top of page

Morning Mindset: The Gap Focus!

Updated: Sep 9, 2022

    "The majority of people do dozens, even hundreds of things right during the day, and a few things wrong. Guess which things people remember and they replay over and over in their minds? Doesn't it make more sense to focus on the hundred things that you did right, and not the ten things that you missed?" 

Hey everybody! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie and I'm tuning in from Orlando, Florida with my entire family. My parents, my two sisters, my brother, all of the in-laws, and then 14 grandkids. We are staying here for a last summer family vacation, and it's been so fun.

A lot of you have asked where in Orlando are we staying. We're staying at an Airbnb called "The Treehouse Mansion". It's just incredible, and it's our last week of summer. So as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from?

I want to give you a couple thoughts today about vacation, life in general, the power of consistency, mindset, food, or just about anything.
"𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲?"

I think that people think being busy is bad. I don't think being busy is bad at all. When people tell me that they haven't seen me in a while or what have I been up to? I always say "I've been productively busy". Because my husband and I, our family have been really working on saying "Yes" to the things that are important to our family, and "No" to the things that might not be important, or might just not be a yes right now.

We might be busy, but we're busy with the things that our family sees value in, the things that we want to focus o, and being productive.

So the question I get a lot when we're traveling is, "Do you stay on track?", "What are you doing?", "Do you still read?"...

Yes! and Yes! I'm perfectly strict keto, but we do the best that we can. Simple things like drinking water, drinking ketones, and choosing bacon over doughnuts. There are just different things that you can do to choose better if you want to. I'm not saying that you have to.

𝗜'𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼 𝗼𝗻 𝘃𝗮𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝘀𝗽𝗹𝘂𝗿𝗴𝗲. 𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲.

And as we travel and do different things, I still get up in the morning and read. For example, I got up early, I was reading my Bible, and my dad asked me what the lesson was for today. And the lesson was, "I get to, not I have to"...

I was reading "The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod this morning. I was having some good conversations, and I really wanted to read a couple of things to you to help you on your journey, wherever you are right now. These are just some things to think about here on the Keto mom page. And you can always go to for recipes, how to get started, our book Club, and anything else that you need.

You can continue to tune into the Keto Mom page, where we share recipes all day long, and different tips and tricks. My hope is to inspire, encourage you, and give you some tips and tricks along the way and throughout your day.

All right, here are a couple of things I was reading this morning. My hope is to help you with your mindset, make better choices, and make you understand that you are worth it and that you are worthy.

There is more to your health journey than just food. There is more to losing fat, getting healthy, to feeling stronger than just the food you put in your mouth, and why that's super important.
𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴.

It has to do with your thinking, the feelings you're feeling, how to control your emotions, and have gratitude. If you were to just make a couple of different shifts in your life, you would make better food choices.

"Don't reinvent the wheel. The fastest way to achieve everything that you want is to model successful people who have already done it. With an almost infinite amount of books, podcasts, anything that you can Google that's available to you on every single topic that you want to learn from, there's no limit to the knowledge that you can gain through reading or listening".

I also want to talk about something called the "Gap Focus". How many people make a list of things they want to get done throughout the day?
One of the traps that people fall into, not even just on a daily basis, but on a weekly, monthly, and even yearly basis is called "Gap Focus".

GAP FOCUS: Is it helping? Or is it hurting?

"Human beings are conditioned to have what is called Gap Focus. We tend to focus on the gap between where you are in life and where you want to be. Between what we've accomplished, and what we could have or want to accomplish, and the gap between who we are and our idealistic vision of the person we want to become".

"The problem with that is if you're focused on the gap focus, it can be detrimental to our confidence and our self-esteem. Because it causes us to feel that we don't have enough, we haven't accomplished enough, and that we are simply not good enough, or at least not as good as we should be".

"Typically, when a day, a week, a month, or a year, go by, and you're so gap focused, it's almost impossible to maintain an accurate assessment of ourselves".

𝗜 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗼𝗿 𝟭𝟬 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗼𝗿 𝗮 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗵.

Look at that checklist at the end of the day or the week, what happens is, if you didn't accomplish three things you might get so fixated on those three that you didn't do. It frustrates people.

Why are we focusing on the mess-ups throughout the day or the month when we could be celebrating the hundred good things that you did, the five good things that you did, or the better choices that you did? The gap is what causes people to quit like the gap is what causes people to not believe in themselves and to get frustrated and give up.

"The majority of people do dozens, even hundreds of things right during the day, and a few things wrong. Guess which things people remember and they replay over and over in their minds?
Doesn't it make more sense to focus on the hundred things that you did right, and not the ten things that you missed?"

The author talked about journaling, writing things down, looking at your life, and giving it a plus because it benefits you, and in a negative way, if it doesn't benefit you. Being productively busy, doing the right things, and making better choices. If you track throughout your day, celebrate the things that you did, and look at the things that you missed or weren't serving. Either get rid of it, celebrate, and then focus on that the next time.

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗱𝗼.
Don't be so Gap Focus that it causes you to go down the spiral of negative thoughts...
  • I'm not good enough.

  • I can't do it.

  • I missed these two things.

  • I made this wrong choice.

"Just because you messed up this morning and you did not make the best choices. You went through the drive-thru, you skipped a workout, you didn't write down in your gratitude journal this, you yelled at your kid... Whatever you did, it doesn't have to wreck the rest of your day".

That one little thing in that gap between this morning and tonight doesn't have to wreck the rest of your day, your meals, or your mindset.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹.
"Everything is difficult before it gets easy. Every new experience is uncomfortable before it gets comfortable".
"The more you practice, the more you take action, the more you get yourself to be uncomfortable, it will become a normal practice later on down the road".

So if you're challenged to increase your water intake, or go to the gym. Don't be so gap focused between where you are and where you want to be that it gets in your mindset and then you quit. The only way you fail is if you quit.

Celebrate the things that you're doing right. Take inventory of all the things you have done right.

  • I got up earlier today.

  • I drank my water.

  • I took the bun off my burger.

  • I went to the gym.

𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.
Maybe you didn't do what you actually wanted to do. But instead of focusing on wanting to be there for an hour, you could only last 15 minutes. Celebrate the 15 minutes.
Don't be so gap-focused that it takes you out and makes you quit.

All right! That's it, we are still going through this book called "The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod. My hope is to give you some little insight throughout the morning or afternoon.

Thank you for tuning in, and please continue to tune in. Reach out with questions that you have, your presence matters, and we'll talk to you soon. Bye!

Hit me up on IG! @ketomomsecrets

Join me on Facebook: Keto Mom

Check out our videos: Keto Mom

Check out our Podcast on Spotify: Keto Mom Secrets

Join my newsletter at

Text Me! at 507-363-3483


Recent Posts

See All


bottom of page