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MINDSET MOM MOMENTS: "Let’s Talk About A.Q." | Keto Mom

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    You've got an E.Q. on how well you handle your emotions, and then you have A.Q. or your adaptability. How adaptable are you? I would say this is super important, especially for you who really have health goals. I want to eat better, I want to go to the gym, I need to lose fifty pounds, or whatever the case may be. Like I want to be able to run around with my kids, or whatever your health goals are. Your adaptability quotient or your A.Q. plays a huge part in this. 

Points to Ponder:

02:24 Mindset Morning

03:07 An Overview

04:38 Everybody Has Their Own Belief

05:50 E.Q. Stands For Your Emotional Quotient

06:52 How Well Do You Handle Your Emotions

07:15 Collect All The Facts

08:36 Easier To Send A Message, Not Face to Face

10:07 Ask Questions and Ask Permission

11:11 I'm A Reactor

12:01 React or Respond

13:12 Teach Your Children E.Q.

13:44 Emotional Eating

15:29 People Eat Their Emotions

16:29 Have an Awareness of E.Q.

17:24 Take a Deep Breath

18:58 I Can Only Control Myself

Full Episode Transcript:

Hey! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, and today we're going to talk about A.Q. What is A.Q.? So if you're just tuning in, where are you tuning in from? If you watched yesterday, we talked about something called E.Q. If you didn't watch yesterday, you might know that there is an I.Q., you have an I.Q. Yesterday, we talked about E.Q. which I would highly recommend checking out because it was one of the most valuable lessons I learned in my entire life. There's a lot of things that I've learned, and there's a lot of things that I've taken, implemented, and taught to others. But yesterday's video was something that changed my life, and it's called E.Q. Today goes right along with that, we're going to talk about A.Q. and I actually got to practice my A.Q. today...

Today is Mindset Mom Moments

If you're just tuning in to this page, I want to help you understand the power of mindset. And so every morning I will come on and give you a thought, and we're going to go through a book to help you get your mindset right. Starting next Monday, which would be the 25th? I can't even believe it's almost November.

We're going to start to go through this book "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin McManus. We're going to wait for a little bit, so people can order the book.

You can follow along, or you can tune in here every single morning. Now, normally, my hope would be to go live around 7:15 7:30 Central. That's why I'm going to talk about A.Q. today because my A.Q. had to be adaptable. Which is why I'm online a little bit late today, I'll tell you why in a second... So we're going to start this book, "Chasing Daylight" on October 25. If you want to grab it, you can go grab it.

If you just want to tune in here, we will go through it together. It's going to be an incredible book. I read the back yesterday, but here's a little bit more about the book. It says "We all have dreams, hopes, and aspirations. Why do some of us realize our dreams and advance forward? While others watch timidly from a distance and hope for a break"... So it's going to be the difference between "Why do some people take action and go after their dreams, and why do some people sit on the sidelines?". What does it take to go after what you want? And so he says, "But how do we know that the dreams we pursue are God's will for our life? How can we live with a clarity that frees us from the apprehensive and hesitation, and that catapults us forward with confidence and courage?"... It's really just going to give you an idea of going after anything in your life.

I'll give you an example, most of you are here for fat loss. It starts with that, but I'm going to guess that there's a lot more than you want in life besides fat loss. You want a better marriage, better relationships with your kids, a better job, or maybe you just want to be happy.

What does that look like, and how do you achieve that? How do some people have such success, while other people just sit and watch? What is the gap? What are we missing?... So the book is going to be great, we're going to start on the 25th. You can probably go to Barnes and Noble and grab it. I'm sure you can get it anywhere online, we'll do that... So today I want to share really quick with you what is A.Q. Yesterday, we talked about E.Q. or your emotional quotient which is the difference between reacting versus responding. How you handle your emotions in any situation.

Now on top of that, if you heard my story yesterday, I talked about how I learned about E.Q. I'll post the link of yesterday's video in the comments and in the header so you can watch it later if you missed it... So let me ask you this if you listened to that live video yesterday, did any of you go throughout your day yesterday and tell themselves, "Oh, E.Q.", "I've got to watch my E.Q."... Did anybody find themselves saying I have to respond versus react? I would love to know. Did anybody get to use what they learned?. I hope you did, and I hope you had a great day and you didn't have to check your emotions. I had to use my own teaching with our girls. We have four girls, we homeschool by choice. And sometimes I have to go like this and I had to do that yesterday. So A.Q., and you've got an I.Q. for your intelligence.

A.Q. measures how adaptable you are in any situation
You've got an E.Q. on how well you handle your emotions, and then you have A.Q. or your adaptability. How adaptable are you? I would say this is super important, especially for you who really have health goals. I want to eat better, I want to go to the gym, I need to lose fifty pounds, or whatever the case may be.

Like I want to be able to run around with my kids, or whatever your health goals are. Your adaptability quotient or your A.Q. plays a huge part in this. And I'll tell you why, let's say you go to a birthday party, and you had every intention not to eat the cake. So you're going to have to be adaptable in that situation and not eat the cake. Maybe find something else to eat or to snack on.

