Updated: Jan 17
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"Everyday life is full of moments that are scary, uncertain and difficult. Facing these moments and unlocking the opportunity, the magic, and the joy in your life, requires tremendous courage"... ~Mel Robbins
Points To Ponder:
01:40 5 Seconds Can Change Your Day
02:00 What Are You Thankful For?
02:15 The Power Of Courage
03:59 Everyday Is Full Of Moments
04:17 Have An Awareness
05:47 It's Not The Big Moves
06:34 It Happened So Fast
07:14 You Have Goals
08:10 Courage Is A Power To Push
09:58 The Push Moment
10:18 Little Moments Every Day
10:55 Snowball effect
11:26 There's Only One You
12:18 Five Seconds At A Time
13:02 Understanding Your Emotions
14:37 Giving Away Books
15:07 Books Are The Best Gifts
Full Episode Transcript:
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, for those of you who don't know me. And some of you do because a lot of you have been here for a long time. If you're brand new, I would love to meet you... Today, we are diving into this book, "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. It's super great, I love it!... But what I would love to know before we dive into the book is, who has snow?. We live in Minnesota, I should show you guys what it looks like outside our house. It's so cold, and we need to start a fire. But if you walk with me over to my deck, you can see our lake and it's already covered in ice.
We woke up to that and it snowed all night. It's snowing still and our kids are so excited because they love snow. We live in Minnesota, so I feel like if it's cold we should have this snow...So where are you tuning in from? Do you have snow or not? It's very pretty and very cold. If you walk outside and you're not used to snow, when you breathe, you might start to shiver right away. Just like last night, I was shopping with my mom and we have to almost hold our breaths from the car to the store because the cold freezes our lungs...
Alright! Are you ready? This book is great! We're talking about The 5 Second Rule. Five seconds can change your day, your decision, or something that you do or don't do. If you don't have the book, I would highly recommend that you get it, and just go through it by yourself. Or you can just tune in here and I will read some of it to you. My hope is to help you start your day off with a positive mindset. So let's do this! "What are you thankful for today?". One thing I am thankful for is this snow. It's really pretty, and it's actually beautiful...
Alright! Going back to the book. We're on part two, and she labels this part of the book as "The power of courage". She quoted this, "I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear. Knowing what must be done, does away with fear" by Rosa Parks...
We'll talk about her in a second because Mel Robbins goes back to her story a lot. So she said, "Before I discovered the five-second rule, if you've asked me to give you an example of courage, I would have given you a list of history makers" ... She talked about the decisions that we have to make throughout our entire day. Every day takes courage. It takes courage to say "Yes" or "No" to some things, and also to start lots of different things. She said, "I would have given you a list of history makers. I would have never had said that courage is what it takes, just take some days to get out of bed. To speak to a boss, pick up a phone, or step on a scale. I would have told you that courage is a word used to describe a heavy or huge bravery"... And isn't that right? We think of the words "Courage", or "Bravery", and we immediately think of somebody who's done something that's made history.
But she's right, her story started with getting out of bed. She needed to change her life, get her kids to school and look for a job. She created the five-second rule (5-4-3-2-1), doing something before your mind talks you out of it. So it's getting up and doing something. She shares the story of Rosa Parks. I'm assuming everybody here knows the story?... Anyway, she said, "Everyday life is full of moments that are scary, uncertain, and difficult. Facing these moments and unlocking the opportunity, the magic, and the joy in your life, requires tremendous courage"...
One step at a time, and one decision at a time. Count 5-4-3-2-1, step on the scale. Have an awareness and take action. 5-4-3-2-1, make the phone call, send the text, go visit the person, say no to this or yes to that. It's just five seconds, before you start analyzing, overthinking, talking yourself out of it, and saying you can't do it...
So she shared the story of Rosa Parks, and I'm assuming you all know the story. She talked about Rosa Parks, that she didn't decide that day, where she was going to sit. She didn't decide that day, that she was going to stand up for what she felt was right. It was an instinct, like a "No", before her mind could talk her out of it... Mel Robbins said, "Courage, in fact, is what I needed to get out of bed. It was scary to get out of bed because it meant facing any problems. It was difficult to look at myself in the mirror and accept the fact that I was forty-one years old, with no life, no career and I was in pretty lousy shape. It was overwhelming to consider that I might be able to fix the situation"... Do you ever look at yourself and say, "It's too overwhelming. I don't know where to start, and I don't know what to do"... Well, you know what to do, but the big picture seems overwhelming.
Okay! Let's go back to Rosa Park, Mel Robbins said, "The moment of courage teaches us that it's not the big moves that change everything. It's the smallest ones in our everyday life, that make the change. She didn't plan to do what she did that night. Rosa Parks describes herself as a kind of person who was careful and cautious, possibly stayed out of trouble. The only thing she planned on doing that evening was going home. And so what was the defining moment? 'The time had just come, that I had been pushed as far as I could stand to be pushed. And I suppose I just didn't move'. This is critical, Rosa Parks didn't hesitate or think it through"...
So Rosa Parks didn't think of what she was going to say or what she was going to do. She just did it, before she could talk herself out of it... Mel Robbins said, "It happened so fast, she just listened to her instinct telling her 'I was not being treated right and she pushed herself to the following action"...
And then she shared a story about Dr. Martin Luther King. She said, "Dr. King was pushed into the spotlight by his peers, Rosa pushed herself, they both experienced the power of a push. It's a moment when your instinct, values, and goals align. And you move so quickly that you don't have time or a valid reason to stop yourself"...
