste of your life. It's supposed to be hilarious, but it actually is crude and disgusting.

𝗣𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼.
Because that creates your thoughts, that creates the words that are coming out of your mouth, that creates your actions, and that's what you're going to get in life.

Your words are powerful, and you are amazing. You can totally recreate those pathways by putting in better movies, better music, better thoughts, affirmations in words, better words, getting around different people, and changing your environment. It takes discipline, and I believe that you are a disciplined person. I believe that you have greatness inside of you. You were created by greatness for greatness. You just have to step into it.

If you need some help, send me a message and I would love to help you. I hope you have an incredible morning and an incredible day. Thank you for tuning in. You can visit for the Book club. I hope you guys have a great day. I appreciate you and we'll talk to you very soon.

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