"DREAM IT, PIN IT, LIVE IT" (Chapter 9.2): Habit 2 "Focus on Reading" | Keto Mom Book Club
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"In the beginning, all of your efforts will feel so insignificant and you've got miles to go. So why bother? The most successful people in the world bother. Every day matters. Every inch of progress is still progress. What is simple to do, is also simple not to do. The biggest difference is dreamers and dream achievers, they do those little things. The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine, change your routine and you will change your life" ~ Terri Savelle Foy
Points to Ponder:
00:05 "Dream it. Pin it. Live it" by Terri Savelle Foy
03:35 Habits that Successful People Have
04:03 Habit no. 2: Focus on Reading
05:05 Time, Patience and Consistency
05:29 Some Statistics
06:38 Reading Books is like going through a Minefield
06:57 Power of Reading, Listening and Learning from Others
07:16 "What does your daily habits look like?"
07:47 "You Don't Rise to the Level of your Goals, You Fall to the Level of your Systems
08:34 Educate Yourself by Reading
09:59 Small Seemingly Insignificant Habits
10:14 Why Does it Matter?
11:16 Make Small Little Changes
12:28 Help Create Daily Habits
14:43 A Why Bother Coffee
15:44 What is Simple to do, is also simple not to do
16:06 Change your routine, Change your Life
17:30 Nobody Wants to Share the Struggles
18:51 You know the things you do and you don't do
Full Episode Transcript:
Good morning! Welcome to the Keto mom page, we are diving into "Dream it. Pin it. Live it" by Terri Savelle Foy. We are getting close to the end, hopefully you have been dreaming, writing down goals and hopefully maybe starting your vision boards. But if you have not started, it's okay. So as you're tuning in, where you're tuning in from? Good morning! I don't know if you can see out my windows, normally you can see the sun and the sky. But it is so foggy today, that right after our deck, by the way we live on a Lake, you can barely see the water. I just got done working out, hence my working out face. Who works out in the morning? I love to work out in the morning because it's done. And if I work out in the morning and I'm done, then I make better choices. I get my reading done and I am able to do all of the things.
Anyways, so yesterday we went through chapter nine and today we are on page one hundred twenty (120). If you're following along in the pages or if you're brand new, I'd love for you to post New below. If you're asking what in the world is I'm doing... We read and go through a book every morning. Whether you physically have the book with you, or you just listen here. I've been going through books here on the Keto Mom page since last May.
My hope is to help you truly get your mindset right, so that you can truly get yourself on a course to where you feel great about yourself. And then you will make the best decisions possible throughout your days. I love what we're going to talk about in just a minute. Hopefully, you will develop a love of reading. I love to read, I love to learn, I love to grow. I don't read fiction, like it's fine. I think whatever you read is great, but I will not read something that's not going to develop me, teach me something and I'm not going to grow from.
I have to look at it and go "What lesson am I learning and how can I implement it?". It's just how my mind works. So even sitting down and watching TV, I don't really watch TV because I feel it's a waste of my time. It's a me thing. If I'm not going to learn something, I don't like to do it.
So for books, if I pick up a book and it's not something that's going to grow me. I'm not a person that has to start a book and then finish it. If you're not going to capture my attention, and I'm not going to learn something then I'm going to move on. It's just how I am.
But this is the book that we're going through, "Dream it. Pin it. Live it". We're going to create vision boards, we can start next week and we should be done with this very soon. Yes! So we'll start next week and get the vision boards done by October first and then we're diving into another book. So we're on page one hundred twenty (120).
Yesterday we talked about Habits, she said "What are some habits that successful people have in their life?". And success to you looks different than somebody else.
So here on the on the Keto Mom page, we can say "Success in your health and fitness"... And so she talks about success, finances and relationships. Whatever you're going after, whatever is on your dream board, over all she said one of the habits successful people do is focus on reading. Yesterday we talked about focus on Listening and who you are surrounding yourself with.
Today, habit number two is Focus on Reading... There's some really incredible quotes and really incredible little one liners to think about. So don't tune out if you feel like I just talk about reading. Listen, I promise you, you're going to have realizations. Alright! So she says "Successful people focus on reading"...
She tells a whole bunch of stories in the beginning, but she gives you some very basic statistics. She says, "Here are some statistics"... She talks about daily routines and doing small things that will add up over time. You might not see it right away. So for example, we're going to create this board and you're going to put the board in front of you. You're going to keep it where you see it. You're going to keep it in front of your eyes. You're wanting to believe for it, speak for it. And then there's this gap of time, patience and consistency that you're going to have to fill to see your goals actually come to pass. She said one of the things that people need to do is self develop, like develop yourself continuously. Read and work out, even if it's a short amount of time every day.
