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GOALS: 9 Steps To Setting Goals | Keto Mom Book Club


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"𝘞𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰, 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘣𝘦. 𝘞𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥, "𝘞𝘩𝘺". 𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦, 𝘥𝘰, 𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦" ~𝘡𝘪𝘨 𝘡𝘪𝘨𝘭𝘢𝘳


9 steps to setting

goals:

  1. ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ɪᴛ ᴅᴏᴡɴ

  2. ᴀꜱᴋ ᴡʜʏ

  3. ᴇʟɪᴍɪɴᴀᴛᴇ

  4. ʙᴀʟᴀɴᴄᴇ

  5. ᴇxᴘʟᴏʀᴇ

  6. ꜱᴛʀᴇᴛᴄʜ

  7. ɴᴇɢᴀᴛɪᴠɪᴛʏ ᴄʜᴇᴄᴋ

  8. ᴀꜱᴋ 5 Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ

  9. ᴄʜᴏᴏꜱᴇ ᴛᴏᴘ 4

Points To Ponder:


01:00 How I Run My Social Media Accounts

02:36 People Can't Say Mean Things In Person

03:09 "Goals" by Zig Ziglar

04:52 Hurt People, Hurt People

05:02 You Don't Know The Story

06:34 An Awareness Of Social Media

07:26 Ask Yourself "Why?"

08:21 You Can't Have Everything You Want

09:03 Balance Your Goals

10:41 Save Your Best Yes

11:11 Have Goals That Stretch You

12:17 Negativity Check

13:45 Commit to Starting & Finishing

14:21 Choose Your Top 4

15:34 Positive Motivation

16:18 It's All In The Details

17:04 You Are Not By Yourself

18:28 Follow People That Inspire You

18:32 Inner Check


Full Episode Transcript:


Hey, everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie. And today, there are a lot of things I want to talk about. I'm at my sister's house and there are over twenty-five people in here. Anyway, as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? I'm tuning in from Ohio and I'm hiding in my sister's closet because all my family is here today. We're doing our last family Christmas with my sister, she just built a new home. If you follow me on my stories on Instagram @ketomomsecrets, you will see all of that.

Welcome to day 3 of our Book 10 session

Also, here's something I want to tell you really quickly. Number one, I hope you had an incredible Christmas with your family. If this season is a hard time for you, I'm super sorry. Number two, if you're watching my stories, I want you to know how I run my page. We started this page in 2015 and it was really just to share with you what our family was learning, as we went on this journey with keto, low carb, and trying to eat better.


ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ʟᴏᴏᴋ ᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ꜰʀᴏɴᴛ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴏꜰ ᴏᴜʀ ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ᴍᴏᴍ ᴘᴀɢᴇ, ᴏʀ ᴇᴠᴇɴ ᴏɴ ɪɴꜱᴛᴀɢʀᴀᴍ, ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴅɪꜰꜰᴇʀᴇɴᴛ ʀᴇᴄɪᴘᴇꜱ, ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ᴛɪᴘꜱ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʀɪᴄᴋꜱ. ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʜᴀꜱ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀ ʟᴏᴡ-ᴄᴀʀʙ ʟɪꜰᴇꜱᴛʏʟᴇ. ɴᴏᴡ, ɪɴ ᴍʏ ꜱᴛᴏʀɪᴇꜱ, ᴡʜɪᴄʜ ᴏɴʟʏ ʟᴀꜱᴛ ᴛᴡᴇɴᴛʏ-ꜰᴏᴜʀ ʜᴏᴜʀꜱ, ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ᴡʜᴇʀᴇ ɪ ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴍʏ ʟɪꜰᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴡʜᴏ ɪ ᴀᴍ. ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ, ᴡʜʏ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ᴀɴʏʙᴏᴅʏ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴄᴏᴀᴄʜᴇᴅ ʙʏ ꜱᴏᴍᴇʙᴏᴅʏ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛʀᴜʟʏ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴡʜᴏ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴀʀᴇ?


So I share on my stories (FB & IG) how I'm a mom, I have four girls, we homeschool, we live in Minnesota and we love to be active. I love business and I love a lot of things. And I'm just going to continue sharing with you pieces of our entire day. The reason I'm telling you this is because some people were irritated with my pictures these last couple of days. It made me realize, isn't that funny? How people say things just because they don't like something they see online? But they probably wouldn't say those things to me, if we were face to face. I'm not saying you in general, but just some people.

ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴏ ɪ'ʟʟ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴘʀᴇ-ꜰʀᴀᴍᴇ ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴀʏ, ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ʟɪꜰᴇꜱᴛʏʟᴇ ʀᴇᴄɪᴘᴇꜱ ᴀʀᴇ ᴀʟʟ ᴏɴ ᴍʏ ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ᴍᴏᴍ ꜰᴀᴄᴇʙᴏᴏᴋ ᴘᴀɢᴇ & ɪɴꜱᴛᴀɢʀᴀᴍ. ʙᴜᴛ ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ 𝓜𝓨 ᴅᴀʏ-ᴛᴏ-ᴅᴀʏ ʟɪꜰᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴡʜᴏ ɪ ᴀᴍ, ᴡʜɪᴄʜ ᴍᴀᴋᴇꜱ ᴜᴘ ᴀ ʙɪɢ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴏꜰ ʜᴏᴡ ᴡᴇ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴜꜱᴛᴀɪɴ ᴛʜɪꜱ ʟɪꜰᴇꜱᴛʏʟᴇ ꜰᴏʀ ꜱɪ𝔁 ᴀɴᴅ ᴀ ʜᴀʟꜰ ʏᴇᴀʀꜱ, ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ᴀʟʟ ɪɴ ᴍʏ ꜱᴛᴏʀʏ. ꜱᴏ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴍʏ ꜱᴛᴏʀɪᴇꜱ, ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴄʟɪᴄᴋ ᴏɴ ᴛʜᴇᴍ...
Let's all start writing our goals for 2022!

Now, one more thing before we dive into this book, "Goals" by Zig Ziglar. I would love to know who is ready to set goals? If you haven't thought about your goals, we're going to start thinking about them. And I really want you to take this book seriously. I want you to take time now, before the year begins, don't wait till January. What do you want? What are you hoping for? What is in your heart? What do you want to go after? How would you like to see yourself?...


I want you to think of different things really quick. I want you to think of goals that would pertain to your physical or your fitness goals, which is also why most of you are here. If you have to write this down, write it down. Write physical goals, financial goals, relationship goals, spiritual goals, and emotional goals. All of these things work together and if one of them isn't working, it's going to affect the other areas in your life.


Again, it's physical, emotional, spiritual, relationships, and financial. You don't have to have very directive and specific goals, but just be aware. What do you want different in your relationships? Is there something, or somebody, like a child or a spouse that you need to pour into this year? What do you want to happen to your finances?... You can't just wish for things to happen. Everything has to be very strategic and focused. You have your Physical goals, that's why most of you are here. Spiritual goals, or setting your mindset. That's why I do books and different things every morning to help you with your mindset...

ɪ ʜᴀᴅ ᴀ ꜱᴜᴘᴇʀ ɪɴᴛᴇʀᴇꜱᴛɪɴɢ ᴄᴏɴᴠᴇʀꜱᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴜᴘʟᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ʏᴇꜱᴛᴇʀᴅᴀʏ ᴀɴᴅ ʏᴏᴜ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴡʜᴀᴛ? ᴛʜɪꜱ ɪꜱ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ'ʟʟ ᴛᴇʟʟ ʏᴏᴜ, "ʜᴜʀᴛ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ, ʜᴜʀᴛ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ". ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ꜱᴀʏ ᴡʜᴇɴ ꜱᴏᴍᴇʙᴏᴅʏ ᴀᴛᴛᴀᴄᴋꜱ ᴍᴇ. ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ꜱᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ᴋɴᴏᴡ, ᴡʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴏɴ ꜱᴏᴄɪᴀʟ ᴍᴇᴅɪᴀ, ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴛᴏʀʏ ʙᴇʜɪɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴛᴏʀʏ.
There are stories behind the stories shown in social media

Some of you have been watching my sister's house, which I've been sharing. But the story behind that would be, my sister's house burned down. They escaped the house at three o'clock in the morning before it blew up. This happened two years ago before COVID hit. So her entire house was on fire, there was an electrical issue. And they had been living in a dorm college apartment for two years with their two kids. But they've worked really hard, my sister went from having nothing to working their butts off for fifteen years. They have what they have today because they've worked really hard for it.


