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Winning The War In Your Mind: Introduction

Updated: Sep 9, 2022

    "Our thoughts shape our lives. In recent study, an entire discipline of modern Psychology has developed something called 'Cognitive Behavioral Therapy'. This breakthrough teaches and reveals that many problems from eating disorders, to relationship challenges, to addictions, to even some forms of depression and anxiety are rooted in faulty and negative patterns of thinking. Treating those patterns become the challenge and they work on their mindset". ~ Craig Groeschel. 

Hey everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page, my name is Stephanie. We are diving back into a book for the entire month, to help you with your mindset in the mornings.

We've actually already done this book before, but isn't it interesting how we sometimes need to listen to something more than once? For example, I was listening to a message from a pastor last night as I was doing laundry, and I was thinking to myself that I should write the message down because it was so good. And I thought I'll remember it in the morning, but then when I woke up this morning I could no longer remember what I wanted to write down. So now I have to go back and listen to the message again.

This page is called Keto Mom, so you probably would expect all things keto but that's actually not the case. You can also go to, it's our blog and you can check new recipes, how to get started, and our Book Club. I will still continue to share all things keto, low carb, and having a healthy lifestyle. But I am more passionate about areas other than the food that you're eating.

Because if you can get all of the other things right, the food will fall into place.

If you can understand the power of your mind, and your words and you have the awareness of how often you're eating, then you will find yourself making better choices. Your thoughts and the words you speak will depict if you choose healthy foods or junk foods.

And as I was going through my old bookshelf, my hope is to take a book that we can correlate with healthy living and mindset. I'm constantly looking at books and I have to make sure that it has something to do with shifting your mindset or shifting your belief. So we've done this book probably a year ago, and I'm going to do it again.

I go through books more than once to retain and understand them, and to be able to put action behind them.
𝗟𝗲𝘁'𝘀 𝗴𝗼 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲.

The book is called "Winning The War In Your Mind", by Craig Groeschel. You can tune in here, listen, and follow along. Or you can go to, click on the Book club and read the transcript here or go to Keto Mom on youtube and watch the past videos there. You can also get the book and read along with me. This book is incredible.

This book is powerful and if you truly want to change your life, in any area of your life. You should be taking notes, have a journal, or have a place where you write things down so when you have moments where you don't believe in yourself, you're frustrated, or you just want to remember the blessings, you can easily just go back to the things you've written down.

You can go back and remind yourself, so you can keep moving forward.
As I think, so I feel.
As I feel, so I do.
As I do, so I have.

"As I think", so my thoughts create feelings, good or bad. "As I feel so I do", which is the action. And "As I do, so I have", that's what I get.

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀.

It depicts if you choose junk food or healthy food. If you think positively, choose to have a great day, or get up and own your morning. If you get up and you have that kind of mindset, then you're going to feel better, choose better, and get better.

It can also be the opposite, like if you get up with a negative attitude, or if you feel that you will never do it. You will then feel like garbage because you choose to eat garbage, thinking it'll make you feel better but it doesn't. It will make you feel worse instead.

So you can just memorize little quotes to help you when you're in a bad mood, have bad moments, or have negative thoughts.

"Our lives are always moving in the direction of our strongest thoughts. What we think shapes who we are".

The way we think, what we put into our minds, the things we listen to, the things we watch, and the things we speak, shape our lives and they shape who we are.

"Our lives do follow the direction of our thoughts. Both the Bible and modern-day science provide evidence that this is true".

It provides evidence that your mind is powerful. So if you believe in the Bible, then that's true. But if you don't or you're not reading it, our modern-day science will tell you the same thing. They do tests, they watch the brain, and they watch the thought patterns. They have tested it, to see how your life is shifted and changed by the thoughts that you're thinking. So I'm going to give you some things to think about throughout your day.

𝗜𝗻 𝟭𝟬 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀, 𝘄𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗿𝗿𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗮𝘁 𝘂𝘀.
"That person will be shaped by the thoughts of today. The life we have is a reflection of what we think".
  • When you look at yourself in the mirror today think about this...

  • What am I thinking about?

  • What am I reflecting on?

  • What am I reading?

  • What am I learning?

  • Who am I learning from?

It's super powerful.

"Our thoughts shape our lives. In recent studies, an entire discipline of modern psychology has developed something called 'Cognitive behavioral therapy.
This breakthrough teaches and reveals that many problems from eating disorders, to relationship challenges, to addictions, to even some forms of depression and anxiety, are rooted in faulty and negative patterns of thinking.
Treating those patterns becomes the challenge and they work on their mindset".

The first thing they work on is changing the pattern, changing the thinking, and changing your mindset. If you've been going around the same mountain over and over again with your food and your health, not being able to lose the weight, and feeling whatever you're feeling.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘆𝘂𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀.

