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THE 5-SECOND RULE (Chapter 7): It Takes Courage To Be Who You Are | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Jan 17, 2022

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 "If you've ever wondered why It's so hard to make yourself do things, that you know you will solve your problem or improve your life. The answer is simple. It's your feelings. None of us realize that, but it makes up every single decision. Not with logic, not with our hearts, not based on our goals or dreams, but we make our decisions based on our feelings.

Points To Ponder:

01:06 Is Your Christmas Shopping Done?

02:57 Podcast Project: "Who Is She Becoming?"

03:49 Different Spokes In Your Life

05:15 Our Decisions Are Based On Feelings

06:44 "I Don't Feel Like It"

07:18 Our Subconscious

07:51 We Know What We Need To Do

08:50 You Can Control How You Act

09:04 Do What Nike Says, 'Just Do It'

10:30 Never Blame Any Action On Anybody Else

11:05 You're Life Is Different From Everybody

11:43 Give The Gift Of Wisdom

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey, everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie. We're actually going to talk about our feelings today. You might ask, "Feelings on a Keto page?" Yes, we are! If you have been following along for a while and you've gone through some other books with us. You've heard me say, "As I think so I feel. As I feel so I do. As I do so I have" Joseph McClendon has said that before. And so we are going to be talking about "What feelings do to our actions"... As I think so I feel. Sometimes we underestimate the power of our feelings. As I feel so I do. That is what we're talking about today. As you're tuning in, what would be a fun question to ask? "Is your Christmas shopping done yet?"

Welcome to Day 8 of our Book 9 session

I've been completely done for a week. Done, wrapped, and hidden in my closet. How about you? Is your Christmas shopping done? That is the question for today. I'm feeling good today. I'm chilly, so I've got two sweatshirts on. I was on a zoom last night with some of our team, and they were laughing because I had a coat on. They asked, "Do we need to raise some money for you, to turn your heater on?".

I told them, "Listen, we have our heater on, and we usually have a fire. We also have in-floor heating in our house. And I'm usually still wearing two sweatshirts, or I'm wrapped in a blanket. I'm always cold. I always have socks, and usually, I have a stocking cap on and sweatpants in my home. We homeschool, I work from home so I can wear all those clothes. But if I had to go to an office, I'd have to bring a blanket with me. So for those who have really warm weather, then you're not cold like me...

Okay! We're going to dive into this book, so I can honor your time. She said, "You'll never feel like it"... If you've been following me, we're talking about, "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. Five seconds counted backward to take action, to say no to something, or to do something that you know you want to do, but you talk yourself out of it. As soon as you start thinking, you make excuses.

You're like, "I can't do that", "I shouldn't do that", or "People will think I'm crazy". All of those excuses. And so she said, "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are". Yes, it does! There's a book that I keep talking about, that I want to write. It's not really going to be a book, it's going to be videos based, like a podcast or something. I know I keep saying I'm going to do it, but it was going to be called "Who is she becoming?"... My mentor was like, "What do you mean, 'Who is she becoming'?" It's discovering who you already are. It's unveiling who you are. It's something that I (5-4-3-2-1) need to work on, I already have all the content, I just have to do it. Do any of you have anything that made you feel like, "I know I need to do it". I think about it every single day and I'm not even talking about Keto. It's like, you know your physical health is a super important part of your life, but it's not everything.

Our lives are made up of different spokes
Like me, I'm a mom, I'm a wife, and I'm a friend. I love business conversations, I homeschool, and there are a lot of things that I love to do. There are a lot of things that have nothing to do with the food that I eat. We talked about different spokes in your life, you've got physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, financial, and relationships. There are different spokes that makeup who you are...

Anyway, I wake up every day, I go through my whole day and I can't get this thing out of my mind of what I need to do. There are things that all of us are called to do. It's not what Mel Robbins said here. This is not you trying to make something of yourself, you already are. You just have to do it... All right! She shared a lot of stories in the beginning, but what I mainly underlined was this part. This was a story about a girl, she said "The answer is simple. She's losing the battle with her feelings because she isn't struggling with speaking, she isn't struggling with making a decision. She's struggling with self-doubt "... Most people struggle, and have a challenge with self-doubt. They don't believe that they can do it, even though they should do it. Or other people are going to think they're crazy...

She said, "If you've ever wondered why It's so hard to make yourself do things, that you know will solve your problem or improve your life. The answer is simple, it's your feelings. None of us realize that, but it makes up every single decision. Not with logic, not with our hearts, not based on our goals or dreams, but we make our decisions based on our feelings"...

Oftentimes, we make decisions based on our feelings
As I think, here it is. If you can't control your thoughts and you talk yourself out of things, you feel a certain way. As you feel, you take certain actions. As you take action, that's what you get. Do you guys remember me saying that? As I think so I feel. As I feel so I do. As I do so I have. It's super important...