There are going to be moments throughout your day where you have goals, values, things that mean a lot to you, and you've got instinct. You're going to say yes or no, make the phone call or not, go have the conversation or not. You've got to take that step of courage. It's counting 5-4-3-2-1, that's what the five-second rule is. 5-4-3-2-1 walk out of the restaurant or don't go to that restaurant. A lot of you have goals for fat loss.
So I'm saying 5-4-3-2-1 make the better decision. Phone a friend to join you for accountability. Walk into the gym and take the class that you've always wanted to before you talk yourself out of it. Count backward, 5-4-3-2-1, before you have self-doubt before you have a reason not to do it, and before you say you can't do it...
Alright! She said this, "Courage is a power to push. Courage is a birthright, it's inside of you. It's inside of each of us. Every one of you just needs to tap into it. It's going to be just you, sitting in a meeting"... You're not going to have other people to lean on. Oftentimes, we talk about motivating, inspiring and I just need to watch this person or read this book. You might be inspired in the morning, my goal is that you feel inspired and motivated. That you will feel like, "Yes, I can do this. I can make the better decision, and I can accomplish these goals"... Here's the kicker, when you need it, you have to be able to push yourself into it. You might be watching me, but you're not necessarily going to the gym right now, and you might be going tonight. Can you still tap into your inspiration? You will need the courage to walk to the gym, so just count 5-4-3-2-1...
Alright! Going back, she said, "It's going to just be you sitting down to the meeting at work, standing up in your kitchen, riding in the subway, looking at your phone, staring at your computer, or thinking about something, and all of a sudden it happens. Something will go down, and your instinct will come alive. You'll have an urge to act. Your values and your instinct will tell you what you should do. And your feelings will scream, 'No'. That is the push moment. You don't have to have all the answers. You just have to make a decision, in the next five seconds"...
Don't grab the donut, walk into the gym, don't scream at your kid, make a better decision for dinner. Drink water instead of that sugary drink. I know it sounds simple, but it's those little moments and the little decisions, every single day. So count 5-4-3-2-1, I'm going to make a better decision. I'm going to keep moving on with my day. Because over time, those small decisions become a snowball effect.
My husband and I went through Dave Ramsey for finances, years and years ago when we first got married. If you understand it, it's where you put all of the debt that you have and then you pay off the smallest one and then you snowball that payment into the next one. And then you snowball that payment when it's paid off, into the next one. Soon you've got this massive amount going towards the very last debt. Same logic here. It's the "Snowball effect". You make a better decision, it's a small one. Then you snowball it into a different habit and into a different habit, and then not long you're going to have a system created...
Isn't that what we want? We want better habits and better systems created because we want to feel better. We want to be better moms, better dads, and better athletes. You want to have the energy and the focus to be able to be around your family, friends and just to feel better. She said, "Courage is just a push. There's only one you and there will never be another you"...
That's your superpower, people need you. All of us have different gifts, talents, and abilities. You might say, "Not me". But that's a lie, "Yes, you do". There's a reason why you're here. There are things that you have not done, that are assigned to you to accomplish. People need you. People need you to feel good, to feel better, to be healthy so that you can pour into others.
Your kids need you, your spouse needs you, your friends, your boss, your co-workers, they all need you. And they need the best of you. So if that's the only reason right now, until you feel good about who you are and who God made you to be. It's five seconds at a time, and it's having an awareness. Lastly, I'll say this, one of our friends sent us a message this morning. He was talking about something totally different, but something along the same lines.
He asked, "How do you and your husband, have so much compassion and love for others.? Because I see it, and I want to know, was it always there? Was it taught, or was it something you learned?"... And I told him, "Everything you do starts with an awareness".
An awareness of what you know or maybe don't have, but now all of a sudden you are aware of something. And then you have to understand your emotions, it's called E.Q., I've talked about this before. Once you have an awareness, it can't go away, you already know. Once you understand that we have emotions and we can control them, it's reacting versus responding. So when you act and react out of your emotions, you have a really low E.Q. You don't make wise decisions, you react out of emotions, anger, boredom, or sadness. You instinctively act out of, not five seconds of courage, but like, "This person hurt my feelings so I'm going to eat a chocolate bar". That's really low E.Q.!
But once you have an understanding of your emotions, you can take a second and take a breath. Know that you don't have to react in a negative way, but you can respond in a positive way. You've got control of those things.
Count 5-4-3-2-1 put the doughnut down, make the better decision, don't scream at that person, take a step back. Just count, 5-4-3-2-1 and say, "I've got goals, I've got a vision. I've got things that I need to accomplish for myself and those others around me"...
So I hope something spoke to you today. It's an incredible book. If you're looking for gifts to give this year? Me? I love books and I actually got a stack of books here. I was going to show you the book that I want to go through with you in January. But I can't show it yet, because I'm giving it to a whole bunch of people as a gift, and I don't want them to go buy it. I really want to tell people the next book, because it's a really great book. I've been reading through it and I told my husband that this book has been sitting on my shelf. I randomly was looking for my "5 Second Rule" book, and I ended up borrowing from my friend Kelly. I must have given mine away, but instead, I found this other book and it's incredible. So I bought fifteen or more, and I'm giving them away this weekend. Then I will show you what it is...
Books are one of the best gifts you can give to people. They might not love it, and they might think it's boring. But just tell them to read it. You can give this book to anybody because it's an easy read. You can give it to your kids, your spouse, anybody at your job, or your friends. Tell them, "You will thank me for this"... So if you're looking for a gift to give, give a book. If you give me books all day long, I'd be so happy. That's what I love... I hope you have an incredible day, and I'm always here to help. Send me messages, I will answer them. Whether it's about food or how to get started. I get a lot of questions about books, homeschooling, and everything else. So I hope you have a great morning and we'll talk to you soon. Stay warm!
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