ꜱᴏ ʀᴇᴍᴇᴍʙᴇʀ, ᴡʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ꜱʜᴀʀɪɴɢ ꜱᴛᴜꜰꜰ ᴏɴʟɪɴᴇ, ʏᴏᴜ ʙᴀꜱɪᴄᴀʟʟʏ ᴏɴʟʏ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴏᴅ ᴘᴀʀᴛ. ʏᴏᴜ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ, ᴀɴᴅ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡɪꜱʜ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇʏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ. ʙᴜᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴛᴏʀɪᴇꜱ ʙᴇʜɪɴᴅ ɪᴛ. ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴏꜰ ɪᴛ ɪꜱ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇᴀʀ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴀᴘᴘʏ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ, ɪᴛ'ꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ꜰᴜɴ ᴛᴏ ʟɪꜱᴛᴇɴ ᴛᴏ ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴀᴅ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ. ꜱᴏ ᴡʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ ʟᴏᴏᴋ ᴀᴛ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇʏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ, ᴍᴏꜱᴛ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀʀᴇɴ'ᴛ ꜱᴘᴏᴏɴ-ꜰᴇᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴡᴏʀᴋᴇᴅ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ʜᴀʀᴅ ꜰᴏʀ ɪᴛ...


That's what you're going to do this next year. Whatever you're wanting, whatever you want to achieve, you're going to have to work hard for it. Like my sister and her family also has worked really hard. So while I'm having fun with the pictures on my stories, it's not to brag or boast about what she has, or to make anybody feel less. We all have to have an awareness that social media always has stories, behind the story. In relation to that, do not compare yourself to anybody else, especially your physical goals. You're going to focus on what you want. We're going to talk about those five spokes, and the nine steps in setting your goals.

ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ɢᴇᴛ ꜱᴛʀᴀᴛᴇɢɪᴄ, ᴛᴏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ꜱᴜʀᴇ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴡʀɪᴛɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ᴅᴏᴡɴ. ɪ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜ, ɪ ᴄᴀɴ ᴏɴʟʏ ᴇɴᴄᴏᴜʀᴀɢᴇ ʏᴏᴜ. ɪ ᴄᴀɴ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴄᴀɴ ᴀɴꜱᴡᴇʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ. ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ʟɪꜱᴛᴇɴᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪᴠᴇ ᴠɪᴅᴇᴏꜱ ʙᴇꜰᴏʀᴇ ᴄʜʀɪꜱᴛᴍᴀꜱ, ᴡᴇ ᴛᴀʟᴋᴇᴅ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ꜱᴇᴛᴛɪɴɢꜱ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ.

Number One: Write

your goals down.

The reason why you have to write them down is for those goals to get into your subconscious.


Number Two: Ask

yourself why?

What is the real reason that you actually want this? So after every goal that you've written, you're supposed to write "Why" beside it. And if you can't answer that, then we're going to come back to it later.


Number Three:

Eliminating goals

You're supposed to make an entire list of everything that you want to be, you want to do and you want to have. Don't leave anything unwritten. Don't think about how you're going to afford it, or how you're going to do it. But just write down the things you would love to have, be, or do, and then ask yourself "Why?"... Here is the third step, eliminating.

You must know which goals to keep, and remove

ʜᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴍᴀʏ ꜱᴏᴜɴᴅ ᴀ ʙɪᴛ ɴᴇɢᴀᴛɪᴠᴇ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴡᴇ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴇʟɪᴍɪɴᴀᴛɪɴɢ ꜱᴏᴍᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡʀᴏᴛᴇ. ɪ ᴍɪɢʜᴛ ᴀꜱ ᴡᴇʟʟ ᴛᴇʟʟ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛʜɪꜱ, ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴏʀ ᴅᴏ ᴏʀ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴀʀᴛɪᴄᴜʟᴀᴛᴇ ɪᴛ ɪɴ ᴏɴᴇ ꜱᴇɴᴛᴇɴᴄᴇ. ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ʟᴏᴏᴋ ᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ꜱᴀʏ ᴡʜʏ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ɪᴛ, ʏᴏᴜ ᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴏʀ ᴅᴏ ᴏʀ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɪᴛ, ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴄᴏᴍᴇꜱ ᴏꜰꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʟɪꜱᴛ"...


By the way, the book is called "Goals" by Zig Ziglar. It's a really good book. It was gifted to me, and I love it because it's so simple to read. We should have done this in January, but we're going to work through it really fast. And so if you're writing these down, you can go back and listen to it again. I'll write the steps on the header so you can go back and just copy and paste...


