Good morning, clearly I'm not ready for the day, but sitting here reading and I wanted to share something that I read to you because if this is the only thing that you fill your mind with, that's positive. I hope it makes you think throughout this weekend.
My question to you is, do you read in the morning? What do you fill your mind with?
Full Episode Transcript
Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Happy Friday coming to you live and all of my morning, in all of my morningness :) clearly I'm not ready for the day, but I was sitting here reading and I wanted to share something that I read to you because if this is the only thing that you fill your mind with, that's positive. I hope it makes you think throughout this weekend. So as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? I am tuning in from Minnesota. Where it's negative 15 degrees. And I should show you my fire. This is, this is my current location. Oh. And I have a guest. This is Leme. So where are you tuning in from? How is your morning? And I thought I would share something with you. Cause I thought it would be super great for you to maybe ponder this weekend.
So my question really quick, hold on and get my camera straight. And my question to you is, do you read in the morning, do you read, what do you fill your mind with? I feel like I talk about this a lot and yet every morning when I read and it's just so easy to get your mind either going in a right direction in the morning or a wrong direction in the morning. Are you flipping through the news? Are you watching people on social media or are you truly being intentional with your morning and your time? So I've been giving these books away.
Two people that check in throughout the week, just let us know how their journey's going. Share their goals. Ask questions. So as you're tuning in, how is your February going? What are your February goals? And I'll be drawing for some more winners. Good morning. Good morning. We have four girls. If you're brand new to the page and we homeschool on purpose. So our kids are always home and they wake up when their body wakes them up. So I'm going to read something to you here. Why don't you take the dog for me? I'm going to read something to you. And this is, this would be my challenge or my thought for you today. That's fine. She can sit down. So it's coming from the book, rain or shine. This is the book that I draw names for it and give away for prizes.
For those who check in throughout the month, I got to get this dog. So if you have not seen our house in our life, we have four kids and four dogs. So eight kids. Okay, hold on. Okay. So much space. Anybody else have dogs? What kind of dog do you have? How many do you have? Ours are all in the house and they're all, they're all little in. They're all great. I chose to not have animals. My family chose to have them. Okay. Here is the chapter's title. And I won't read the whole thing to you, but I'm going to give you an idea of something to keep in your mind as you're going throughout your day today. How bad do you want it? So my question to you is how bad do you want, whatever is on the top of your mind about your health and fitness, or maybe you're here for different reasons. How bad do you want the goals that you've set forth for this month? So I'm just going to read a little bit. This is the book that I'm reading.
Okay. He's I think it's funny. So his name is Scott Alexander. He wrote the book, rhinoceros success. We actually, he came to one of our events and spoke to us. And his first book is about, are you a cow or are you a rhino? And a rhino has thick skin, a rhino charges after what they want. A rhino is focused and runs after it, a cow wallows in its poo and other people's poo and keeps its head down and grazes in the poo and is not striving for their goals.
Are you a cow or are you a rhino?
Maybe I should ask you that. Do you feel like you were a cow or are you a rhino? You're a rhino. Yeah. So he says setting goals is highly overrated. He talks about how anybody can go to a speaker. Anybody can go get motivated. Anybody can go in and they sit for hours and hours and do dream boards.
I mean, I like to do dream boards. So here the whole thing before you go, I'm not supposed to set goals. Cause that's not what you say talks about. Like people hire people and they go and do all of these things for days and days. Right? But he said, if you have to be prodded and forced into thinking about what you want, you don't really want anything that bad. So basically he's saying if somebody has to poke and prod you and force you and like try to dig it out of you, maybe you don't want it that bad. So he says there are levels.
There are various levels of wanting it. The first level might be similar to the guy laying on a couch, watching TV. There might be a show that he wants to switch it to, but the remote is nowhere in sight. So that is that he does not get up and he just watches what's on TV. That is a very low level desire. So is that your desire with your goals that you have in mind? If you don't see it, if you can't reach out and touch it, if you have to work to get it, you don't do it right at a much higher level of wanting. It would be equivalent to a hardcore coffee drinker who has to have their coffee in the morning on a recent trip to Las Vegas. He left his room in the morning to grab a cup of coffee at Starbucks next to the lobby.
