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THE 5-SECOND RULE (Chapter 4): Have The Courage To Start And Succeed | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Jan 17, 2022

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    "We all have bought into this idea of feeling eager or feeling motivated. But it's complete garbage. The moment it's time for you to actually assert yourself or maybe take the action, you will not feel motivated. In fact, you won't feel like doing anything. If you want to improve your life, you need to get off your little rear end and kick your own butt. In my world, I call that a power push" ~ Mel Robbins

Points To Ponder:

02:18 Mindset and Awareness

03:04 Getting Their Mindset Right

04:03 Own Your Morning, Own Your Day

05:17 5-4-3-2-1

06:31 Why Does This Rule Work?

07:12 Things You Need In Your Life

08:03 The Counting Will Help You

08:48 What Can You Use This For?

09:14 Stop Negative Thoughts

10:35 Golden Rule

11:27 Courage

12:04 Commitment

12:07 What Is Your Best Yes?

12:32 What Do You Want To Do Next Year?

Full Episode Transcript:

5-4-3-2-1! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. That's what we're talking about for today's live video. My name is Stephanie, and as you're tuning in, yes, I'm still in jammies. It's a Monday if you're watching this live video, I actually work from home, and I homeschool, that's why I love to be in jammies... Good morning! We're diving into a book, "The 5 Second Rule" by Mel Robbins. We had a really busy weekend, it was so fun, and that's why we were not able to cover the book. So we're just going to start where we left off. If you're new, I do live videos in the morning... I usually get caught up in my own reading. I was telling a friend last weekend, I'm helping her with her fat loss journey. And last night, as we were texting, she was sending me pictures back and forth. If you saw the video that I did a while ago, it's about a basic foods list.

Welcome to Day 5 of our Book 9 session

If you've never seen that video and you want a basic foods list or eight steps of how to get started. Like not making it a crazy strict diet, but you need to do something, post "Food" in the comments... Going back to my friend, she did what I told her to do. She wrote down the food she was going to be eating, all of the things she was going to be doing, and she put the list on her fridge. She sent me a picture, and I told her, "That's so incredible!"

She took action! 5-4-3-2-1, action! That's what this book is about. I want to encourage people, telling people how to eat, what to eat, sharing recipes, tips, tricks, and ideas... Do you know what I'm super passionate about? I mean sure, I did a lot of recipes years ago. But there are just so many Keto Recipes you can make.

So I want you to know something, there are two things you have to understand. Number one, your mindset is important. How you see yourself, if you believe you can do it, and also the things you're reading and watching. Number two is having awareness. Every day, you can have an awareness of when you're hungry, your environment, or why you're eating.

I had received so many messages this weekend from moms, asking me to help their teenage daughters. Actually, there were multiple messages, and it had to do with these girls. A couple of them were having eating disorders, eating out of their emotions, and dealing with being bullied at school because of their weight. I told all of these moms that we need to start with getting their kid's mindsets right. It's reading, it's how they look at themselves. It's trying to figure out what causes that. So I told my friend, it's all an awareness. Why am I eating when I met eating? Why am I eating out of emotions? What am I doing? How am I rewarding myself?

Own Your Morning, Own Your Day
It's a choice! If you can just realize, "I'm eating because I'm bored, it's a habit, it's a reward", or "I don't feel good so I eat my emotions away"... If you can just take a little bit of time before you do anything before you eat something, or before you decide to grab that meal. Ask yourself, "Is this the best that I have right now?" Good, better, and best.

Work on your mindset every morning. If you can wake up in the mornings, you can own your morning. You can get up and be thankful, read, do your workout, do your movements, drink some water, and do the little things that are going to make you better. By doing this, you can make better decisions all throughout the day... Alright!

One of the books that we're going through is called "The 5 Second Rule". We've been going through different books since last April and this is probably one of my favorites because it gives you a very specific action step. Again, it's called "The 5-second rule" by Mel Robbins. If you've never heard of it, the book is about the author, Mel Robbins. She was struggling in life, she couldn't get out of bed, and she wasn't taking care of the things she needed to take care of, as a mom. She needed a job, and she needed an entire life switch.

One day she was watching a television show, and she saw a rocket blast off at the count off, 5-4-3-2-1, blast off! She then realized what she needed to do. She needed to launch herself out of bed every day.
Kick yourself in the rear end! You need a Power Push!

So the next night, she went to bed, the next morning she used the tool. That is the key! She learned something, she had an idea, and she took action on it right away before she talked herself out of it. It's just 5-4-3-2-1. When her alarm clock went off, instead of hitting the snooze button eighteen times and started thinking about what she was going to do that day, she got her butt out of bed. That's when it started, then she realized that she can use the "5 Second Rule" in lots of areas...

That's what we're going to talk about. Take note of this phrase, I read this in the last chapter. I'm going to read it again because it's super powerful. "We all have bought into this idea of feeling eager or feeling motivated. But it's complete garbage. The moment it's time for you to actually assert yourself or maybe take the action, you will not feel motivated. In fact, you won't feel like doing anything. If you want to improve your life, you need to get off your little rear end and kick your own butt. In my world, I call that a power push"...