If you're going around the same mountain, you feel like nothing is working, and you're doing the same thing year after year, then you might need to take a look at what's in your mind.

  • What are you thinking?

  • What are you believing?

  • How are you feeling?

You need to give yourself some time to restructure that. Get up in the morning, and instead of going down the negative trail, do something different. Keep a journal by your bed, and before you do anything, write down five things you're thankful for, do this for the rest of the year.

I live on a lake, so earlier this morning I sat out there and I was thankful for many things...

  1. Thank you, God, for this incredible water.

  2. Thank you for this home.

  3. Thank you so that my kids can sleep in.

  4. Thank you for my health.

  5. Thank you for home school.

𝗦𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿?

The act of gratitude will shift the way that you think and can shift your entire day. There are things you can do to reverse the way we're going around the mountain. Let's go up the mountain and conquer the mountain instead.

Pay attention to the thoughts you're thinking. Try to capture the negative thoughts, and tell yourself to stop and then replace them with positive thoughts. It could be a book that you're reading, a phrase that you know of, or just sitting in peace for two seconds. You can reflect on things like, "That's not the truth, that's not me, I'm comparing", or "That's not how I should be thinking".

Get a book out, read, find your favorite worship music that's going to uplift you, or you can call a friend. There are a lot of things we can do to shift the way that we're thinking.

"What we think about determines who we will become tomorrow, and that will make our thoughts more powerful. For as he thinks in his heart, so is he".

"Our lives are always moving in the direction of our strongest thoughts. What we think will shape who we become".

So that was just the introduction, that's not even chapter one. If you just take inventory of what you're thinking about throughout your day, how you're feeling, and the words that you're speaking. If you find yourself down that negative trail, then you need to stop!

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁.
It's easier to determine other people's negativity, but it's a little bit harder to determine your own. But once you do, then you have to stop it.

You can learn how to stop how you're thinking. I was having an incredible day yesterday and I love to be productive. But isn't it interesting how one post from somebody online can derail you in the weirdest way?

I love social media, but I also don't love it.

There are things I see in there which I have to remind myself that I don't see the backstory, or it could be that I know the truth. Sometimes somebody posts something and in your head, you're like "That's not how that happened", or "But wait, I'm the reason that you did that".

It's interesting because I actually had two instances yesterday. I was feeling great and amazing. But then I saw two things that could have easily made me angry, or honestly, I was angry for probably five seconds at first. I started comparing myself, and I got super frustrated. And then I thought, "Maybe I should just quit!".

I was on cloud nine at first, but in a matter of 5 seconds after reading two posts from two different people, I was instantly frustrated.

I learned a word from Jay Shetty called "Mudita". There's not a word in the English language that means the same thing. I was sitting on my kitchen counter, trying not to be frustrated.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝘀 𝗜 𝘀𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱 "𝗠𝘂𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮" 𝗽𝗼𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱.


I'm going to run my own race.

I'm not going to be frustrated with other people's actions.

Mudita means to have pure joy, without envy, without anger, without bitterness, without comparison for that person or that situation.
Your thought pattern, your thought process, and the things you think about are always a choice.

I could have easily gone down the route of anger, comparison, and frustration all day. I could have wrecked my day, barked, or yelled at my kids, or I could have been frustrated. But I'm going to choose joy for those two people. I'm going to get out of the comparison mode, I'm not going to be frustrated, and allow myself to go down there.

I'm going to simply be happy for them, and move on. I'm not going to watch it or dwell on it. You've got to make a choice and work on your mindset every single day.

There might be things that might come up against you, that will challenge or frustrate you, make you angry, compare, or quit. You have to choose not to do that.

  • I'm not going to be angry with other people.

  • I'm not going to be frustrated.

  • I'm going to run my own race.

Some of you need to hear this... You need to run your own race. You shouldn't compare yourself to your best friend or your coworker, because everybody's different. Just do the best that you can in the place that you're at. Work on your mindset, speak positivity over yourself and other people, and love others and yourself.

𝗜'𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗜'𝗺 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲.
That's what you need to do, just run your own race and focus on your goals.

Watch other people learn from them, or you get rid of them. Just like earlier on those 2 comments. I caught it, I switched it, and I moved on for the rest of my day. So I hope this book gives you some type of understanding and concept of how to win the war in your mind.

"Our lives are always moving in the direction of our strongest thoughts, what we think will shape who we become".

Pay attention to who you're becoming, your thoughts, and your words. We'll continue to go through this book tomorrow. Thank you for tuning in, I truly appreciate it.

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Have an incredible morning and we'll talk to you very soon. Bye, everybody!

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