Updated: Oct 11, 2021
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The goal is not to read a book, the goal is to become a reader. The goal is not to lose weight, the goal is to become a healthy person for the rest of your life and to create a lifestyle. The goal is not to run a marathon, the goal should be I am a runner. The goal is not to learn an instrument, the goal is to become a musician. You need to figure out your identity, who do you want to become so that you can work that on. And then the outcome is met, because you are, therefore you do.
Points to Ponder
00:52 Day two of your Miracle Morning challenge
01:36 Chapter 2: Identity
02:35 Why is it so easy to repeat bad habits
03:09 Changing your habits is challenging
04:24 We don't try but we do
04:58 Outcome based habit VS. Identity based habits
05:25 The foundation of meeting your goals
07:20 Identity Change
07:40 The cycle comes in
09:30 Who do you want to be.
10:25 Taking small steps
11:23 What would a healthy person do
11:59 Building Better habits
12:28 Continuously edit your belief
Full Episode Transcript
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page, I hope you're having an incredible morning. For those of you who are brand new, we are going through "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. My goal every morning is to walk you through a chapter of a book for the rest of my life. Because I love to read, I understand the power of your mindset. And while I love to give you recipes, tips and tricks on your Keto, low carb lifestyle, I truly believe the number one and the most important thing in you achieving your goals is what's going on in your mind. So we've gone through a book in May and we started the "Morning Miracle" in the beginning of June. It's the middle of the month, happy middle of the month of June, we are diving into "Atomic Habits", and we're on chapter two, we are also in day two of your Miracle Morning challenge.
If you are doing it, which simply means you we are doing the sixty minutes, or the six minutes of your Miracle Morning, which involves silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading and journaling.
If you're doing it, how is your day two going?... So let me wrap this up, chapter two is incredible. I'm going to say I think it's probably one of the most important chapters. It's all important, but if you understand what he's about to talk about, he talks about your identity. If you do not have the book, I would take some notes as you're listening because it's super powerful, especially at the very end... By the way, I already worked out, we've had a crazy morning already and it's great. We have camps all day long, Tuesdays are crazy for us. So where are you tuning in from, and are you doing the "Miracle Morning?" It's not a big deal if you're not, I'm just curious. And as we go along, I'd love to know if you're understanding it, because it's great. Do you learn better by listening and watching things, or do you have to read it? I love both. So I love to listen to a book while I have the book in front of me, or I am a visual learner but I also love to listen. Okay, let's dive in...
"Why is it so easy to repeat bad habits and so hard to form good ones". "Habits like exercise, meditation, journaling, and cooking are reasonable for day to day, and then they become a hassle"... Why is that?
This is an incredible chapter, if you haven't listened at all, tune in later today and get all the Keto recipes you want.
Check out the page for the last six years, there's no shortage of information, but this is going to change your life. So you decide what you want to listen to... "Changing your habits is challenging for two reasons. Number one, we try to change the wrong thing, and number two, we try to change our habits in the wrong way". So he says "First of all, the first mistake is that we try to change the wrong thing. There's three layers of behavior in your change. The first one is changing your outcome"... It's your goals, and what you want, we're going to look at changing that. "The second layer is changing the process.
The third layer is changing your identity"... I love this chapter because he's going to go into your identity. How are you identifying yourself as, what are you identifying yourself as, or how do you look at yourself?
Because if you don't see a healthier person, if you don't see or tell yourself, you're an athlete, or you are already a gym goer, and if you're constantly going "I'm working on it, I'm trying to"... my husband's really great at this. He heard somebody say, "I'm trying to do that", and I'm pretty sure it was our CEO who said "No, we don't try but we do"... You're not going to try to do that, you have to see yourself as that. You're not going to try, but you're doing it, it's a mind shift. We talk about "I don't have to, I get to" it's the same concept with your identity. He says "Many people begin the process of changing their habits by focusing on what they want to achieve"... I want to lose a hundred pounds, I want to lose fifty pounds, I want to get stronger, or I want to be healthier. "This leads to an outcome based habit, the alternative is to build your identity based habits. With this approach, we will start by focusing on who you want to become"... If you don't have this book, I was going to try to rush through it and get it done in June. But we're not going to rush through it, we're going to go through this book until it's done, chapter by chapter. And then we'll dive into another book, which I'll show you, it's incredible.
I think this is the foundation of meeting your goals, creating a lifestyle and never looking back.
And not creating this vicious, year after year starting over. If you take this seriously, and you take action, it will change your life. If you don't take this seriously, here he says it "We're going to meet back every single year and start over"... So participate, take a nugget and then implement it, you have to take action. It's super powerful for other people to learn along with you. He says "Imagine two people resisting cigarettes". So they both want to quit smoking. "The first person says when somebody offers him a cigarette, No thanks, I'm trying to quit"... That's their outcome, it's not going to work or eventually, maybe. He goes, "We're going to work on your identity.