So that is what the five-second rule is all about. We're now on chapter four, and she said, "Why does this rule work?" Then she does a Q and A... But before that, are you guys enjoying this book? Does it make sense? Has anybody used this? I would love to know if you've used this book. It's incredible! Mel Robbins, the author, is on Instagram, and she's got a great podcast. You can listen to her if you need something short to listen to, or just to give you a good reminder. We all need reminders. Did you know that we need to be told the same thing, approximately sixteen or seventeen times before we actually might feel like, "Yeah, I could do that". The book is incredible and it's also a tool. There are things that you need in your life, like tools, to help you go further faster. There are people that have already done this for you. They've already put it together and you just have to do it. You just need to figure it out. Most things that you need are already figured out, you just have to put in the work and put in the action...

So how does the rule work? She said, "Whenever you feel fired up to act on a goal or commitment, or the moment that you feel like hesitating on doing something, then that's when you use the rule"...
Count five seconds and just go do it

Count 5-4 -3-2-1, I have to go to the gym. 5-4-3-2-1, I've got to say no to the doughnut. 5-4-3-2-1, walk out of the employee lounge. 5-4-3-2-1, make a phone call. It's to get you to act before your brain starts talking to you out of it...

She said, "The counting will help you focus on the goal or the commitment and distract you from the worries, the thoughts, and the fears in your mind. As soon as you reach one, Move! But let me hammer this home one more time. Anytime there's something that you know you should do, but you feel uncertain or afraid or overwhelmed. Just take control by counting backward, 5-4-3-2-1. That quiets your mind, and then move at the count of one"...

"The key is taking action! And what can you use this for? You can use this in life, relationships, happiness, work, working out, your health, and in so many different areas. You can use the rule to push yourself to create new habits or pull yourself away from destructive habits. You can use the rule to discover courage, do something that's new, scary, or uncertain. You can use the rule to stop negative thoughts and endless worries that weigh you down. Your mind tricks you into thinking things. And the moment that you get tricked into doing this, you'll get trapped by your thoughts. Your mind has a million ways to talk you out of action. That's the neurological reason why it's so hard to change. As I mentioned in chapter one, change requires you to do something that you are uncertain of, scary or it's new. Your brain by design will not let you do these things. That's why, your brain is afraid of things that you feel uncertain, scary, or new. It will do whatever it's going to do. It's going to talk you out of doing these things, it's part of your hard wiring. This hesitation happens very fast, and that's why you have to act fast"...

Change your habit, Change your behavior
5-4-3-2-1, I actually do it all day long with lots of different things. Whether I have to hold my tongue, (5-4-3-2-1) I better not bark back at my kids. Even though they're being disrespectful and I need to respond versus react. 5-4-3-2-1, I have an idea, I need to go write something down. I want to do this, but I'm getting distracted over, so I'm going to put my phone down, take action, and not be distracted...

Alright! She said, "There's a golden rule with habits and it's very simple. In order to change a bad habit (like sleeping in, the food that you're eating, the words you're speaking over yourself) you must replace the behavior pattern that you repeat. I'll teach you how to end the mental habits of worrying, anxiety, panic, and fear using five seconds. But for now, the countdown '5-4-3-2-1 go', will become your new behavioral pattern. If you have the courage to start, you have the courage to succeed. You can change your default mental setting and your habits, five-second at a time. Change your decisions and you'll change your life, and what will change your decisions more than anything, is Courage"...

The courage to do something. The courage to say yes or no to something. The courage to not always react to things but just say, "Hey, I'll get back with you on that". "You know what, I am not in the right state to make that decision", "To have this conversation" or "I actually can't go to that party because I'm super focused, and I know that if I go there, it's most likely not going to serve me well", "I need to stay focus for the next 60 days"...
Have the Courage to say "NO"

Whatever the case may be, "Hey, I'm actually not going to go there because I committed to going to the gym and I didn't go today. So I have to go tonight, and that's a commitment I made to myself"... You need your best "YES", what is your best yes? In this current city, or your life right now, ask yourself "Is this my best yes?", and then count 5-4-3-2-1, I need to do it.

If you don't do it in the morning, you need to do it later. You're committed to yourself... Most people are in this, "I'm-going-wait-till-January" mode. Which is fine, but I would encourage you to think about what you want next year. Write down your top five or ten things that align with you, your family, or whoever is involved in your life. A spouse, your kids, or whatever. And if it doesn't align with those goals for the year, we're talking about this next year, then it's a "No".

It's okay to say no to things, and get solely focused on what you want. And then you're going to have to take the action, 5-4-3-2-1 Go! Yes, you can start now for sure...

I also talk to a lot of people every day, and most f them say "I'm starting in January". Which is awesome! You don't have to waste the next twenty days but if you want to, I'm just here when you're ready... So anyway, the book is great. I hope you have an incredible day and an incredible week. Continue to tune into the page every morning. We'll go through mindset, will go through different books or just a thought to help you on your day. And every afternoon we have fun. It's either afternoon or I might start doing later evenings. We'll have to see, I'll do a Keto tasting and a Keto tip, or just something to help you on your journey. I hope you have an incredible day. I'm always here to help and we'll talk to you soon. Goodbye!

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