"Your decisions affect your destiny. Are you going to just go with the flow of traffic, or go that narrow road that leads to success? You are where you are, because that's exactly where you want to be". ~Terri Savell FoyWelcome to the Keto Mom page, my name is Stephanie. We are going through "Dream It, Pin It, Live It" by Terri Savell Foy.
We're going to dive into what it means to have a vision board. We're going to read about the awareness of dreaming. I want you to really think about your life and where you are. We've got to get focused on a new year coming up and on new goals.
We've accomplished a lot this last year, so where are we going? If I don't decide where I'm going, I might end up somewhere totally different or somewhere where somebody else wants me to be. No, thank you!
3 Types of People in this World
Those who make things happen.
Those who watch things happen
Those who wonder what happened.
If you are number one person, share with us. If you're number two, or those who watch things happen. It's okay, this is awareness. You might want to get out of the grandstands and on the playing field. Or you might be one of those who wonder what happened this year because you didn't have a focus and you've been all over the place.
We're going to dominate this next year. Are you ready? It's interesting how quickly a negative thought can destroy your afternoon or your attitude. And if you don't know how to switch it, you become crabby.
That happened to me yesterday, I had this little seed of doubt and it frustrated me for probably a couple of hours. But then I realized, I knew how to get out of this. I have all of the tools, and I coach people on mindset.
So I chose to take that seed of doubt and switch it up, by reading, stopping for a second, gathering my thoughts, and saying no, I'm not going to allow that.
It's a choice, and whether you have all of the tools or not, you've got to walk yourself through it.
So as you begin to dream, you're going to have people tell you that you're being foolish, or that you're living in a fantasy world. The author shared a story of a boy who went to school, and the teacher had them write down something that they wanted to be when they grow up.
The teacher called all the kids up to the class, including this young boy, and she said, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"
The little boy's name was Steve, and he said, "I want to be on TV". And the teacher said, "Who do you know that's on TV?", "Anybody in your family on TV?", "Is there anybody in the school that's on TV?". And Steve said, "No".
And so the teacher told him to take his paper, go home, and write something more realistic. The little boy was confused, he's never had anybody tell him he couldn't do what he wanted to do. So he went home and told his dad, "Dad, the teacher told me I had to rewrite my paper because what I wrote on my paper wasn't realistic".
His dad advised him to read his paper every morning before school, every night before bed, and thank God that one day he would be on TV. So year after year he did that...
What's incredible is that Steve Harvey came to one of our events and he's incredible. Sure he makes people laugh, but his story of faith, what he talks about, and how he went after his dream of starting from nothing and people not believing in him, and only his dad did. All the stuff that he went through is just an unbelievable story.
So again, you're going to have people that might not believe in you and might say...
You'll never be that weight.
Our family's always been overweight.
We're foodie people.
You'll never keep going to the gym, that's too hard.
Why would you deserve that race?
Why do you think you deserve that house?
Why do you think that you can?
You're going to have people who will try to put you down, just like Steve Harvey's teacher. So write down what you want and what's in your heart. Speak it over and over again, and then we'll see what happens.
"Someone wants to scribe the game of football is 60,000 people who desperately needed to exercise, watching 22 men who desperately needed to rest. The game of football parallels life in itself. The average person watches from the sidelines and very few people ever really get off the bleachers and get in the game. Isn't a time for you to start playing in the game of life?".
Do not be a sideline sitter. And if you are right now, we're doing this book together so that we can help you figure out what it is that you're called to do, so that you can do it.
The author gave us an analogy of where you can fit in your mind. You can say that there are three types of people. One that gets it, one that's watching, and one that wanders. Doesn't matter what it is, you've got to figure out where you're at, so we can figure out where you're going.
2 Types of People on the Road.
PASSENGERS:
Passengers are simply along for the ride. They sit back, look out the window, and let other people decide the direction that they are going.
DRIVERS:
Drivers are in control of their destination, and as you finish this book, you are no longer going to be a passenger. You will be strategically steering your life in the direction you choose to go and you will arrive at your desired direction if you choose to drive.
Are you willing to drive?
Some of you might want to get to the action steps right away, but you've got to have the foundation first. I need you to have an awareness that you're not playing full out in your life. You have dreams, but you're letting other people squash them. You actually don't have priorities, and you're wasting a lot of time here when you should be over here.
"One of the greatest realizations you will ever come to is when you realize that there is only one person responsible for the outcome of your life, and it's you.