Okay! Let's continue, "And our feelings at the moment are almost never aligned with our best yes. You make decisions based on how you feel. It's our feelings that decide for us ninety-five percent (95%) of the time. You feel before you think, you feel before you act. And that's how you ultimately make decisions based on how you feel"...

Do you feel like you make decisions based on your feelings? Let's just say that majority of you are women. There's a certain time in the month that I feel like chocolate. It's something that's always said, "During this week, I do whatever I want. I don't feel like that". How often do you even say that to your kids, or your kids say that to you? "I don't feel like it", "Instead of going to the fast-food restaurant, we should probably go home and make food. I don't feel like it"... Now you're going to catch people saying it.

Alright! She said, "For example, 'What do I want to eat?'. You are actually asking yourself, 'What do I feel like eating?'. How about this, 'Should I get up?'. Subconsciously, you're saying, 'Do I feel like getting up?', 'Do I want to walk over to her and have a conversation?', 'Do I feel like talking to her?', 'Should I share my idea?', 'Do I feel like sharing my idea?'"...
You already know what to do, You just don't feel it

So she shared a ton of stories of people that did the "5-4-3-2-1", they didn't listen to their feelings, and they got some incredible results. She said, "That explains why change is so hard. Logically, we know what we should do, but our feelings about things make our decision for us"... We know what we need to do. You know you shouldn't eat certain things. You should drink more water. You should probably move your body. You should get up a little early. You know what to do.

Nobody has to tell you how to eat healthily. You know, you should put the Debbie snacks down and eat more veggies and salad. You know you shouldn't go through the drive-thru. You know, you should just go home and make something that you have. You know it, but you just don't feel like it.

Because our emotions are run by our day, and our day is run sometimes by our environment or other people. We've got to decipher things like, "Am I going to follow my emotions?", or "Am I going to count 5-4-3-2-1 and take action?"... She said, "Here's how feelings keep you from changing. When you stop to consider how you feel, you start moving towards your goals. Once you hesitate, you'll start thinking about what you need to do and then you'll weigh the pros and the cons. You'll consider how you feel about what you need to do and then you'll talk yourself out of it. You can't control how you feel, but you can control how you act. Feelings are merely suggestions. Stop paying attention to your feelings or following your feelings. Ignore your feelings and do what Nike says, 'Just do it. Take action and just do it"...

Are you going to be a person that did it?
At the very end, this is what I titled the video. Here it is, "Should have", "Could have", "Would have" and "Did"... Are you going to be a person of regret? A person that lives by their feelings? A person that overthinks things and doesn't take action? Or are you going to be a person that did it?.

In the situation that I shared earlier about this thing hanging over my head, in my mind or in my heart, that I have to do? I overthink it, I don't do it, and I don't take action on it. But if I don't do it, I will regret it. Again, I'm not just talking about a keto diet. You know how to eat, I can guide you and I can give you ideas. You know you should drink water, and all of the things you know you need to do. "Will you be that person that did it?", "Will you be a person that doesn't listen to their feelings all the time and takes action?". You can see what you need to do. You make choices every single day. Good or bad, right or wrong. One percent better, or one percent worse. Everything that you do is a choice, and you can blame your past, people, your surroundings, your job, or your kid. You can place blame anywhere, but you should never blame, shame, or justify any action on anybody else. We're all adults, you just need to have the courage and discipline to own what you're doing.

If you're not owning your actions and if you're the type to always say, "It's not my fault, I was raised this way", "It's not my fault, it's genetics", "It's not my fault, nobody taught me how to eat", "Nope, my work environment does not allow me to eat healthily", or "I'm too busy"... Your day looks different than somebody else's. Your life looks different than somebody else's. Other people have had it easier, but maybe we're brought up differently than you. But today's a new day, and you get to decide, "I'm not going to run by feelings or past hurts, I'm going to do this", "Ignore the feelings, and do the things I know I need to do". It's just counting 5-4-3-2-1, take action!...

This is the book, "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. I've been saying it's an incredible book, and if you don't know what to get people for gifts this Christmas? Go buy seven books. There's another book that I really should tell you to get other people. You should give the gift of wisdom this Christmas and that to me is reading.

How many of you are trying to buy gifts for siblings or parents? Just go and give them a book. Most people buy whatever they want, whenever they want. None of us probably really need things, it's a want. This might not look amazing, but when you read this, it will change your life. Give the gift of books. I'm done with my kids and a majority of people, but there are a couple of other people I was going to buy things for. So I'm going to order a couple more books. Alright, that's all I have for you. I hope you have an incredible day. I'm always here to help, send me a message. I hope you have a great morning and we'll talk to you very soon. Bye, everybody!

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