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CHASING DAYLIGHT (Chapter 2.2): Change your thoughts, Change your life | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Jan 17, 2022

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 "For me, it began with a simple change of perspective, I want my life to be defined by what I give. So many moments are lost when I'm looking for only what I get. If you change the focus and look at helping others, it's going to take your own fears away, your doubts away, and your insecurities away" ~ Erwin McManus

Points to Ponder:

02:22 Get Your Mindset Under Control

03:08 Erwin McManus

03:44 The Normal Guy

05:01 You Can Change Your Own Life

05:34 What Am I Thankful for?

06:24 Waking Up With A Different Perspective

06:52 Change The World Today

07:31 When You're Full, You Can Overflow Into Others

08:22 Your Words Are Powerful

09:55 Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

11:36 If You Think You Can, You Will

12:28 You Can't Give What You Don't Have

13:09 Giving To Others

13:43 You Are Worth It

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey, everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, and we're going to dive into the mindset. And so I labeled this, "Change your thoughts, change your life"... We're going through a book called "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin McManus. I've got a fun a couple of things to share from a podcast that I was listening to, and it goes right along with the book. Sos as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? Who worked out this morning? I just got done working out. I sometimes feel like I have to tell you that, so you don't think I always look like this. And then I do a live video in the afternoon, and you might say "Oh, she really does always look like this"... But we have four daughters, we homeschool, we work from home, everything is done from our home.

Welcome to Day 6 of our Book 8 session
Don't be worried, we actually get out a lot, and I might always look like this. It's cold here, I'm from Minnesota. There's no snow yet, but usually, we'll see some snow in November and December, and it stays till April.

So I'm done working out, and I love morning workouts in... I'm excited to share with you, and we're actually going to wrap up chapter two. There are only a couple of pages left and we'll start Chapter Three tomorrow. I also listened to a great podcast last night before bed. I was going to share a couple of thoughts about it with you...

Yes! I love when people around here are from Minnesota. You know why I am in so many clothes, and I always throw this on after I'm done working out. It's like a jacket sweatshirt, and I love it. It's from Fleet Farm, like those farming stores...

Alright! Are you ready? This is going to be good, so don't tune out. I actually would encourage you to share it, because there's a lot of people that just need help with their mindset. And if they could get their mindset on track, they would be unstoppable, they really would. I believe the most valuable thing you can do for yourself is to read, to get your mindset or your thoughts under control. That way you can go after the dreams, goals, and visions that you have. If you can't get your mindset under control, then everything else is going to fall by the wayside. You're going to quit, get frustrated, and you're going to give up. But if you can control your thoughts, you will be shocked at how you won't give up, you won't quit, and you will go further faster. One hundred percent, I believe it with all of my heart...

The story of "The Normal Guy"

So we are on page fifty-eight (p.58). If you're following along, we are on the very last two pages of the chapter. I'm going to read to you just a quick story because this is exactly how I think about people. I'll tell you why in a second... The author's name is Erwin McManus, and he's a pastor out in LA. He said "Several years ago, I found myself frustrated when one of my staff members lacked initiative, to say the least. I tried everything that I could think of, from trying to encourage, to inspire, to help him create, to hold him accountable. I did everything. So I finally called my brother Alex, who always had great insight and an unusual perspective on everything. I asked for some advice, and my brother said 'The problem is obvious, the guy is normal"...

The guy lacked initiative and isn't swayed by inspiration. No amount of encouragement was helping him do more or think differently.

His brother said, "Oh the guy's normal, that's really the problem. You think everyone wakes up every morning thinking about how they can change the world?"... That's just not where most people are at, and I think the same thing. I always think to myself, everybody wakes up happy, and everybody wakes up thankful. Of course, everybody wakes up with excitement to read. In my mind, I ask somebody what are you reading right now? It's one of my first questions. But they'd be like "I haven't read a book since high school".

And I'd be like, "What? You haven't read a book since high school?"... Or I would ask what podcasts are you listening to? "I don't know what, or who should I listen to?"
Every morning I ask myself, "How can I change the world?"

I think the same way pastor Erwin McManus does. I'm always like, why would you not get up and read? I don't understand, aren't you excited when you get up? You're going to change the world?... That's just not the case, but you can change that, and you can change your own life. You can change your own excitement when you wake up in the morning, by reading, listening to other people, and by doing a perspective change.

He said, "I wake up pretty much every morning asking the question, 'How can I change the world?'".

I think the same way, like "What do I get to do today?". "I get to do", not "I have to"... It's so great when you can wake up and you're like, "What am I thankful for?". I get to get up, I get to go pick up my kids, I get to homeschool them, I get to eat healthily, I get to work out, and yes, I get to read...

I have to pull myself away from the table because I love to read, so I can share it with you. Maybe that's why we're doing this, so I can help some of you read. Which is so important. He said, "For me, it began with a simple change of perspective, I want my life to be defined by what I give. So many moments are lost when I'm looking for only what I get"... He said it changed when all of a sudden he realized that it's not just about him, or his life. Like, I don't get up in the morning and go "Woe is me", "Woe is me, I don't want to work out"...

But what if you woke up every morning with a different perspective, like "Who do I get to serve?", "Whose life do I get to help change? My children, my spouse, my coworker, my employees, the lady down the street?", "Who can I smile at?", "Who can I open the door for", "Who can I say good morning to, or I hope you have a great day?...
It's all about Perspective! Smile instead of Frown

What if it's not about you, but it's about everybody else. You got up with that perspective of "I'm going to change the world today"... If that means I just pay for somebody's coffee, or I send a text message saying "I'm thinking of you, I hope you have a great day". I smile instead of frown, I give instead of taking... Do you think you would have a different perspective on life? One hundred percent.