Here's a good one, let's say that you planned your meals this week, you were on it and you felt incredible, "I set my week up," "I'm going to have success". But then you forgot your lunch at home, or something happened and you had to go out to eat with your coworkers. You had a meeting, you are adaptable in that situation, do you just go "I'm going to do whatever I want, I'm going to go eat the french fries", or "I'm going to be adaptable".

It's all right I have a high A.Q., I'm adaptable in any situation. And I know that if I forgot my lunch, I'm going to go get something to eat. I'm going to choose a protein, a veggie or a salad. I'm going to take the buns off my burgers, the croutons off the salad. I'm not going to get emotional and overreact. I'm going to be adaptable, and I know what to do. So just as important as your E.Q. is, how well you handle your emotions is your A.Q. I would love to come on here every single morning and get my live video done, get my kids up, and get going. I have a day in my head where I want things to go this way and that, but it doesn't always happen that way.

Being adaptable means you get to help others too
My sister who I love dearly, sent me a message last night at 10:30. "Hey, can you do me a big favor?", I said "I can, Why?"... Because I stay home, I have a vehicle and I can help. So I said, "Yes? How can I help you?". And she asked, "Can I drop the kids off super early in the morning? I have a meeting, and then can you take all of the kids to school?"...

She's got some kids at a private school, some are in public schools. And so my A.Q. was like "Yes", and it's right. It's not a big deal, but in my head, I was like "Okay! Yep", which means "Yes, I'm going to do that I can help get them fed". This means I'm going to be in the car at the time that I want to do my live video. I'll drop them off, and I'll go be in the crazy traffic of the public school kids. I don't even have to do that, and it was kind of fun. My kids are actually still sleeping, and then I'll come back and do my live video. It's adaptability. I could have easily been like, "I wanted to do my live video at 7:30". "I wanted to get my kids up", "I wanted to start my day by 8:30". But now it's not going to work that way, I could have had my emotions get crabby. I could have not helped my sister out, I could have reacted instead of responding. But instead, I was like "Of course I can". It's not a big deal that it throws my schedule off, because really? Do I have a schedule?. In my head, is it really a big deal if I started my live video 30 minutes later? No...

I know that sounds like a silly example. It's not like it hurt anything in my life. But how often do we overreact? And how often do we get frustrated because somebody interfered with our schedule, and we weren't adaptable?.
E.Q. and A.Q. has change our lives for the better
Adaptability is huge. Whether it's with your diet, your circumstance, your environment, or your job. All of it plays a part in your emotions... How often do people go to food because their day was screwed up, or they were frustrated?. It's so interesting how food plays a part, and it intermingles in all of these different feelings, and different circumstances.

Because we're mad, we're crabby, we're angry, or somebody messed up my day so I'm going to go eat something. Or I had to drop the kids off, I screwed up my day, I might as well run through the drive-thru and grab a doughnut because I'm being exaggerative, but not really.

Here's the deal in all of this E.Q. and A.Q., there are a couple of other things that I've learned over the course of years. It's an awareness of life. My goal is to give our children a really good awareness of what's going on, and how to handle themselves. It's okay that your schedule doesn't come first, but you can help somebody else out. You need to have good E.Q., and it's super important to be adaptable because you have no idea what's going to happen throughout your day. If you can handle yourself properly, you're going to find yourself making better decisions and making better choices. Still being thankful and grateful, having a better attitude, and not being stressed out...

I got to be adaptable, if you're doing the reboot, I'm doing the reboot right now. I have to, nope, let me rephrase my words real quick. I talked about the power of words often, "I get to". I get to be the coach this morning. So I'm going to hop on a different group and coach people on the reboots. So if you're doing the reboot, awesome! Make sure you tune in there at nine o'clock, and then just a little bit. But if you're not, you could ask me what a reboot is later.

The question is "How well do you handle yourself?"

Anyways, the conversation today is this, "How adaptable Are you?". If you find yourself not very adaptable or in a situation, remind yourself "Oh, this is a really good time for me to show how adaptable I am, to grow my adaptability, and to handle my E.Q."... It all goes together, A.Q. and E.Q., so it is really important. It is important if you want to be one of those people that others look at and go "Wow, they really handled themselves well", "They didn't react like I thought they would", "Wow, they really are somebody that I can depend on, they have great adaptability"...

Not to be a doormat, but to help other people out. You never know, you might need somebody to help you out someday. And because you were adaptable, then you are more likely to have somebody else come and help you when you need help.

Not that adaptability is just done when somebody needs something. But the whole conversation around E.Q., your emotions, and A.Q., your adaptability, for me and our family have allowed us to just look at life differently. To be able to handle situations, environments, and circumstances better, with a higher level of responding and adaptability.

And therefore overall, makes you a better person. So for what it's worth, I hope it made sense. If there's anything that you take out of it, hopefully in your mind, you're going to be like, "E.Q.", "Oh, there's an A.Q.?, or "How am I going to handle myself?"... That's it, I have to go because I have to go get ready for another live video, and I need to get my kids up. I hope you guys have a great day. Always reach out with any questions that you have. Go grab the book, we'll start this on the 25th. Otherwise, I will come on tomorrow with something else that I've learned. I just have to remind myself of all the things that I had been taught, so I can teach you. So have a wonderful day, reach out with any questions that you have.

Go be adaptable, and we'll talk to you later.

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