THE 15 INVALUABLE LAWS OF GROWTH (Chapter 13): The Law of Modeling | Keto Mom Book Club
"𝗜 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲. 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝘁𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀. 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱. 𝗔𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗿𝗲". ~𝗝𝗼𝗵𝗻 𝗠𝗮𝘅𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹Full Episode Transcript:
Hey everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie and we're going to do our morning mindset. We're going to finish, "The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth" by John Maxwell. We're going to talk about mentors, habit stacking, and I'm going to also shake up my ketones.
How do I just get started with better habits?
How do I just get started on a focused path?
Oftentimes, we want to be better, my life to be better, and I want to lead by example. There are so many things that I want to do, but where do I get started? So that's what we're going to talk about today.
A little side notes: There are so many of you that are snowed in, I'm so sorry to hear that. But in all reality, what's interesting is Perspective.
Perspective my friends, because the snow isn't bad, it actually is quite beautiful.
The cold isn't bad because it actually kills things so they don't become overpopulated. Even in Florida, you still have crazy weather in the summers. You deal with hurricanes, and there are lots of bugs, wherever you go. But you can still see positive things that you love.
I actually love Minnesota, I love living up north. I love that I can jump in a lake and not worry about an alligator. I love that we just deal with snow and mosquitoes. I don't love the negative degrees, but as soon as it hits 15 degrees or above, it's fine. So have perspective. Yes, you're snowed in, but you get to spend some peaceful time at home, start a fire, read a book or just have a down day.
If your goal is to start habit stacking, or getting better in so many different areas of your life. For example, your health, then you need to eat better and make better choices. But where do you start, and what do you do?
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𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼'𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗵. 𝗔 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝗞𝗲𝘁𝗼, 𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗯 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝘆. 𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺, 𝘀𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗽𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆.
This is what I want you to do. When you're just starting and you feel like you need to fix relationships in your life, your finances, and all of the other things. He said one of the first things you really should do is find a mentor. A mentor can be in a form of a book or a podcast. He said to be super picky with the books that you read, the lessons that you learned, the people that you watch, and the conferences you attend.
So think of how many people are trying to do it all by themselves. It can help to listen to somebody who's already done it before you. If you can get out of your comfort zone and ask a simple question, you will learn from people who've already done it and you will go further faster.
That's the power of wisdom. It's finding people that you would love to learn from. My husband does this all the time, whenever we go out in public. Like one time, an older couple said, "We have four girls too". So every time somebody asks questions about our kids or homeschooling, my husband usually asks them, "Give me your best tip to raising girls. Tell me one thing that I need to know about how to raise my daughters better".
Ask! Ask the people that have gone before you, about whatever it is you're dealing with in your life. Ask somebody in person, or there are so many podcasts out there, which are free.
Education is free, but be picky and be choosy. There are also books, parenting books, incredible marriage books, or incredible health books. These are materials that can help you in any area of your life.
"𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴".
He talks about taking notes, writing down your points, learning from any person that you choose to learn from, and then taking action on that.
My husband Steve is here, he wants to sit by me and also talk about mentors, taking action and habit stacking. But then I also want to dive into, "How do you start?"
"𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀".
You are all here to learn and grow. Mentors are worthy examples and are available, whether it's a book or a personal mentor. We had great mentors growing up.
"𝗜 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲. 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝘁𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀. 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱. 𝗔𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗱𝗺𝗶𝗿𝗲".
You need to find people that you want to follow, but you have to look at their character. You can follow people, but you need to watch their actions and not just what they're saying. How about you Steve? Do you have anything you wanna say so far?
I would say this, so often people define success as certain characteristics, statuses or how much money you make. It's usually around status ranked, recognition, or whatever people often think. But at the end of the day, I would encourage you to look at your character. Your character is what matters the most, 100%.
Here's the other thing with mentors. Your best mentors do not have to be somebody that you sit down with. It could be people who you look up to or people who you respect. They can come in the form of books, podcasts, zooms, live videos, or mastermind groups.
So don't pinhole yourself to just having a mentor with who you can sit down and have coffee with him. If you can physically meet with somebody in person, that would be amazing. That would be a tremendous blessing.
But if you can't, then there are so many great people that you can still learn from. I would also say use your discernment and learn from them. Take it, internalize it and but you don't have to to take all of their advices. You can take the advice that is applicable to you in that season.
Sometimes, we'll hear something from a prophet who will give us wisdom. What we do is we put a pin in it, we put it on the bookshelf, we think through it, and we pull it back out when it applies to us at that time.
"𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵. 𝗢𝗯𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲, 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲".
You're going to watch them too because if they're not doing what they say, it's no different than parenting. I hate it when parents say, "Just do because I said so", or "Don't do is I do, do is I say?" Have you ever heard people say that?