You and you alone must take 100% responsibility for where you are, and what you have achieved, your health, your wealth, your debt, your body, your success, your relationships, and your current reality".
This is huge because I have people that message saying "I wasn't taught how to eat healthily", "I grew up on TV dinners", "I wasn't taught how to go to the gym", "I don't have those habits in place", or "I'm this way, because of my parents".
There comes a point as an adult, where you actually need to draw the line in the sand, and you will no longer blame anybody from your past for where you are today. I know some of your past can be hard. If you had gone through abuse and some serious stuff where you had to see a therapist or a counselor or somebody walk you through it. There's also an aspect of forgiveness and awareness to move forward.
I realize everybody has different backgrounds, and I totally get it. Some are more easily forgiven and forgotten, but you have control over your life.
You have to draw a line in the sand and stop living in the past, because if you stay there, then you don't get to move forward. You actually have to forgive the past to move forward.
If you're in this headspace that they didn't teach you and it's their fault, then you don't get to use that excuse anymore. I'm assuming you all are adults here, so you are in control of all of the areas of your life. And if you are not, then it's time to have control.
We're going to do it together. You probably came on this page just for keto, but you're going to get more than that. I will still help you with your food and a lot of other areas in your life because it's usually the other areas of your life that cause you to overeat. Which is probably why you are where you are today.
"So your decisions affect your destiny. Are you going to just go with the flow of traffic, or go that narrow road that leads to success?"
"You are where you are because that's exactly where you want to be".
I had somebody say that one time, "You are where you are today because you want to be here". And I said, "Oh, no"... He goes, "Yeah! Because if you didn't want to be here, you would change it. You're comfortable here so that's why you stayed"...
And I said Isn't it funny how sometimes you have an awareness of something but you don't like it? Like maybe you heard me say get off the sidelines, and you might say you're not a passenger, you're a driver. But if somebody were to look at your life, you're clearly a passenger. You're not directing your life, you're on the sidelines, and you're not in the game. Sometimes the truth hurts. I've had some incredible people in my life that have spoken the truth to me. It hurt and I was offended.
I didn't want to be like that, so I had to consciously make the decision to change.
That might be you, and that's okay. Let me help all of you, you get to learn from anybody on social media, books, and meeting with a mentor, but nobody can make you take the action. It's all in your hands. You can gather all the information, but then you have to put it to work. We can teach you, we can guide you, we can give you suggestions, but you have to do the action. It's up to you.
"Becoming disgusted with your current circumstances can actually serve as a vision and momentum to get you moving. Oftentimes, people won't do a lot until they're completely disgusted with where they're at. Enough is enough, you've got to get in shape. Maybe you have to put groceries away because you can't afford them. Enough is enough, you have the vision to increase your income. Enough is enough, you need to have a vision for a new car".
"Disgust is what you feel when you're tired of being embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated with where you're at, which will help you start dreaming and get a vision for your life and where you want to go. It all starts with making a decision to take 100% responsibility for where you are today, and where you are headed tomorrow".
"It starts today with making a decision 100% responsibility from you. This starts with the responsibility of understanding I am where I am today, and I am going to go somewhere else tomorrow".
If you're willing to own it, then we can move forward. Until you decide to stop blaming other people, we'll be stuck where we're at.
So we're going to stop there, I feel like I gave you enough to have an awareness of some of the things that you're blaming other people for. Maybe you need to start a journal and write down all the things that you've been offended about, or the people that you're blaming from the past. Put a big red X over it, and choose to forgive and forget. Stop looking at the past and move forward.
You should write ownership on the bottom of it. I'm going to own my own destination this next year.
Are you going to be the 60,000 people sitting in the stands? Are you going to be the 22 playing the game?
Are you going to be the passenger looking out the window? Are you going to be the driver?
Are you going to go to Target or save your money?
Are you going to prepare and plan your meals and make better choices on food?
Are you going to go through the drive-thru again?
Are you choosing to make an excuse to not go to the gym?
Are you going to choose to read the book?
Are you going to waste your time doing something that's not going to do anything for your life?
You make choices from the time you wake up till the time you go to bed. "1% Better or 1% Worse". You get to choose so you really can't blame anybody for it. You can't even say you can't afford healthy groceries, because you can just eat simple food.
All right! That's all, We're going to keep going tomorrow, and we'll start on page five. This is all about awareness and then we will start creating those vision boards. I'm always here to help. I hope you guys have a wonderful afternoon and we'll talk to you very soon. Bye!
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