He said, Holy caffeine, how should I have seen, man? I should grab some water. He said, you should have seen line. Now we are getting closer to the real secret of success. What will you put up with to get what you want? So that is the question.
What will you put up with to get what you want?
Talks about is chapstick condition addiction and how he will not deal with not having chapstick in his pocket. And here's what he says at the end. Your goals have to carry at least as much weight as a coffee drinker, waiting in a coffee line, you have to be addicted to success. You don't need to be browsing through motivational speakers or you don't need to constantly be collecting information on your goals and how to get there and what to do. And all the information I talk about that often, if you're constantly gathering knowledge and wisdom and information, but not putting it into action, how bad do you want that goal? He says, you know what you want if you're just tuning in, I'm reading a little bit from this book I earlier asked, or are you tuning in from eight negative, 15 degrees here. But I also do you read anything in the morning and what are you reading? So he said, you know what you want? It's on your mind all the time.
What is on your mind all the time?
You crave it. If you have to jump through, hoops, to get it, get the hoops out and jumped through the hoops and you will get it no matter what will you go after no matter what, what is deeply in your heart that you want? No matter what, that I don't have to go. I'll give you a book. If you focus on it today, I'll give you a book. If you check in like motivation is great, right? It's great to watch people and listen. But if it's not deep rooted here, and if you're not willing at the end, he says to get off the couch, like the man watching TV, who refuse to move to change the channel. If you're not willing to do hard things, you are not going to get to where you want to go. He says the ultimate level of desire, that guarantees success will, would be akin to a parent's commitment to a child.
Have you heard the stories of a mother who lifted a car to save a trap baby or the parent who runs into a burning house to save a loved one? You would fight a grizzly bear. If it meant protecting someone that you loved, right? The stories ...I don't want to read the whole thing because kind of gets long. So all he says is, is your goal strong enough?
Are your goals strong enough?
If they are, then you'll go after them. You'll get off the couch, right? You said, at least you don't have to wait any longer. You don't have to wait. And he says, it's fine. If, if your goals aren't strong enough to make you move and take action, it's fine. Now, you know? Right. You know, it is not, it's not necessarily a bad thing. At least you don't have to wait in long lines, jump through hoops, fight grizzly bears.
When you want it, you want it. And you'll get off the couch.
So that chapter was labeled. How bad do you want it? And I thought it was super great as I was reading it this morning. And I just thought, you're right. I can tell you to read. You can listen to other people and they have had success. You can hear people, coach you on how to do goals and coach you on how to set your dream boards. But ultimately, what is it going to take to get you off the couch, to get you to where you want to go?
Are your dreams strong enough to make you move?
No matter what, it's not about perfection.
Oftentimes people wait for the perfect time.
The perfect job, the perfect kitchen set up the perfect circumstance.
Like for a lot of you here, maybe it's like, Oh, I've got a vacation next week. I'm not going to start till next month. Oh, I've got, Valentine's coming up. I want to eat some dessert. I'll start next Monday. This is not about perfection, right?
So the book that I'm reading is called Rain or Shine by Scott Alexander.
And I'm giving, I am giving these away just because when people check in and check in, I do believe there's a level of accountability. You have to have the desire to change. You have to have the desire to go after what you want. You have to have a deep rooted Why... somebody shouldn't have to pull it out of you, but there is a level of accountability. There is a level of having, knowing somebody there that they see you or somebody is there to push you. I think it's important. We have a ton of accountability partners, my husband, and we're in a group thread of people that are all going after their health and fitness goals.
There's three couples. There's six of us. And we text each other all day long. How's it going? How much water did you drink? I did my workout. What are you up to? I'm choosing this to eat instead of that. If you don't have that, that's why I started it here. So like every day you can check in and say, here's my February goal. Here's what I'm focused on. Here's the challenge that I came up with and I just draw and give away some books because I think it's fun.
But I just want to hop on here and encourage you, encourage you in that. Oh, I have the question written down. So if you're just tuning in, sorry, but I hope you have a wonderful Friday. I think it's important to read. I think it's so important to get your mindset, right? Nobody can do it for you. So either if you're sitting on the couch and you don't want to move, that's your choice, but it is going to take work. So that's it. I hope you guys have a wonderful day. Happy Friday. And that's it. We'll talk to you soon.
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