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GOALS: 9 Steps To Goal Setting

    We're going to dive into "9 Steps of Goal Setting". We're going to reset so that we don't get to the end of the year and have to restart over. Maybe you somehow relaxed or slacked off a little bit in certain areas of your life, and so this is the perfect time to reset. 

Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, and we're going to dive into "9 Steps of Goal Setting".

I want to know if you're eating breakfast or intermittent fasting. Hundreds of people are actually breaking their 60-hour fast this morning. We got to coach a whole bunch of them that did the 60-hour keto reboot, and today is their last day.

I often have people ask, "For breakfast, what can I eat quickly, on the go?", or "If I'm doing low carb keto, what can I eat for breakfast?"...

A great breakfast idea for you would be to get yourself an air fryer. Especially if you need to get out of the house quickly. Air fryers are so simple and helpful! You can simply throw in some sausages as you're doing your makeup or getting your kids ready to get out the door. You can also maybe pre-make some egg cups or things like that.

I love breakfast! But I also do intermittent fasting probably three to four days a week.

Alright! Going back to the book, we're going to go through "The 9 Steps of Goal Setting". This is to help start off your morning and give you some concepts or ideas of how to get going.

I also have a lot of people wanting to reset their food and their mindset. We're all making a shift and a turn because Fall is here. We're going to reset so that we don't get to the end of the year and have to restart over.

𝗠𝗮𝘆𝗯𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘅𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝗮 𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝘁.

I'm going to go through "Goals" by Zig Ziglar. Yesterday we talked about the things that hold you back from goal setting or accomplishing your goals.

Today, I'm going to go over the 9 steps to help you set goals. This will help you know what you need to do so that you can walk yourself through actual goal setting. That's what people have been messaging me about.

  • I need a goal set.

  • I don't know how to do it.

  • I don't know how to be effective.

  • I've set goals in the past and they just didn't come to fruition.

9 Steps To Goal Setting

1. Write Down Your Goals.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼, 𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲. 𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝘁.

I'm not saying you're going to get all of it, but it will serve as a brainstorm. Write down everything you want to do and everything you want to have.

When you write it down it makes you concentrate more. It's like putting it in your subconscious.

2. Ask "Why"

The real task in finding out what you really want, is figuring out what will make a positive difference in your life, and why do you want it.

So write down everything that you want, and everything that you want to achieve. And then right beside that, write down "Why" you want it.

3. Elimination

"You can't always have everything that you want or something that you want to do, have, or be".

For example, the author wrote a huge paragraph of all of the things that he wanted to do, the things that he wanted to be, and the things that he wanted to have.

  • Going to Bible college

  • Providing for my family

  • Family seminars

  • Have a daily radio podcast

"I want to do, I want to be, I want to have. Now I need to be realistic. If it's longer than one sentence, or I don't actually know why then we're going to talk about eliminating some of these things".

"I'm not trying to be negative, I just want to be realistic. Because I honestly don't think I can do all of these things. And do them well".

4. Balance.

So we wrote down everything we wanted to do, be, or have. We wrote down one sentence of "Why". Then we're going to eliminate some of those things because we want to have some type of balance in different areas of our lives.

𝗪𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵, 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵, 𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵, 𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹, 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹, 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗿, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝘆.
"If every single goal that you want to accomplish is based only on your physical health, you might find other areas slipping away".

So there really is awareness of setting goals and figuring out why you want to do it. Some things are not a "No" forever, but for right now you can just keep those on the extra piece of paper to keep for the future.

"When you put too much emphasis on just one or two areas of your life, you become warped. For example, you might have a higher standard of living, but where's your quality of life?"

5. Explore

Ask yourself these questions...

  1. Will reaching this goal make me happy?

  2. Will reaching this goal make me healthy?

  3. Will reaching this goal make me more prosperous?

  4. Will reaching this goal make me more secure?

  5. Will reaching this goal make me more friends?

  6. Will reaching this goal bring me peace of mind?

  7. Will reaching this goal improve my family relationships?

If you cannot answer yes to at least one of these questions, you need to strike that off your list. But don't completely block it out, because that goal might come later. You need to make sure that it's not just for you, but the people that are in your environment and in your life.

6. Stretch

"The Boxer"

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗯𝗼𝘅𝗲𝗿.

The author shared a story about a young boy he met at one of his seminars. This boy weighed about 210 pounds, and he was around 5'9. The boy then said, "I'm going to be the heavyweight champion of the world". Zig Ziglar asked him, "Do you have any past experience with fighting or boxing? Do you even know what you're doing?"...

The boy answered, "No, but I wrestled my brother-in-law the other day in our backyard, and everybody thought I was so good".

The boy did not have any experience, and not that he can't do it in the future. But there are things that you want to stretch for, and there are things that you can't. It's so hard because you've always said to your kids, "You can do whatever you want. The sky is the limit", and "If you want that you can achieve it".

Maybe you've got a not-so-super coordinated teen who wants to be an NFL or NBA player. I'm not saying that it can't happen. You want to stretch your goals, but don't put it so far out there that you end up getting so frustrated because it might never happen.

Another man came up to him and said, "I had worked at a restaurant and was making $30,000 a year. It was the middle of the year, and the man said, "I want to make a million dollars by the end of the year". And Zig Ziglar asked, "What are your goals? What are you doing? How are you going to get there?"...

Let's reverse engineer that. There was no concept of the million dollars, he just said he was going to make a million dollars.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼 𝗳𝗮𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘂𝗽 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀

Just like how you want to lose a hundred pounds. I want to lose 60 pounds by Christmas! Can I do it? That was the question I got the other day. You've got three months or 90 days before the year ends.

Can you physically lose 60 pounds in 90 days?