Number Four:

Balance

He said, "Have different goals, for physical, mental, spiritual, social, financial, career or family". You must have different goals for different areas of your life. Because if you're focusing everything on your health and fitness, and forget about your relationships, your finances or something else falls by the wayside. You're going to have to come back later and pick it up. I know there's really no perfect balance, but just enough to where you're not ignoring the other areas in your life. Like your spouse, work, finances, or your health.


Number Five:

Explore

He said, "If you can't answer yes to at least one of the questions I'm going to give to you, then you need to strike those goals off the list. Do not blackout or block them off. You can come back to them later.


ꜱᴏ ʜᴇʀᴇ ᴀʀᴇ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴜᴘʟᴇ ᴏꜰ Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ:

  • ᴡɪʟʟ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪꜱ ɢᴏᴀʟ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴍᴇ ʜᴀᴘᴘɪᴇʀ?

  • ᴡɪʟʟ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪꜱ ɢᴏᴀʟ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴍᴇ ʜᴇᴀʟᴛʜɪᴇʀ?

  • ᴡɪʟʟ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴀʟ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴍᴇ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴘʀᴏꜱᴘᴇʀᴏᴜꜱ?

  • ᴡɪʟʟ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴀʟ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴍᴇ ꜱᴏᴍᴇ ꜰʀɪᴇɴᴅꜱ?

  • ᴡɪʟʟ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴀʟ ʙʀɪɴɢ ᴍᴇ ᴘᴇᴀᴄᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴍɪɴᴅ?


It's just being aware of why you want what you're going after. I had this older couple share with me the other day, I think they were probably in their 70s. They shared what they used to do every year, they would sit down as a family and come up with ten things their family would be focusing on that year. If something did not align with those ten things, they would say no to it, like an opportunity or an invitation. Because they believe that you should save your best yes.


ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ɪꜱ ɢᴏᴏᴅ ᴅᴏᴇꜱɴ'ᴛ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ɪᴛ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴏ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴇ ᴛɪᴍᴇ. ᴛʜɪɴɢꜱ ᴄᴏᴍᴇ ɪɴ ꜱᴇᴀꜱᴏɴꜱ, ꜱᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇ. ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴘᴜᴛ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴏꜰꜰ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʟɪꜱᴛ, ᴅᴏᴇꜱɴ'ᴛ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴄᴏᴍᴇ ʙᴀᴄᴋ ᴛᴏ ɪᴛ. ʙᴜᴛ ꜰᴏʀ ɴᴏᴡ, ʟᴇᴛ'ꜱ ɢᴏ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ʙᴇꜱᴛ ʏᴇꜱ.


Number Six: Stretch

It's great to have goals that you can achieve. They're smart goals, realistic, time-sensitive, and you're going to go after them for the entire year. But you should have a goal or two that's going to really stretch you. Maybe like, "I'm going to go to the gym five days a week", "I'm going to only allow myself to have my favorite thing on Sundays". Write something that's going to stretch you. He said, "In order for big things to happen, you have to accomplish the little goals designated along the way. Goals need to be ongoing"...

ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀꜱᴋ ᴍᴇ, "ʏᴏᴜ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ꜰᴏʀ ꜱɪx ᴀɴᴅ ᴀ ʜᴀʟꜰ ʏᴇᴀʀꜱ?". ᴍʏ ꜰᴀᴍɪʟʏ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴋᴇᴛᴏ ᴀɴᴅ ʟᴏᴡ ᴄᴀʀʙ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴡᴇ'ᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴄᴏᴍᴇ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴡʜᴏʟᴇ ꜰᴏᴏᴅꜱ. ɪᴛ'ꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴀᴄʜɪᴇᴠᴇᴅ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ɪ ʟᴏꜱᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴀʙʏ ᴡᴇɪɢʜᴛ. ɪᴛ'ꜱ ᴀ ʟɪꜰᴇꜱᴛʏʟᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪꜱ ᴇᴠᴇʀ-ꜰʟᴏᴡɪɴɢ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴡᴇ ꜰᴇᴇʟ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ.

Number Seven:

Negativity Check

He said, "A goal can be negative if it is completely out of your field of interest or expertise. If you have to depend on luck in order to get it, get it off the list. What we're going to do is keep the main thing, the main thing". Make the list, and ask yourself why are you doing it. You're going to probably take some things off the list to focus on certain things for this year.