Yeah, it's a terrible thing to say. I don't care what you say but your children are watching everything that you do. And your children are a direct reflection of how you behave. So don't just say the words, but your action is what really matters. You need to watch the character of the people or mentors that are coaching you. You need to watch what they're doing if they are really doing what they're telling you to do.
"𝗔𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲".
In simpler terms, you just need a coach that's going to give you feedback, and sometimes it's hard.
Are you open to feedback?
The best feedback I get is from this amazing lady right here. But then she always says, "I'm not going to give you any more feedback, because you don't want to listen". And the reality is, I really do listen. I had to explain to her that sometimes the coaching can be harsh. But then you realize that you do actually need to make some improvements and some changes. And if you can't handle my nonverbal communication, like I don't physically yell but my nostrils flare up, and supposedly, I get really angry. I really do need coaching, but I have to process it.
So I told her, sometimes, you have to process that feedback or that coaching that you got. I love it, but I had to figure out how I can apply it? Because you have to apply it, you have a client. So we kind of talked about reverse engineering yesterday. And it can sound like a scary thing. But the reality is, if it's a goal, if it's a dream, if it's a vision, you have to put a strategy behind it, if you don't have the strategy, if you don't like habit stacking, for example, if you don't put that stuff into play, it never really ever gets accomplished, right?
So you have to apply the feedback. I love the feedback I get from Stephanie, but I just need a moment to process it. I need a moment to put it into a strategy so that I can apply it.
Okay, so if we take a little pivot, and we talk about the power of your mindset. I believe that if your goal is to get better in any area of your life, you want to do something called "Habit Stacking".
We can't just dive in and be the best at everything.
I wrote down a couple of things like if your goal is to just be better in all areas of your life, then you're going to have to own your morning. You're going to get up with the first alarm clock, so you can value your time.
Why did you get up today?
Because I had a focus and I had a strong enough "Why". I had a strong, compelling reason to get out of bed because I want to talk to all of you.
Habit Stacking would be...
I want you to get up every single morning
I want you to read a book
I want you to tune into the live video
I want you to work on your mindset
I want you to say what you're thankful for
I want you to journal
I want you to get your workout in
I want you to drink your ketones
I want you to drink your water
I want you to do all of these things even though some of them may seem overwhelming. That is what habit stacking is all about, you pick one thing at a time, and you get really good at that. Then you add something else until you create a stack of habits.
It's an accumulation of a number of little things, instead of one gigantic, massive change. And that's the book that we're going to talk about next, it's called "The Miracle Morning". He will give you a stack of habits, and you can start with six minutes, going into sixty minutes. And it's doing those little things consistently, every single day. You can make them longer as you go, and you can add more as you get comfortable with smaller things.
Tabitha brought up a good point, she said she tried to start lots of little habits all at once. What happens is, if you take on too much too quickly, it's like a muscle, you have to walk into it overtime. The Power of Habit stacking is taking one small thing at a time.
Alright! We're almost done with the book, and then we will dive into "The Miracle Morning", in the next couple of days as we wrap up "The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth", which is taking forever. It's a great book, but I'm ready to start the other one.
Stephanie likes change.
I do! I actually don't like to sit on something for a very long time. I can actually read a whole book in three hours, or even less than that.
Alright! So Steve? Anything that you've learned along the way?
There are so many things. I'm just sitting here surrounded by a bunch of amazing people, and I've got an amazing wife. I'm just grateful and thankful. I think what I've learned is that "Perspective" is everything.
I would encourage you to always assume positive intent. I would say extend grace, assume positive intent on everything
And just know that sometimes if people aren't treating you the way that you think they should be treating you, maybe they're having a bad day. Maybe that's also the moment in your life that you could be an encouragement to somebody else.
And so I would say, be that change agent for somebody else today. That's what I would encourage you to do.
Okay! That was so good!
Alright! Drink ketones and if you want to get them, go to ketomom.com. You can also visit ketomomsecrets.com if you want to find out more about blogs and recipes. Honestly, the team of people that have been helping us and Stephanie put together all this stuff, is great. So check out ketomomsecrets.com, it is such a great website.
I have also learned in the last two weeks that people need people. So if you're looking to be a part of a community that's going to encourage you and inspire you to become the best version of yourself, join us.
We're going to be doing more events. We're here in Florida right now, we're going to be going to Arizona, we're going to be talking about going to North Carolina, and I'm going to Kentucky in March. We're making some moves. Come join us in Kentucky this March. It's going to be an amazing event.
So if you want to be a part of something like that, if you want Stephanie to lock arms with you, if you want to build a business like what we're doing, just let us know. Reach out and let us know if you just need help with your personal goals.
So continue to tune in a couple more days, and then we are diving into "The Miracle Morning". Scroll through the page for all the recipes, tips, and tricks that you need. I hope you guys have an incredible day. Your presence matters, and thank you for tuning in. You can always press the share button because sharing is caring. That's it! Have a great day. We'll talk to you soon.
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