I'm not saying that you can't, but if the year ends and you didn't accomplish that goal, are you going to get more frustrated or more inspired?

That's what the author is trying to say. Yes, we're going to set goals that can stretch you, but you don't want it to be so far out there that it's going to get you so frustrated and might cause you to give up.

7. Negativity Check

"A goal can be negative if it is completely out of your field of interest or expertise".

That's the same concept. For example, "I want to be a country singer"... But I have no concept, I have no plans of going to Nashville, and I've got kids here.

"If you have to depend on luck in order to get where you want to go, put it on the maybe-someday list.
It's not what you're going to focus on right now, and we're going to keep the main thing, the main thing".

8. Ask 5 Questions

Maybe some of you are running after goals that somebody spoke over you? Like your parents or your boss, but it wasn't actually your goal.

So you need to ask yourself...

  • Is this my goal?

  • Is this somebody else's goal for me?

  • Is this goal morally right and fair to everyone around me?

  • Will this goal take me closer or further away from my major objectives?

  • Can I emotionally commit myself to start and finish?

𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹?
Starting and finishing are both super important. A lot of people start, but only a few people finish.

9. Choose Your Top 4

"Most people can only commit and give complete effort to about 4 goals at a time".

You need to take inventory of all the things you want to do, be, and have. Ask the 'why', eliminate some things until later, choose your top four goals, and we're going to go after them.

"What are the benefits of me reaching the goal? The most important thing you can do in goal setting is ask 'What is in it for me?'"...

Talking about the benefits of losing some weight:

  • The odds are stronger that I'm going to look better.

  • Everything else is equal and I will live longer.

  • I will have more energy and I will feel better. I will undoubtedly be sick less.

The author's goal was fat loss, and your goal is also fat loss. Ask yourself these questions...

  1. Is it going to benefit you?

  2. Is it helpful to you?

  3. Is it going to prolong your life?

  4. Is it going to help everybody around you?

YES! 100%!
𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀? 𝗡𝗼, 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗲'𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.
If everything that you're doing is focused only on your physical health, then you might not notice that your finances, relationships, or your work spokes are all falling apart.

There are other things in your life that you need to focus on and not just you and your fat loss. And that's why we need to focus on 4 goals at a time and not 20.

"What are the obstacles and mountains I'm going to have to climb in order to reach those goals? What do I have to do to lose weight? Some obstacles were I liked the food, I didn't have a structured schedule, and I was super busy".

Zig Ziglar said he was on a "See-Food" diet. Whenever he saw food, he ate it. So then he had to find people to help him. He needed to tell his wife his goals. He needed to find somebody to help him plan his meals and not binge on food after a seminar.

In order for him to reach his goals, he needed to set up boundaries and realistic expectations. And that's how he came up with those nine steps.

Oftentimes, we want everything to just fall into place. You wrote down your goals, you know what you want and then BAM!... But in reality, this could take weeks for you to actually figure out what you want, and write down the steps that you want to do.

𝗙𝗶𝗴𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘁, 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 & 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁.
You need to give this some time and effort for you to really figure out what you want to write, for you to answer the questions, and then go after what you want.

Try to give it a couple of weeks to actually figure out what you want. Tell the people who are closest to you that you're going to take 90 days. I talked about this at the beginning of September, we had 120 days to the end of the year. Are you going to do something in that 120 days? Or are you going to wait for January 1st to start over again?

Now we're closer to 90 days, we're almost done with September. So you've got 90 days, what are you going to do in these 90 days? Are you going to move forward so that when you get to January, you're not starting over?

It could be as simple as taking the rest of this month to figure out your goals. Figure out the obstacles that you're going to have to overcome. Find people to hold you accountable. These 90 days can shift everything for you by next year. Are you going to do it?

Most of you just want to lose some fat, so let's talk about fat loss. Write down your goals and the obstacles you foresee. Obstacles might be time management, not packing your lunch, going on too many outings, drinking too much alcohol, or whatever that is for you.

𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗯𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘀𝗲.

Find reasons not to go to certain places and not to grab those foods. What is you're big enough "why". 90 days can shift a lot in your mindset and in your weight. That way, you're not going to be like the 98% of people who will be starting over again.

Don't be that person! Start right now!

Zig Ziglar also loved desserts. Oftentimes when we eliminate something and say we're not going to have it forever, it usually doesn't work so well. So he made Sundays his dessert days. Sunday was his day to have his favorite ice cream.

We've got lots of holidays coming up. Give this a 90-day test run. There's going to be a holiday in each of the coming months. So what you could do on the holidays would be to enjoy your favorite dessert. Just like the author, Sundays are the day that you can allow yourself something that you love. And then for the rest of the week, you need to stay on track.

I don't want to hear that Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming up, and all of these parties. You have to put that in your mindset that you're going to do really great. Allow yourself to enjoy during the parties, but then you must get back on track.

We're hosting Thanksgiving this year and my sister-in-law makes the most incredible desserts. That will be the only day I allow myself to eat those desserts. I don't need to eat it before, and I don't need to eat it after. I don't need to beat myself up, because I've done really great.

𝗢𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆, 𝗶𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗴𝗼 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹.
Even alcohol is a big deal, the amount of how much it affects your fat loss, and how many people just don't want to give it up.
So you have to get resourceful. Do your research, because alcohol actually hinders most people's fat loss.

Take some time! You can take the rest of this month to figure out what you want. Be super specific, and then go after it for 90 days. You will realize that you've set yourself up above most people, and next year will be incredible for you.

Alright! Thanks for tuning in. Message me with any questions that you have. I hope you guys have an incredible morning and we'll talk to you soon. Bye, everybody!

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