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THE 5-SECOND RULE (Chapter 17): The Power of Enriching Your Relationships | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Nov 3, 2022

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	"Leave nothing important unsaid to those that you love and to those that you care about. Intimacy takes courage, risking getting emotional or upset with somebody because you want to express yourself can be scary, but the results are magical"... ~Mel Robbins

Points To Ponder:

01:30 Septic System Fixed

02:51 Get Your Mindset Right

03:25 Five Seconds To Take Action

04:32 Awareness Conversation

05:11 We Need Time To Think

06:10 Power of Enriching Your Relationships

07:11 Leave Nothing Important Unsaid

08:29 She Had To Ask

09:22 Waiting For The Right Time

09:39 Five Seconds Of Courage

10:48 When Your Heart Speaks, Honor It

11:30 You Going To Need Courage

12:14 I'm Committed To Myself

13:09 Spokes and Awareness

Full Episode Transcript:

Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. We are going to finish "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins today. She wraps up the book by talking about five seconds in relationships and reminding you about the rule. She basically said that if you ever have feelings of, "I should do this" or "I need to do that", just count backward (5-4-3-2-1) get up and move. That's what we're going to talk about really quick and we're going to end the book...

Welcome to the last day of our Book 9 session
Also, we're going to wrap up the rest of the year with how to set smart goals. By writing things down, asking yourself why, eliminating some things that you might have written down, and getting specific. That is what we're going to dive into for the rest of the year...

It's a little bit later in the morning, but I was chatting with my mother-in-law. We still have some house projects going on, so it was a busy morning. For those of you who watched my live video and my stories yesterday, we got our septic system fixed. When we bought this house, it was barely lived in for twenty years. The man that built the house had passed away and his wife didn't really live here.

Anyway, the septic system is great now. It was built for a small family, but we always have people come over all the time. And so clearly our septic system needs an upgrade. We are praying that it's going to work all winter. We also got some things fixed yesterday, and then we're going to probably redo some things in the spring. At least for now, we can flush our toilets already and we're happy about it... Okay! So we're going to wrap up "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. I would love to know, do you feel like the five-second rule is helpful? Have you used it anywhere in your life with anything? By the way, as soon as the year starts and we're back into a normal routine, especially with school and things, my FB-lives will be much earlier.

You can use the 5 second rule in your everyday life

Maybe it doesn't matter because you can watch it on replay, but I would prefer to do them earlier in the morning because I should start school soon. Currently, we're taking a break from school so everybody slept in, and I just did other things this morning.

My goal is to get your mindset right so that you're thinking positively, you've got something to think about, like a question or a thought, to help you understand that your mindset is important...

In this five-second rule concept or basically the entire book, she talked about your whole life. Physical, emotional, financial, spiritual, or in any area of your life. When you feel like you should do something, act upon something, not do something, say no to something, say yes to something, go to the gym, or make a better choice. Then you've got five seconds before your feelings start kicking in, and then you probably won't do the things that you need to do or grab the things that you probably shouldn't...

I was talking to one of my very best friends from high school yesterday, we reconnected. She stopped over since we haven't seen each other in twenty years, and we talked about ketones. She said, "Stephanie, I've done everything!"... How many of you could probably say, "Yep, I've done everything under the sun. I've done every diet and all the drinks"... Anyway, we had a great conversation about ketones, and she's just loving them. She said, "It's so funny because we think that we can just do it all by ourselves". Some people think like, "It's not a big deal", "We can do it", "I can lose the weight by myself, "I don't need to drink anything", "I don't need support", or "I know what to do"...

In this fast-paced life, we need time to stop & think

And so my friend and I just had this awareness conversation. She said, "I've never been more aware that people just need tools to help them on their journey. Whether it's five seconds or ketones, you just have to be able to count five seconds before you eat that before you drink something, go someplace, or don't go to the gym"...

We're living in such a fast-paced society that we want results right away. We want to make a decision right away. We're not willing to either think about it, ponder on it or pray about it. We just move so quickly, that we don't give ourselves time to think. We need to think, and we need to ask questions.

We ask ourselves, "Is this a good choice or is this not a good choice?", "What am I about to do here?"... But if you can just go, (5-4-3-2-1) No! (5-4-3-2-1) Yes! (5-4-3-2-1) Put your shoes on and go to the gym, (5-4-3-2-1) I'm actually going to take a second and think about this before I react, I'm going to respond. And we just really had an incredible conversation...

You know what? Now more than ever, in this fast-paced society, in a world full of Instagram, we need to teach people how to think for just a split second. To respond properly or stop feeling like, "I don't feel like it". Your emotions don't need to control the way that you act. If you know what you need to do, you need to do it...
Take time to say the things you want to say

In the last part of the book, she talked about the power of enriching your relationships. Do you want to know what's so interesting? As I was reading through this, she shared a ton of stories, although I'm not going to read them to you. But think about this time of year, like Christmas, New Year's, or just ending the year. It's a happy time for many and not a happy time for some as well. The man that was pumping out our septic system, he's in his 70s, sweetest man ever, but he had the saddest look on his face. He actually just lost his wife this fall due to cancer...