He said "If you change the focus and look at helping others, it's going to take your own fears away, your doubts away, and your insecurities away"... You are going to accomplish more in life with a perspective change. With a heart of thankfulness, like "I'm going to change the world". Part of that means you work on yourself because when you feel better, you're going to give it to others. When you are full, you can overflow into others. And it's the little things, like getting up in the morning and saying one thing you're thankful for. So right now, share below what is that one thing you're thankful for.

We need to change what's overflowing out of our hearts. The overflow of your heart, your mouth speaks. Do you want to know what's in people's minds and hearts? Listen to the words they speak.

Out of the mind, and out of the heart, the words come. It's not hard to determine where somebody is at if you just listen to them for five minutes. Listen to yourself for five minutes, you might be saying "If somebody listened to me speak, they would know what is truly in my heart and in my mind. How I think, how I perceive people, how I perceived life"... Your words are powerful. We tell our girls this message all the time... Listen, I don't have to interview you, all I have to do is sit down and have a conversation with you and I can figure out how you're thinking and what you believe. Your words tell on you, good or bad... One thing you could do is pay attention to what you're speaking. I don't want to be perceived as a negative Debbie Downer. I don't want to be perceived as one of those people that has nothing better to say, but to gossip and put other people down. Or "She is negative, ugh!" No!

"I vote for abnormality. I choose insanity"

Start working on changing that, and you're going to be giving back to others. You'll inspire others, you'll find yourself being more thankful and grateful if you just watch your words. Not many of you said what you're thankful for, so say it. Your words are powerful. What are you thankful for? I'm thankful for books, I'm thankful for other people who have given their time to write, share and inspire us to be better. Alright! He said "If it's normal to wake up in the morning and just try to make it through the day, then I vote for abnormality. I choose insanity. Wake up tomorrow morning asking the dangerous question. 'What can I do today to make a difference in the world?'".

That's this chapter, and I've got a couple of things I want to share with you, then I'll let you go. So I listened to a podcast and this is what he said, "If you change your thoughts, you change your life". One hundred percent! If you can change the way you think about yourself, others, circumstances like "I don't have to", but "I get to", then you're going to change your entire life.

You're going to change how you work out, and your thoughts on eating. It's not going to be a diet, it's going to be "I want to feel better so I can inspire others". If I don't feel good, other people aren't going to feel good because I'm going to bark at them. I'm going to bark at my kids or my spouse because I'm just crabby.
If you think that you can, you will. If you think you can't, you won't

Change your thoughts, change your life. Okay! "As a man thinketh, so he is"... You are your thoughts. That's how people perceive you, and it's the words that come out of your mouth. "If you think that you can, you will"... Oftentimes people ask, "What podcasts do you listen to?" I listen to all pastors. If you want the podcast, I don't like the word religious, but it is about God, and so is the book. "But on a Keto page?". Yes!... Everything else from today on will be about recipes, tips, and tricks, and all of the things you want, that will tell you exactly how to eat. If you want the podcast, I'll just post a picture of the one I listened to, in my stories today. If you want it and you're open to listening to it, send me a message and say "I would love to know the podcast that you listened to"...

Alright! This is what the man said, "As a Man Thinketh, so he is. If you think that you can, you will. If you think that you can't, you won't. If you think that you will fail, you will. Your Thought Life determines the quality of your life"...

Your Thought Life determines the quality of your life. And how do you switch that? Perspective. Having a heart of thankfulness, being thankful, watching the words that you speak, and "I get to" not "I have to". Getting up in the morning and not being so self-centered. You're going to have self-care, you're going to get up and workout, you're going to get up and take care of yourself. You're going to get to workout, you get to eat healthily, you get to drink your water, you get to read your book, and then you get to give to others. You can't give what you don't have. If you don't have thankfulness in your heart, a better perspective, or passion for life? Then you can't give, what you don't have.

Your words are important, and you are worth it.

How can you give to your children, your spouse, or those around you, if you're constantly in an attitude and a Thought Life of negativity? Like I can't, I won't, and everybody else gets it, but not me. Of course, you're not going to change people's lives, because that's how you think. So I'm going to read this one more time, and I want you to think about it. I want you to think about your day, and pay attention to your words. I want you to think about your life today as giving.

Giving to others, "I am here to give", "I'm here to serve". "It's not just about me"... The way that I do that is, I pour into myself, I get my mindset right so that I can overflow into other people.

"As a man thinketh, so he is. If you think that you can, you will. If you think that you can't, you won't. If you think that you will fail, you will. Your Thought Life determines your quality of life"... I don't know how else I can say it. I don't know how many books we have to read before people finally decide that their mindset is important. That your words are important, that you are worth it. People are looking to you, and if that's the driving factor for you to start taking care of your body and your health, then that should be enough. What is your "Why?". "I'm getting healthy, so I can go on vacation". Nope! That's not going to work. "I'm getting healthy so that I can get into that wedding dress". That's awesome, you might achieve the goal, but it's not going to stick.

Why are you doing it? "So that I can be around for my kids and grandkids. So that I can go play basketball with them and inspire others. I can feel better and I can take care of this or that"... It's got to be bigger than yourself, because if it's not, then it's not going to stay...

I hope that was helpful in some way, shape, or form. We'll start chapter Three tomorrow. It's called "Uncertainty". All right! This is the book, "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin McManus. I hope you guys have an incredible morning, I need to go take care of my children. Have a great day, and we'll talk to you soon.

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