THE 5-SECOND RULE (Chapter 2): The Smallest Things Can Be So Hard | Keto Mom Book Club
Updated: Jan 17, 2022
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"It's not like I was had to climb Mount Everest, however, the fact that it's so simple, the simple stuff actually made it worse. I had no legitimate excuse for why I couldn't do it. My self-confidence was in a downward spiral. If I couldn't even get on time, how was I going to have faith in myself to fix my biggest financial needs?" ~Mel Robbins
Points To Ponder:
00:06 "The 5-Second Rule" by Mel Robbins
01:24 The Power of Five Seconds
02:11 Mel Robbins Shared About Her Life
03:49 She Wallowed In Her Sorrow
04:25 The Simple Stuff Made It Worse
05:07 The Smallest Thing Can Feel So Hard
06:20 Overthinking versus The Simple Task
07:23 I'll Launch Myself Out of Bed Like A Rocket
08:26 Inner Wisdom and Taking Action On It
09:15 What Are Your Goals?
10:29 Your Inner Wisdom
11:46 Five Seconds
Full Episode Transcript:
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie and we are diving into this book, "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. I have read it before and it is an incredible reminder. As you're tuning in, I have a different question for you this morning. Is your tree up, or not yet? I'm shocked at how many people have all of their Christmas stuff up already. Do you have your Christmas tree up, or not? I would love to know... If you're just tuning in, I go through a book every single morning and we go through a chapter or a thought.
My hope is to give you something to think about throughout your morning. Something positive, and something that's going to help switch your mindset if it's not positive.
Something to help you set your day upright. If your mindset is correct, you most likely will make better decisions, feel better about yourself, and all of those things... Okay! I love this chapter, or actually, I really love this book. I love a lot of the books that we've gone through, and I have one book that I think everybody should read. I'll grab that tomorrow... So if you tuned in yesterday, we talked about "The Power of Five Seconds". The author, Mel Robbins, gave a very brief overview and she just talked about what five seconds can do in your life. The book gives you examples of people that have used the 5 Second Rule, whether it's a business deal, having the courage to talk to somebody, or whatever the case may be.
Courage! Five seconds of courage, and five seconds of action. I often talk about how many times people learn something, put it into action, and that's where you stop...
We're going to talk about chapter two. Again, if you don't have the book, it's fine. You can follow along here... So she tells her whole life story, I'm not going to talk about that. But the author talked about how she got so desperate in her life. She used the word depressed, and it was about money and relationships. She shared how her whole life was a fake. She appeared well in front of friends, but she wouldn't get out of bed. She wouldn't take care of her kids, go to the gym and she just couldn't do it. She was so stuck in a rut. The author was watching TV one night and she realized that when you make a decision when you have goals, all of a sudden your instinct will start seeing things that might align up with those goals. Let's say you want to lose some fat. You've said it, you've determined what you want. So instinctively, when you see things like a gym, a doughnut, or whatever the case may be.
Your mind, and your body will tell you, "Hey! We talked about this", "Hey! You have a goal", "This would align or not align with your goal"... So she shared her whole story, and here's the kicker. She said, "I knew what I needed to do to start my day". But she refused to get up, she wallowed in her sorrows.
She sat in her bed, and she hit the snooze button. I need you to listen to this, it's super important. She said "I needed to get up on time, make breakfast, get my kids to the bus and then I needed to look for a job"... Simple tasks, right? To us or maybe if that's not something you're dealing with, you would say it's easy! And yes, that's a simple thing.
She said, "It's not like I was had to climb Mount Everest, however, the fact that it's so simple, the simple stuff actually made it worse. I had no legitimate excuse for why I couldn't do it. My self-confidence was in a downward spiral. If I couldn't even get on time, how was I going to have faith in myself to fix my biggest financial needs?"... She would say "If I can't get out of bed, how am I going to fix everything else?". She would sit on the bed, and she would think.
Sometimes we overthink, like "What I have to eat", "How am I going to start", "What I'm not going to get to eat?"... In chapter two she said, "Have you ever noticed how the smallest thing can feel so hard?". That was after she shared her story. It might be the smallest thing, like making a healthy breakfast, a healthy lunch, packing a lunch for work, drinking water in the morning, or not hitting the snooze button. She said, "Okay! This is what I'm going to do. Tomorrow, I will change. Tomorrow, I will wake up early. Tomorrow, I will have a better attitude and try harder. I will go to the gym. I will be nice to my husband, I will eat healthily, and I won't drink too much. Tomorrow, I will be better, and it will be a future me"...
Has that ever been you? This is an incredible tool, and it's an incredible book. If you don't have it, I would highly recommend you to get it. It's really easy to read through. I was only going to take it a couple of pages at a time but we don't want to stop a chapter. We're on chapter two, and we're going to do the whole thing. It's not hard to understand and it's an easier book to go through.