And it just ties to what Mel Robbins said in the book, people need to understand in life, whether it's with your spouse, your kids, or anybody that you have a relationship with. She was talking to a man and one of the most powerful things that this older gentleman taught her was, "Leave nothing important unsaid to those that you love and to those that you care about".

She said, "Intimacy takes courage, risking getting emotional or upset with somebody because you want to express yourself can be scary, but the results are magical"... She goes on and tell stories about moms, dads, relationships, people, and how they didn't want to cause emotion. But they needed to say things to people, whether it was just an "I Love You", "I see you", "I am proud of you", or "Hey, are you open to a suggestion"... We often hold our tongue because we're afraid to say something to people, and we're not sure how they're going to take it...

We do so little out of fear of what might happen

She went and shared a story about her Dad. The whole story was he needed to have surgery. She wasn't going to ask him a question because she was afraid of what the answer would be. But she did, she asked, "Are you scared?". She counted (5-4-3-2-1) She had to ask because she had to know.

Leave nothing unsaid. Things that you want to say to somebody but maybe you're afraid of how they're going to respond. It's the things said out of love and thought...

Okay, she said, "So I asked the question with (5-4-3-2-1), I kept it light and positive. 'Don't stress out, he said 'Everything's going to be okay. That was the push moment, leave it (5-4-3-2-1), and then she said, 'Dad, are you scared?'"... It was the most important beautiful moment she ever had.

She said "I took the five-second rule. I would not have found the courage to ask my dad the question. I just sat there in the back seat of the cab, I took it all in and I let him talk. Waiting for the right time to get real in your relationships is a fool's errand. There is no right time to have a conversation, ask a hard question, say I love you or take the time to truly listen to people. There's only right now"...

Like I say all the time, the book is great. There are tons of stories that you can read. She said, "It only takes five seconds to change your life". And there are so many different areas of your life, where you can use it.

  • Financial: Saying yes or no to something.

  • Physical: Five seconds to go to the gym or not go to the gym, eat something or not eat something.

  • Relationships: Five seconds to call somebody out of courage, and tell them how you feel or that you're proud of them.

  • Emotionally and Spiritually: Maybe you need to go to church or open a book.

Have the courage to pursue your dreams
There are so many things that we don't do out of fear, that you're just letting your life pass you by... So that's what she talked about, and for the rest of the chapter, she shared a ton of stories.

Basically, it said, "In any area of your life, you can use the five-second rule. Leave nothing important unsaid, (5-4-3-2-1) and just say it. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. You've always had the power, my dear, you just have to lean in and learn it for yourself. The answer is simple, they know the secret to greatness. When your heart speaks, honor it (5-4-3-2-1) and move, take action. They also know the alternative and that is terrifying missing out on all that you have meant to become. Living on autopilot and swimming right past all of the magical opportunities and joy that your life could offer. And the greatest risk of all is dying before you actually push yourself to live"...

So I don't know what it is for you this next year, you might need to work on your relationships. It could be physically because I know a lot of you are here to look a certain way or to feel a certain way. It could also be finance, spiritually, or whatever it is that you need to work on. You're going to need the courage to work on it. You're going to have to get out of, "I don't feel like it", but rather take action. The key is action! There's greatness inside of you, the time is now (5-4-3-2-1) Go!...
Let's start writing those goals down

Alright! so for the rest of the year, we're going to (5-4-3-2-1) get out a piece of paper. We're going to (5-4-3-2-1) write down everything that we want to do this next year. Then we're going to talk about the "Why" behind it. We're then, going to eliminate some things, and we're going to get specific, smart, and we're going to put a timeframe on your goals.

We're going to write them down because if you don't write them down, the likelihood of you reaching your goals is unlikely. When you write, you invite, when you write you, you take it in. It's just another way of saying, "I'm committed to myself", or "I'm going to do this"...

Like me, I'm committed to doing FB lives with you. I'll do it tomorrow, we're going to start it off. We're not going to wait until January, we're going to start right now. My encouragement to you is, to think of things that you've been wanting to do. It doesn't matter what spoke in life. Your life is like a tire, you've got the spokes about physical, spiritual, relationships, financial and emotional. And if one of them is broken, it's going to affect the other ones... And we're going to talk about "Goals" by Zig Ziglar before jumping into the new year. He talked about balance, and he talked about setting goals only for your physical and expecting the other spokes in your life not to fall apart. You can't just have crazy financial goals and not work on your relationships.

We are going to start the book "Goals" by Zig Ziglar
He also talked about looking at all of your spokes and just having an awareness of your goals this year. Why do we think that the only goal we should have this year is on our health? You're so focused on yourself, which isn't bad. But if you need to lose a hundred pounds, it's also important that you express in your relationships while you're doing it, that way you've got their support.

Financially, that you understand where you're at. And Spiritually, you're working on your mindset. There are so many things than just saying, "I want to lose a hundred pounds"... That's what we're going to dive into, so continue to tune into the page. The page is full of different keto tips and tricks for you, as you need them. Otherwise, send me a message and I'm here to help. I hope you have an incredible morning, and I'm always here to answer your questions the best that I can.

We'll talk to you guys very soon. 5-4-3-2-1, go take some action!

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