She says "One of the things they show on reading statistically says 58% of adults never read another book, after they're done with school for the rest of their life. 42% of college graduates never read another book after college. 80% of U.S. families never buy books, read books, or have never read a book this year. 70% of U.S. adults have never been in a bookstore in the last five years"...
I think, how can you not read a book? There is so much wisdom, and learning from other people and where they've already gone.
I think I talked about this yesterday, when you go after a challenge or when you go after goals, it's like you're walking through a minefield or in a battlefield. And you don't know where you're going to step, what failures you might have, slip ups, or the challenges. You step out of mine, you fall, you get back up.
Reading books is like going through a minefield. But you don't have to step on all of them, because you're going to learn from the people that have already done it. You're going to go further and faster. That's what other people's wisdom does, they give it to you and you learn and grow exponentially faster than they did.
That's the power of reading, listening and learning from others. And so you got to look at Self Development as, "What is my end game and who can I learn from?"... "What are the rituals that will take you to your dreams?", "What does your daily habits look like?". We talked a lot about that in the "Miracle Morning" and "Atomic Habits". A lot of the books that we did all summer is creating systems to get you to where you want to go. In the book "Atomic Habits", I've quoted this a lot, James Clear said "You don't rise to the level of your goals". So you have a vision board, and you have a whole bunch of goals written down. But just because you have them written down doesn't mean you automatically get there. There has to be systems in place. So again he said "You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems". Does this make sense? You have a vision board, it's right here. But it doesn't mean you're going to get there, you've got to figure out the systems that are the gap between today and the goals. So between today and the vision, all this empty space is the systems that gets you there.
It's your daily routine, it's doing things that nobody sees but you know you're doing. Even when it seems so simple, and yet it's so simple to not do.
She says "First of all, I want to challenge you to do something. To continuously educate yourself by reading at least twenty minutes a day". We talked about that in the "Miracle Morning", read at least twenty minutes a day. So she's always telling stories about people, and so statistics show that if you cut out one hour a day of watching TV, that will give you three hundred sixty five hours throughout the year of reading. Divide that three hundred sixty five by forty hour work week, and you will get nine and a half weeks of productive time which will grow you.
So if you decide to learn, grow and develop yourself that puts you in the one percent of people in the world. And if you're developing, think about what what you want to read, and about the field you want to go into. Think about the goals you want to achieve, the go find those books that align with what you're wanting to learn.
She says "Think about the little excuses that we can go after every single day. Have you ever been bitten by an elephant? How about a mosquito?. These may sound like silly questions, but the point is that it's the little things that bite you. It's the small seemingly insignificant habits that you neglect, that distract you from your dreams".
So you may tell yourself "It's just one day", "It's not a big deal", "I'll do it tomorrow"... Why does it matter? Nobody else sees what I'm doing. Reading for twenty minutes is not going to get me anywhere and I have so far to go, it's not worth it. I'm going to give you an idea, if you're looking in the mirror and we're just solely talking about fat loss. If you're telling yourself "What does it matter?", "What does it matter if I take the button off my burger today?", "If I drink the amount of water that I should", "If I go for the twenty minute walk?", "What does it matter if I read twenty minutes, that's not going to take the forty pounds of fat loss I want", "What does it matter?"... I want you to know, you are where you are at today and you cannot change it. Right now, if you're looking at the mirror, and you say "I don't like where I'm at"...
You can choose to acknowledge it "I am where I am today, I'm not going to get worse but I'm only going to get better". And the only way you're going to get better is if you decide to make small little changes that other people might not see. They might not notice right away, you might feel like they're insignificant. But those little changes over the course of time will either lose you forty pounds, it might take all year. Or you might gain another forty pounds if you don't do the small things.
So think about it, I just want you to sit for two seconds and say "Okay, I'm acknowledging where I'm at. I don't love where I'm at, but I don't have to sit here. Either way, I'm going to get better, or I'm going to get worse. So I better make the small choices to get better right now, because I'm not going to get any more worse, I'm not going to go down the one percent worse. I will not do it anymore"... So the fact is "I need to lose forty pounds, I have daily choices and a daily routine to decide to do it or not. And I'm going to make the decision to do the things that will get me to where I want to go. Even if they seem miniscule, even if I'm giving up the ice cream and it doesn't seem to really matter"...
You're going to help create daily habits, daily routines and daily mindsets to get you to where you want to go. "People are rewarded in public for what they practice in private. You will be rewarded for your routine"...
Somebody is not going to say good job for taking that bun off the burger. But if you take enough buns off the burgers, croutons off the salad, no to the ice cream right now, because you've got goals. You decide to not watch the TV, but you're deciding to go for that walk. Deciding to take twenty minutes to read and work on your mindset instead of scrolling through Facebook... So she quoted a basketball player in here who took his team to three or four championships in the NBA. People asked "Why are you so good at this?" and he said "I get up every single morning, no matter what. When nobody sees me, I shoot five hundred shots no matter what, every single morning. It's a routine that I do. I get my head in the space that I need. I go do the small little extra work, and that's what makes you great"...