Number Eight: Ask

Five Questions

Which is similar to, "Is it really my goal?". You don't want to be having other people's goals, so make sure it's yours. Us parents can easily tell our kids, "You should do this", or "You would be great at that". But it needs to be something they're passionate about, make sure it's their goal. He said, "Is this goal morally right and fair to everyone that's in my circle? Will this goal take me closer or further away from my major objectives?". What's your overall goal? If your overall goal this year is to lose sixty or a hundred pounds, make sure all of your other goals tie together. Like your reading, mindset, and family. What are you doing as a family, or maybe you're all doing it as a family? Just make sure all of them tie up together.


ɪꜰ ɪᴛ'ꜱ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛᴏᴛᴀʟʟʏ ʀᴀɴᴅᴏᴍ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴅᴏᴇꜱɴ'ᴛ ᴀʟɪɢɴ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴍᴀᴊᴏʀ ɢᴏᴀʟ ᴛʜɪꜱ ʏᴇᴀʀ, ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛᴀᴋᴇ ɪᴛ ᴏꜰꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪꜱᴛ... "ᴄᴀɴ ɪ ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟʟʏ ᴄᴏᴍᴍɪᴛ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ꜰɪɴɪꜱʜɪɴɢ?". ᴛʜɪꜱ ɪꜱ ᴀ Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴ ʏᴏᴜ ꜱʜᴏᴜʟᴅ ʙᴇ ᴀꜱᴋɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ, "ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴀᴍ ɪ ᴄᴏᴍᴍɪᴛᴛᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ꜰɪɴɪꜱʜɪɴɢ?", "ᴄᴀɴ ɪ ꜱᴇᴇ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴀʟ?". ᴀɢᴀɪɴ, ɪꜰ ɪᴛ'ꜱ ʟᴜᴄᴋ ᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ʙᴜᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴘʜʏꜱɪᴄᴀʟʟʏ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ꜱᴇᴇ ɪᴛ. ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ɪᴛ ᴀʟʟ ꜱᴛᴀʀᴛꜱ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴍɪɴᴅꜱᴇᴛ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜɪꜱ ɪꜱ ᴡʜʏ ᴡᴇ ʀᴇᴀᴅ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏ ᴍᴏʀɴɪɴɢ. ꜱᴏ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ꜱᴇᴇ ɪᴛ, ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ɪᴛ ᴅᴏᴡɴ, ᴀɴᴅ ɴᴏᴛ ᴠɪꜱᴜᴀʟɪᴢᴇ ɪᴛ. ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪᴋᴇʟɪʜᴏᴏᴅ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ʀᴇᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɢᴏᴀʟ ʙʏ ɴᴇxᴛ ʏᴇᴀʀ ɪꜱ ᴜɴʟɪᴋᴇʟʏ...


Number Nine: Choose Your Top Four

He said, "Most people really only can give complete effort to about four goals at the same time. You need to take inventory, again of why you're doing it. You need to write your goals down". There are things that I think we probably already know, but it would be good to have a reminder. Ask yourself these questions, "What are the benefits of you reaching the goal?", "Is it for me?", and "What are the obstacles that I need to just be aware of?"...

Find things that can help motivate you

For fat loss, what are the obstacles that might be in your way this year? Obstacles could be the doughnuts in the break room or the certain foods at your workplace. It could be your sweet tooth or birthday parties. It could be things like the gym is twenty minutes away and you don't have your workout clothes. You just have to be aware of what you're going to have to breakthrough.


ᴍɪɴᴅꜰᴜʟɴᴇꜱꜱ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ, "ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ʙɪʀᴛʜᴅᴀʏ ᴘᴀʀᴛʏ", "ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʙʀɪɴɢ ᴍʏ ᴏᴡɴ ꜱɴᴀᴄᴋ", "ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴀᴛ ʙᴇꜰᴏʀᴇ ɪ ɢᴏ", "ɪ'ᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴏᴜɢʜɴᴜᴛ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘʟᴀʏ ʟᴏᴜɴɢᴇ", "ɪ'ᴍ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʀᴇᴡᴀʀᴅ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏ ᴡᴇᴇᴋ ɪꜰ ɪ ᴅᴏ ɢʀᴇᴀᴛ"...