The second person is offered the same thing, but here's one little tweak. He says No, thank you. I am not a smoker"... They're both on the same path. Do you hear the difference? No, I'm trying to quit, No, I'm trying to go to the gym. No, I'm trying to lose weight versus I'm not a smoker. They both could have started at the same time, nope, not a smoker, I eat healthy, I'm an athlete. Even if it's your day one at the gym, nope, I'm a gym goer, don't skip it... You're taking on what you want the outcome to be, it is so powerful. So please continue to tune in until the end, because the end is incredible. It's an incredible mindset, I'll go through this as fast as I can. Most people don't even consider identity change, when they set out their goals. I want to be skinny is your outcome, and if I stick to this diet, then I'll be skinny, that's the process. But who are you becoming? What is the identity? If you don't see it here, if you don't see it, you're going to do it, you might reach the outcome and then you're going to give up and that's where the cycle comes in. Lose the weight, stop for a little bit because you've achieved it, and then gain the weight back. When you never took on, I am a healthy person, I am a strong person and I go to the gym every day. I make better choices, I am a healthy eater. All right, so there's so much, so many good things. this is incredible.
And he said "True behavior changes in identity change, you might start a habit because it motivates you. But the only reason that you'll stick with one is that it becomes part of who you are".
The goal is not to read a book, the goal is to become a reader. The goal is not to lose weight, the goal is to become a healthy person for the rest of your life and to create a lifestyle. The goal is not to run a marathon, the goal should be I am a runner. The goal is not to learn an instrument, the goal is to become a musician. You need to figure out your identity, who do you want to become so that you can work that on. And then the outcome is met, because you are, therefore you do. That's good, I'm sure I've heard that somewhere you are. So therefore you do. This is so good, I wish I could read it all to you. "The reason you fail to stick with habits is that you don't have your self image, and it gets in the way"... He said, "There's two steps to the process. Number one, decide the type of person that you want to be"... Who do you want to be? I'm a healthy, strong mom. I'm an encouraging incredible supportive wife.
You have to identify it, because when you identify it, then you will go after it and take the actions. Prove it to yourself with your small wins, if I am a runner I'm going to go running, if I am a strong athlete, I will go to the gym. Okay, here's the best part I need you to listen, this is so good.
"Once you have a handle on the type of person that you want to become, you can begin by taking small steps to reinforce your identity".
Then he said, I have a friend who lost a hundred pounds, what would a healthy person do. So every single day his friend said this, what would a healthy person do? Because she would say "I am a healthy person". That is your identity, I am a healthy person. So that means before she made any decision, whether it was going to the gym, or not eating the doughnut or drinking more water, she would tell herself before she ate anything. What would a healthy person do?
You might want to take a little post it note and then put that little saying on your refrigerator, or in your car, so you're not going through the drive thru.
Wherever you need to see it, on your mirror "What would a healthy person do?" All day long, she would use that question as a guide. Would a healthy person walk or take a cab, would a healthy person order a burrito or salad. And she figured if she acted like the healthy person, she longed to be her identity. Eventually she would become that person. And she was right, this is so good. So in in this entire thing, he's talking about your identity, what you are identifying as, so that you can create and go after the outcome, it will come. "Building Better habits isn't about littering your day with life hacks. it's not about flossing one tooth each night or taking a cold shower each morning or wearing the same outcome or outfit each day. It's not about achieving external measures of success, like earning more money, losing weight or reducing stress, habits can help you achieve all of these things. But fundamentally, they are not about having something, they are about who somebody is becoming. It's about who you are becoming". So my challenge to you today is this, becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously edit your beliefs and upgrade and expand your identity.
My challenge to you is figure out who you want to become, and you should write it down. Right now I'm guessing most of you want to be healthy, so I would write that question down. "What would a healthy person do?"
And you should own that, that's who you're becoming. Focus, on all you do today is figure out, what is my identity. Share it with a friend, share it with accountability partner or post below. I'd love to know what you're identifying as like, I am an athlete, I am not a smoker, I am not a drinker, I am a runner, I am a water drinker, I am not somebody who sit who hit snooze. But I am a morning person. If you keep saying I'm not a morning person, but you're working on, you aren't trying but you are doing the 30 days of the Miracle Morning, then there's no more "I'm not a morning person", instead it is "I am a morning person". If you are, then you will take the steps and the actions that will achieve the goal. All right. I hope that was helpful. We're on day two, we're going to continue this book until we get through it. I haven't figured out the date that will end but when we're done then we'll dive into a new book. It doesn't matter how long it takes us to get through it. We're going to take one chapter at a time it will go far into it'll go into probably the beginning of July or mid July. So this is the book, get it if you don't have the book, you want to tune in here every single day I will read to you every single day. I'd love for you to press the share button. And then for those of you who are doing the Miracle Morning, we're on day two, you've got 30 days for your challenge. So I hope you guys have an incredible day. Reach out with all of your questions.
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