That's going to get you to your goal, the things that people don't see. You will be rewarded for the routine, because the routine is which gets you to your goals. Those small little things every single day.
All right! This was super good. So she gives you another story of a man who went into the coffee shop and ordered a coffee. The barista asked the man and he said "Ah, I would just like a black cup of coffee, no low fat, no cream, no anything, just plain". And the barista says "Alright! One cup of why bother coming right up!" And the man says "Wait! What did you call my cup?". The barista says "A why bother coffee?"... She says we tend to feel the same way when we launch a new successful routine. Why bother listening to the message on my on my way to work? Why don't I just jam out to music? Why bother cutting out one hour of television each night to learn? Why bother declaring my dreams out loud? Why bother expressing gratitude when I don't have anything to be grateful for right now? Why even bother making a pointless vision board?...
"In the beginning, all of your efforts will feel so insignificant and you've got miles to go. So why bother? The most successful people in the world bother. Every day matters. Every inch of progress is still progress. What is simple to do, is also simple not to do"...
Like buns off burgers "I'm going to eat the bun, it's not a big deal". It's not the fact that you ate the bun. It's the routine, the daily habits and the discipline that you're creating. "What is simple to do, is also simple not to do. The biggest difference is dreamers and dream achievers, they do those little things. They do the things that get them to where they want to go. They don't care if people are watching or not watching, they do it. The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine, change your routine and you will change your life"... We've talked in the past a lot about Daily Habits and Routines, we're going to stop there on page one hundred twenty five (125).
We'll talk about habit number three tomorrow, it's Focusing on Three Priorities. We talked about the Habits of Listening, the Habits of Reading and tomorrow we'll talk about Three other Priorities to get you to where you want to go. I thought that this few pages had a ton of value, and really makes you think "Why bother?"...
The ones that have been successful, the ones that you're learning from, the people that you admire. The people that you might look at and say "they got lucky" but they didn't. They bothered. They bothered with the things that mattered. They did the little insignificant things that nobody saw them doing, to get them to where they are today.
There is no such thing as luck. Some of you might say "No! It's called work". Unless you buy a lottery ticket, and then those people lose all their money in eighteen months. You might get lucky in very few circumstances. The people that you're looking at and you feel like they got lucky? They worked really hard, and you didn't see it because you see social media, which is a highlight reel. You see Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and you see funny because nobody wants to share the struggles.
You didn't see me workout this morning. I didn't post my video. Why? I don't know. Because I just get up and I do it. Even when I'm tired, even when I didn't want to do it. To be honest with you, I didn't want to work out this morning. If you're a man on here, I'm super sorry, but I had terrible cramps. I'm just going to be real, I didn't want to work out. And even through the entire workout, my head kept saying, "It's not a big deal, you can quit", "You have a reason, you have terrible cramps"... And I wanted to walk away from the workout, but I thought "It's not a big deal, I'll just push through it and I'll get it done"... Are you willing to push through? You didn't see it, and you could easily comment "Did she work out or did she not workout?", "Did she eat cereal this morning or did she intermittent fast", you don't see. Or I could easily say "Nobody's going to know that I didn't work out". I took a picture of my daughter saying "Oh, she joined me for my workout this morning". But you would not have known if I quit early, only I would have.
You know the things you do and you don't do. So it's easy to grab that donut in secret, it's easy to go "I'll start tomorrow, nobody's going to see me eat this little piece of chocolate". Nobody cares, just so you know. Not in a mean way, but I've got to coach my high school daughter. And we're going through some girl drama, or the lack of friendships.
And I have to say, most people are so selfish, that they're not thinking of you. They're not thinking of you, when they go home. They're not talking about you, they're looking at themselves. All I want you to say is, people will notice if you did something or didn't do something by the results that you're getting. They don't care if you worked out, but you need to care.
You need to do the things that you need to do. Regardless of how you feel and regardless if anybody's watching, because it's going to matter to you. You don't want to get to the end of the year and regret not making the better decision for the last four months of the year.
So I don't know if that made sense, I'm just rambling. I hope you're enjoying the book, because we are almost done. I would continue to add to your goal list, print out pictures that are going to help push you towards your vision. We'll talk more about creating the vision boards at the end. So continue to tune in and this is the book we're going through "Dream it. Pin it. Live it" by Terri Savelle Foy. I hope you have a great day, message me with questions. Otherwise I'll be back on later, I come on anywhere between two to four o'clock. I used to say I would do it every day the two o'clock live but it's been shifted because of the kids activities. So I do come on in the afternoons and we do a two o'clock, three o'clock, four o'clock tasting and a Keto tip. Continue to tune into the page for different tips tricks and recipes.
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