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"Your goals have to carry you at least as much as the coffee drinker does. There's an ultimate level of desire that guarantees success. Are your goals strong enough to carry you through? If your motivation level is comparable to the guy who won't change the station, because he doesn't want to get off the couch, then don't expect to see change if you're not willing to do the work. When you want it, you will get off that couch and go get it. When you don't want it, you should just know that there are no expectations to your goals" ~Scott Alexander
Points to Ponder:
00:55 Seed and Harvest Time
01:40 Seed Time
02:03 Putting in the Work, Patience
03:48 The Ultimate Goal
04:48 Going To Take Time
05:26 A Variation of Goals
05:48 Various Levels of Wanting It
06:51 Different Levels of Discipline
07:00 Put The Seeds on the Ground
07:29 Couch Sitter, or the Hardcore Coffee Drinker
08:21 Don't Expect Change if You Don't Do The Work
09:02 You Didn't Get Here Overnight
09:55 True Change In Your Body
Full Episode Transcript:
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, I just got back from running my daughter across town to do morning gym time with her volleyball team. Coming home now, but I will be going back in thirty minutes to get her. I should have just stayed there. But how are you doing? We got up, did a little bit of a workout, already ran my daughter back and forth. And now we're going to dive into our morning mindset. What does that look like? As you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? If you've been tuning in for a while, yesterday I talked about going through the book called "Think and Grow Rich". We are not going to go through that book anymore, but you can still finish it. I highly recommend finishing it if you have it. If you don't have it, then get audible and listen to it. It's great! But we're not going to do that one today...
So I labeled today as "Seed and Harvest time". I'm assuming most of you probably understand what that means. Maybe you've heard a message about seedtime and harvest time. I was laying in bed last night and I was thinking of what I should talk about this morning. "The Seed and Harvest Time" popped into my head, and I thought it's such a good message.
Whether you believe it biblically, non-biblically, or scientifically... Planting seeds, being patient and harvesting time is a real thing. So I was thinking last night "What does that look like for your health and fitness?" There is seed time, and a lot of you are in seed time. You're planting the seeds, and doing the work. When you're in seed time you've got to water the seeds. A farmer has to do all of the things in seed time. It's putting in the work, it's being patient, not giving up, and not neglecting the seed. And so right now you're in seed time. You are being patient, putting in the work, making better choices, being mindful, and being patient. I feel like in seed time, it comes with a lot of patience.
You can watch the farmers in the spring. We actually have farms all around us here. We live a mile out of the city, or out of town, and there are farms on all sides. So it's so fun to watch them plant in the spring. Then time passes, and there's nothing and then there's nothing. And then after enough time, there are little seedlings that sprout. And then finally you see a huge harvest. So there's a whole bunch of beans around us and a little bit of corn. The farmers just got in the fields, they planted around April, May even June. And now they are harvesting what they planted last spring, or in early summer...
So I want you to think about your health journey. Right now this could be your seed time, "I'm going to plant seeds", "I'm going to do the things I need to do", "I'm going to have the discipline", "I'm going to have the focus", or "I'm going to know that in the spring, I will see a harvest"...
If you go from now until the spring, maybe your goal is to go on that vacation in June, or you want to take your family somewhere next summer, or you've got a wedding next summer.
The ultimate goal isn't to get to the end of the year, your goal should never be going to a wedding or going on vacation. That is a short-term goal, and I don't want you to give up when you get there. I want you to see that this is a lifestyle, it can sustain you forever, and you want to also feel good when you get to that goal.
So let's say your goal is to get to June 1st, and you've got eight months. Can you plant the seeds? Can you be patient? Can you water it? Can you do it without seeing the true harvest until next spring and summer?. It's very biblical, seedtime and harvest time. Scientifically, it still is seedtime and harvest time. Can you do it? Yes, you can do it. The farmers can do it.
Anything that's worth going after is going to take time. It's going to take work, and it's going to take discipline...
This is the very first book that we went through, "Rain or Shine" by Scott Alexander. If you've been tuning in here for longer than a couple of months, I think we did this in April or May. And so I was scrolling through this book, and I thought chapter sixteen is really great. I want to remind you that this is a really easy read. It was one of the first ones we did, and it allowed people to just read a really quick chapter, like a page in half a day. He talked about setting goals, and he gave you two different people to be like. He said that there's a variation of goals and what people want. Everybody's different. Do you want it? Do you want to be healthier, be stronger, be able to run and play with your kids without going out of breath? Do you want to look a certain way, and feel a certain way? Do you really want it? That is the question.
