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"ATOMIC HABITS" (Chapter 11): Walk Slow, But Not Backwards | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Oct 11, 2021

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If you're following me and every other Keto person in the world, gathering recipes, all of the tips and tricks, your motive is there, but if you don't take action, then it doesn't matter. The only way you're going to get fat loss, more muscle, make better choices, move your body have a better relationship with your kids, or anything that you want to accomplish, you have to take action on it. Not perfection, but you have to do something. You can think about I want to drink more water today, but picking up that water bottle and drinking it, is the action that actually produces the result.

Points to Ponder

00:18 "Atomic Habits" by James Clear

01:19 Self development

02:29 Getting your mindset right

03:13 Learning how to have self control

04:27 "Walk Slowly, But Never Backwards"

05:00 Group A and Group B

07:38 Action is the key

08:06 "The Best is the enemy of Good"

08:12 "Don't mess up good for perfect"

09:00 In Motion vs Taking Action

10:37 "Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod

12:46 Putting in your reps is one of the most crucial steps

12:57 The only way you fail is if you quit

14:16 The point is the repetition

15:21 The third law of behavior. Make it easy

16:22 Take action on one thing

16:48 The system is the repetition

Full Episode Transcript

Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page, we're diving into what I truly feel is one of the most important chapters of this book. All of it is important though, and we're going to talk about walking slow, but never going backwards. So if you're brand new, and you're tuning into the page, we're going through "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. We've been going through a book for the last almost two months, and the point of me going live about a book, a podcast or getting your mindset right, is to understand the power of mindset in anything that you're doing. Specifically on this page, if you don't have your mindset right, then you're going to grab the doughnut, or you're going to go backwards, or qui. I truly believe after six years of hopping on this page, and doing lives and talking to hundreds of people all the time. It's the mindset that gets people frustrated, it's the "I don't believe I can do it".

The negativity, and not being around people that push them. It's lack of accountability, and it's lack of purpose. So I just realized it the spring, if people are truly not developing themselves, or self development, then it doesn't matter.
Welcome to day 11 of our book 3 session

And I'll tell you, I have been spoiled with self development. It was our CEO pushing me in a good, respectful way, to get me out of my comfort zone and to grow. I told myself you should be reading every day, if your goal is to be a better you. You should be taking care of you whether you're a mom or a dad, or you own a business, or you were an employee, or you're an athlete. I am shocked at the lack of self development that people don't do.

And in my head, I've been doing it for six years. So I'm like of course I read everyday, of course I listen to podcasts. And I am careful of who I surround myself with one hundred percent.

And then I hear people going, I haven't read a book since high school. I'm like, really? I've been so ingrained in working on me, working on my kids, and sharing with other people, that I forget that most business and companies, colleges and even high schools don't talk about getting your mindset right, waking up with a grateful heart, and watching the words that you speak. There are things that our children need to be learning. I've never been more aware of the things that as adults, I wish we would have been taught in high school. What I need to be teaching my kids is, most subjects can be learned.

We can go Google something or ask Siri and she's going to tell you. Or ask Alexa, and she'll tell you how many times the sun rotates around the Earth. But what matters is learning how to have self control, learning how to handle your EQ, your emotions, and being adaptable in life circumstances. Being able to have discipline, in all areas of your life, your words matter, the things that you're listening to, what you're watching and reading matter. Those are the things that we need to be teaching our kids. And as adults, you have to learn it so that you can be a positive influence, and your children can watch you and do the same thing. So with all of that, I don't know where it came from, but that's why I do these lives, mainly because it holds me accountable to getting up and reading every single day. I love to help other people do that, if you're not going through the book, then you can follow me and I'll walk you through the book. This is what we're going through, and when we're done we're going to go through a new book, So we're on chapter 11 and this is one of my favorite chapters.

We need to focus on Self development

If you've never tuned in before, this is the best chapter to start with. I would encourage you to grab the book, but if not, go watch the other videos I do every day. If you're brand new, post new below. Okay so

"Walk Slowly, But Never Backwards"...

Incredible! So he tells a story, so there's a lot of science in the book, a lot of data, there's stories and then there's always an action step. So in the beginning of this chapter, there was a professor who was teaching a photography course and he split the class into two.

He said here's how I'm going to grade you, Group A all you're going to do is submit one piece of art. That's it, and you're going to be graded over the entire semester of this one piece of art. And then Group B, you are going to be graded on how many projects you create over the course of the semester. You have to have at least 100. So you've got one group who has to submit only one really good project and you've got the other group who has to submit at least a hundred pieces of art.

Before I finished the paragraph, the group that only had to do one was who I thought will actually do better. I forgot I have read this before, and I forgot. And then as you read it, the group that had to create at least a hundred pieces of art, did the best. It wasn't the quality, it was the quantity that created the best outcome, and that's where we're going to start. He talks about "In the process of creating hundreds of photos, they honed in on skills'... So what happened was, the people that only had to do one project focused on perfection. They didn't learn new skills, they didn't fail and pick up and try again. They didn't figure out the real piece of art that they loved. They were so focused on perfection of one, that they did not do very well. However, the group that focused on quantity did incredible. Because they had to try new things, they failed and they figured out new things. They had a different perspective and overall, had better art. So here's where I thought it was super powerful, I've got almost a page to read to you. I promise you, if you're not reading the book, you should listen but if you're reading the book then go through this yourself.

Planning without Action won't work
"The quality group didn't focus on perfection, in the end, they had a little to show for the effort of their unverified theories. So they just were mediocre. It is easy to get bogged down by trying to find the optimal plan for change... The fastest way to weight loss, the best program to build muscle, the perfect idea for a side hustle. We are so focused on figuring out the best approach that we never get around to taking action"...

Action is the key. I coach my team in the business world, if you are learning from me on how to do things, social media, or whatever it is. If you are not taking action, it doesn't matter. If you're following me and every other Keto person in the world, gathering recipes, all of the tips and tricks, so your moti