Something to help with your motivation, but don't use food as a reward. What are some fun things you can do? Have fun with it. Get yourself a calendar, give yourself a gold star when you do great that day. What is something that you want? It could be small, like going to a movie or going to your favorite restaurant... There are a lot more things I'm going to go through.

ʜᴇ ꜱᴀɪᴅ, "ɪᴛ'ꜱ ᴀʟʟ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴛᴀɪʟꜱ. ꜰɪʀꜱᴛ, ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴇᴄɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴇɴ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ɪᴛ ᴅᴏᴡɴ"...

It's just commitment and discipline. So we're going to revisit this soon. I'm going to type all nine steps in the header so you can go back and just have an awareness. You can work through that today and tomorrow, and then I'll come back and share more with you. This book is really small, you can grab a copy, fill it in, and work through it next week and into January. But anyway, I'm here to answer any questions that you have. This page is here to help support you, guide you, help you with accountability, and let you know that you're not by yourself. You might feel alone in the environment that you're in, but everybody here is wanting better. I will come back and answer all of your questions later on. We're going to finish Christmas with all of the grandkids...

Work hard, and someday you will reap what you sow

ʙᴜᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴛʜɪꜱ, ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴛᴀᴋᴇꜱ ᴛᴏ ɢᴏ ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴡᴀɴᴛ. ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ ꜱᴏᴍᴇʙᴏᴅʏ ᴇʟꜱᴇ. ɪ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴏɴ ꜱᴏᴄɪᴀʟ ᴍᴇᴅɪᴀ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴀʀɴ ꜰʀᴏᴍ ᴛʜᴇᴍ. ʙᴜᴛ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴏɴ ꜱᴏᴄɪᴀʟ ᴍᴇᴅɪᴀ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴘᴀʀɪɴɢ, ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴇɴᴠɪᴏᴜꜱ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪᴛ ᴍᴀᴋᴇꜱ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀɴɢʀʏ ᴀɴᴅ ʙɪᴛᴛᴇʀ. ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ꜱᴛᴏᴘ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇᴍ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ɪ ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ꜰᴇᴇʟ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴡᴀʏ.


Our life is the same as my sister's, I don't want to say we didn't have hardships but we've always been blessed. If only you saw my life back when we had four babies, and my husband worked in the ministry. Sometimes people tell me, "Your house is so beautiful. How did you get that?". I want to say, we've worked really hard for almost seven years or longer. We've worked on ourselves and our finances since we got married. We've had mentors, we've gone to classes, and we've always been working on our mindset and pouring into ourselves.


ɴᴏᴡ, ᴡᴇ'ᴠᴇ ʀᴇᴀᴘᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇɴᴇꜰɪᴛꜱ ᴏꜰ ꜱᴏᴍᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴏꜱᴇ ꜱᴇᴇᴅꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴡᴇ ᴘʟᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪᴛ ᴡᴀꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ᴏᴠᴇʀɴɪɢʜᴛ. ꜱᴏ ɪ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀᴡᴀʀᴇ, ᴀꜱ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ᴅɪᴠɪɴɢ ɪɴᴛᴏ ʏᴏᴜʀ ɢᴏᴀʟꜱ, ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ, ʀᴇᴀᴅ ɢᴏᴏᴅ ʙᴏᴏᴋꜱ, ꜰᴏʟʟᴏᴡ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪɴꜱᴘɪʀᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀɴᴅ ɴᴏᴛ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ꜰᴇᴇʟ ʙᴀᴅ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ. ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ᴡɪʟʟ ʙᴇ ᴛɪᴍᴇꜱ, ᴡʜᴇɴ ɪ'ʟʟ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴄʜᴇᴄᴋ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ꜱᴀʏ, "ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴ ɪꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴏꜰꜰᴇɴᴅ ᴍᴇ". ɪᴛ'ꜱ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ ɪɴꜱɪᴅᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴍᴇ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴜꜱᴜᴀʟʟʏ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴏꜰꜰᴇɴᴅꜱ ᴍᴇ ɪꜱ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ.

So then I would have to do an inner check, "Why am I jealous?", "Why do I want that?", "I better check myself", or "I'm not going to delete that person but maybe just unfollow for a little bit, till I get myself in check". And as you dive into your goals, ask yourself, "What do you want?", "What can you see yourself achieve?". Let me help you. I hope you have an incredible day, I'm always here to help. I look forward to walking you through more of this book.


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