He said, "There are various levels of wanting it. The first level might be similar to a guy laying on a couch watching TV. There might be a show that he wants to watch, but the remote is nowhere in sight. So therefore he sits there and watches what's on TV"...
Did he really want it? If he really wanted it, he would have gotten up and found the remote. But he didn't, instead, he sat there and was just okay with okay... "There's a much higher level want. There's a hard-core coffee drinker, who they have to have their coffee in the morning. On a recent trip, I went to Las Vegas, and I needed some coffee. I went downstairs, and I saw the Holy Roller caffeine line of people waiting in the Starbucks line that wrapped around the building"... The person at the end of the line wanted it, let's say he was thirty people behind. He wasn't going to budge, and he was going to sit there until he got his coffee.
There are different levels of wanting it. There are different levels of discipline and going after your goals. So if you just think right now...
Today is day one, today is seed time. I'm going to put the seeds on the ground. I'm going to go to the gym, make good choices, drink more water. I'm going to get up thirty minutes earlier, to get my mindset right... What are you going to do? What does your seed time look like, and do you really want it? Are you willing to put in the work? Are you willing to stand in the line? Are you willing to water it, and do all of the things like give it sunshine, and give it some love and attention? Are you willing to do it until June 1st? Are you going to be the couch sitter or the hardcore coffee drinker? Where are you at?
And so he said "Your goals have to carry you at least as much as the coffee drinker does. There's an ultimate level of desire that guarantees success. Just like a parent is committed to a child. You've heard of the stories of a mother who's lifted a car to save a baby or a parent who runs into a burning house to save the ones they love. You might fight a grizzly bear if it is meant to protect your child. Are your goals strong enough to carry you through? If your motivation level is comparable to the guy who won't change the station because he doesn't want to get off the couch.
Don't expect to see change, if you're not willing to do the work"... If you're not willing to water it, or to be patient, and disciplined, don't expect results. If you're the couch sitter, there are no results.
He goes "But at least you don't have to wait in any timeline, jump through hoops, perform any unrealistic actions, or fight grizzly bears. When you want it, you will get off that couch and go get it. When you don't want it, you should just know that there are no expectations to your goals"... And so I just thought I would read that to you this morning. I was thinking of seedtime and harvest time, and how long seeds take to sprout.
You didn't get here overnight, you're not going to get there overnight. You might need to hear that again, and sometimes it hurts. You did not gain the thirty, forty, or fifty pounds overnight. Don't hate me, but you're not going to lose it in two weeks.
You're not! You can make really great efforts and really great strides. You can put in the work and you can start feeling better in two weeks. You can start noticing different changes in two weeks. Not drastic ones, but some. You might notice it in your mindset, in the way that you hold yourself and your confidence. Maybe even just little things like feeling better, and stronger. So you can notice different positive changes in a couple of weeks, and then in a month, and then in two months.
But if you really want to see true change in your body, because most people here want fat loss. You're going to have to plant the seeds, water them, be patient, give them sunlight, and do the work.
Let's see what happens by June 1st. Are you committed? So I would end this with, think about today? Are you the couch sitter, or the coffee drinker? And as you make choices throughout your day, put yourself in those two categories. Am I going to do it no matter what? "I'm not going to grab the donut". "I'm not going to go into the employee lounge on buffet pizza day, because I packed my lunch, and I planned and prepared". "I'm not going to go through the drive-thru because I failed to plan my meals", "I'm going to go home and make something super simple like eggs, even though maybe I've eaten for the last four days, but that was my choice because I didn't plan my meals". "I'm going to go to the gym, no matter what"...
Are you the coffee drinker or the couch sitter. And if you just put yourself in those categories throughout your day when you're making choices, you probably can give yourself a visual of what somebody might look like in those situations, motivational-wise...
So I hope that was helpful. I hope you have an incredible morning. I have not chosen a new book to go through yet. There are two that I was looking at, my husband got this book a while ago. I actually haven't read it yet, "The Power of Moments" by Chip Heath & Dan Heath. Has anybody read this book? This is also an incredible book, "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin Raphael McManus.
Do you guys know who Erwin McManus is? He wrote my all-time favorite book called "The Last Arrow"... Maybe we should do that tonight. Did I read that one with you? I don't know if we did. For some reason, I thought we did. So we've got "The Last Arrow", this book was unbelievable... But you don't have to feel like you have to go with the book. I'll read it and I will give you the highlights, you can follow along. Maybe what I'll do is I'll give you an overview tomorrow of all three books, and you should vote. Alright! That's all I've got for you. I need to go get my children up and we need to do some homeschool. So I hope you guys have an incredible day.
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