She talked about overthinking versus the simple task that needs to be done right in front of you... All right! She said, "Five seconds was all it took for me to take myself out of this habitual habit". Things like snooze going off, hitting snooze, thinking of all the things she needed to do, and being overwhelmed with the small tasks.
Did you know that there are actual reasons why she didn't get out of bed? She created a habit loop. All of the things that you do are on a habit loop of your life, and you've got to break it in order to change it. So she said, "One night, everything changed. I was watching TV and there was a commercial that came on. It was an image of a large rocket and all I could hear was the famous final five-second countdown 5-4-3-2-1. Fire and smoke filled the screen and the shuttle launched. And I thought to myself, 'That's it!, I'll launch myself out of bed tomorrow. Like a rocket, I'll move so fast that I won't have time to talk myself out of it. It was just an instant and I could have easily dismissed it but I didn't. It was that fast"...
Sometimes we have to do things without thinking. She says, "I desperately wanted to change but I didn't know-how. This instinct to launch me out of bed was more of inner wisdom talking to me. Hearing it was a tipping point. Following the instructions was life-changing "... You know what to do, you watch other people, you read books, you even watch me. You know the things you have to do. You know that you should get up, move your body in some way, shape or form. You know, you should be drinking more water, or say no to this because there's a better option. Now it's following the inner wisdom and actually taking action on it.
Five seconds at a time. "Nope! I'm going to pass on that", 5-4-3-2-1 walk away. "Yes, I'm going to drive to the gym and do a little workout", 5-4-3-2-1 Go!", "5-4-3-2-1 I need to go talk to that person, do that action or go clean this". Whatever the case may be before I can talk myself out of it.
I love this phrase, she said, "Your brain and your body sends you signals to wake you up and pay attention. The idea of launching myself out of bed is an example of that. Your instinct may seem stupid at the moment but when you honor these deliberate actions, it will change your life"...
Most of you are here for what? What are your goals? I would love to know. Not waiting till January but deep down, What do you want? Are you brave enough to share them below? What do you want?... She said, "When you set a goal, your brain opens up a task list". She talked about how your brain sees things, and it gives you signals. It's going to tell you, "Hey! You said this was your goal", or "Here are the things you need to do"... She gives an example, let's say you want to get healthier. She said, "If you walk into a living room, nothing happens. If you walk past a gym, however, your frontal cortex lights up because you are near something related to your goal. As you pass the gym, you will feel like 'Oh, I should probably exercise'. That's an instinct reminder of your goal"...
You set a goal, your brain thought about it, it's right here, and you made a list. And now your brain is telling you, "Hey! Do you remember that goal that you set?", "There's a gym, do you think you should work out?". Your brain doesn't say that to you in other environments, but when you pass the gym, it will tell you that. She said, "It's your inner wisdom, it's important that you pay attention to it. No matter how small or how silly, the instinct comes. When it comes to goals, dreams, and changing your life, your inner wisdom is a genius. Your goal-related impulses, your urges, your instincts are guiding you and you need to learn to listen to them"...
That's it! At the very end of the chapter, she said this, "I ignored how I felt. I didn't think and I did what I needed to do. When the alarm clock went off instead of hitting the snooze, I thought of myself as the rocket. I counted 5-4-3-2-1 and before I could think and talk myself out of it, I'm out of bed. And that changed my whole life"...
So same for you, you have goals, and your mind makes a list. Now there are things that will make you say, "5-4-3-2-1 Go!", or "5-4-3-2-1, No!". That's good! And that's not even in the book. 5-4-3-2-1 Go! Go take action on it? Or 5-4-3-2-1 Nope! Not going to do it. "I'm going to walk away", "That does not align with my goals"... Five seconds! Remove yourself from the environment that might cause you to stumble. Walk into the gym to feel successful, don't think about it. You're going to come out feeling accomplished! You know you need to do it. Count 5-4-3-2-1 put the doughnut down. You're done! It's not going to hurt you. When all the doughnuts are out of the box, you're going to feel like you actually did something incredible. You accomplished a small goal today and don't feel like garbage. And you will not feel like you've got to start over...
This book is a tool and it is incredible. She said, "The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must count 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you". Great wisdom! Alright! That's chapter two, we're going to keep plugging right along. This is really a great book and it's a good reminder for me. I've got things I need to do that I've been putting off because they seem hard and daunting, so I'm going to do it and I hope you do too... As always, I'm always here to help! Just send me a message, if you've got any questions related to anything, I will answer you. I've answered questions about parenting, homeschooling, fat loss, or anything. So send me a message, I'm always here to help. Continue to tune into the page! Whatever you're looking for, whether it's recipes, keto tips, tricks, or a good book. I hope you have an incredible day and we'll talk to you soon. Bye!
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