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CHASING DAYLIGHT (Chapter 2.1): When We Fail to Choose, We Choose to Fail | Keto Mom Book Club

Updated: Jan 17, 2022

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       "When we fail to choose, we choose to fail. We cannot put our life on hold. It either moves forward with or without your approval. Choosing not to choose, does not put off any problems. We need to have the drive to execute. How do you get that? You've got to find passion, you got to have excitement, and you just have to do something". ~ Erwin McManus

Points to Ponder:

02:09 Choices and Doing Something

02:39 We Never Stay The Same

03:26 Knowledge Isn't Power

04:07 When We Fail To Choose, We Choose To Fail

05:14 Don't Be Passive

06:02 Find Passion and Excitement

06:23 Are You An Observer?

07:08 Are You In The Game

07:36 The Only Way You Fail Is If You Quit

08:05 Become Passionate and Be Proactive

08:26 Don't Be Passive

09:23 Move Your Body and Eat Less Junk

09:37 Half Empty or Half Full Glass

09:58 Leaders Are Learners

10:25 Consistent Action Everyday


12:14 You Are Worthy To Feel Better

13:00 You Are Your Loudest Voice

Full Episode Transcript:

Good morning! Welcome to the Keto Mom page. My name is Stephanie, I just got done working out but I'm cold again. I did get sweaty, I have two sweatshirts on, and I look puffy. isn't that funny? I live in Minnesota and it is cold here. There's no snow on the ground yet, but there is frost on my car and I have to scrape it off. So as you're tuning in, where are you tuning in from? Did anybody work out this morning? We're doing something new workout. Usually, I like to lift weights, but I'm not a big cardio person. My husband has been reading a book about weightlifting, about weights, and learning a lot of things that are different.

Welcome to Day 5 of our Book 8 session
We're doing a cool new workout, it has to do with just a bar and some bands. I said I will try it for sixty days, and I'll have to share more about the workout. It seems like it wouldn't do a lot, but it's actually really great. So I will keep you informed because the workout is great.

Anyways, how is the weather? Somebody is giving me an angry face. I don't know why you're giving me an angry face. Maybe because I didn't shower... We're going to go through this book, "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin McManus. My hope every morning is to help you with your mindset, to help you start off with a positive mindset, to believe that you can do it, to be thankful and grateful for life, that you woke up today, and you are breathing.

You get to make choices every day, you get to make choices in your life to go after what you want, or to turn the other way and ignore it.

This book is great, and if you're just tuning in, and just following along, awesome! Yes, we've been talking about choices, and about just doing something. What do you want to do? What do you want to achieve in life?... This book isn't specifically about keto, low carb, or eating food, but it helps you have this mindset of, "I don't have to be perfect". I don't have to wait for the right circumstances, I make choices every day that either move me forward or backward. We never stay the same. You're either moving forward, or you're going back. You're either progressively making decisions and choices or you're sitting on the couch and just letting life happen to you. What is it for you? Yesterday, we talked about the power of choice, and about just taking action. I'm not going to read it all, there's a lot of stories. But if you're following along, we stopped at page forty-three (p.43), and now we're on page forty-four (p.44)... He tells a lot of stories in the book, about people making decisions, or not making decisions.

Knowledge is not Power, it's enthusiasm and passion

Basically, he said, whatever you're wanting in life, like most of you who are here want to feel better, health-wise. Then you have to do something, you can't just gather all of the wisdom and knowledge, because knowledge isn't power.

Yesterday, we talked about how "Knowledge isn't power". Instead, it's enthusiasm, passion, desire, and taking action on that knowledge that will help move you forward. Otherwise, you're going to go backward.

Have you guys ever heard that? There's no staying the same. Oftentimes people say, "I'm just going to sit right here"... That is not how it works, you're either progressively moving forward, or you will be going backward. It's one or the other. Positive choices that are going to move your goals or the opposite.

There's clearly a lot of stories in here, but I loved what he said, "When we fail to choose, we choose to fail"...

Are you making decisions every day? Are you letting life happen to you? Are you letting circumstances, environment, the cookies, and all the things define who you are? What that means is "If you fail to choose", like choosing to get up in the morning and move your body. Choosing to pack your lunch, make the better decision, read instead of mindlessly watching the news this morning. Choosing to work on your mindset instead of listening to gossip. Are you choosing something that's going to add value to your life?... "When we fail to choose, we choose to fail. We cannot put our life on hold. It either moves forward with or without your approval". Life is going to move, you're going to continue to go forward, your life is going to go forward. "Choosing not to choose, does not put off any problems"...

You want to be better, but you are only doing this much

Don't be passive. If you are here, then you're wanting better. What do you want? I'd love to know, what your goals are? What are you going after? And if it's just health-related, that's great. What do you want? Do you even know what you want? Because if you can't clarify it, how can you go after it?... "I want to get healthy", but what does that mean? "I want to lose weight", how much, by when, and what does that look like?...

Oftentimes, we say "I want", but there are no specific details, nor do you even know what that means to go after what you want. It's like a hope or a wish. We're not going to wish to lose weight or hope that it happens. You've got to put action behind it.

Alright! So he said, "We need to have the drive to execute. How do you get that? You've got to find passion, you got to have excitement, and you just have to do something". One foot in front of the other, one step at a time, one day at a time. He said, "Most of my life, I used to sit on the sidelines growing up". He said for most of my life, I was a sideline sitter, I was a watcher, I was an observer, I did everything I could not be in the game. He goes, "Are you an observer?"...

Not very many people are in the game. Do you watch other people? Do you wish you could have that? Are you hoping and wishing that it would come true? But until you put the action, it's not going to work...

He said "Oftentimes even people look like they're in the game"... I see a lot of you on here all the time. You're sharing some Keto Recipes, we're talking, you appear like you're in the game, but you're doing this much. This much is good, but you're still a sideliner. You don't have clarity, and you're not taking action every single day. It may appear as if you're in the game, but are you in the game? Only you can know that.

Don't fear failure. If you fail, get up and try again

I can give you tips and tricks, or whoever else you're watching, the books that you're reading, the people that you're following. Anybody can give you some wisdom and knowledge, but it's up to you to grab it and then put it into play in your own life. He said, "Maybe you've been afraid to get in the game because you're afraid to lose"...

The only way you fail is if you quit. So if you try something and it doesn't work, then you should get back up and keep going. The only way you fail is if you quit.

He then tells us a whole bunch of stories, basically just talking about doing something. He said, "It's time to move out of passivity, (stop being passive) and time to move into activity". What are the actions that you need to take today to feel better? To feel like you're taking action on your life?...

"A wonderful thing happens to people when they become passionate about something, they become proactive. They take initiative, and they take action"...

So I'm going to end there, we're going to end on page fifty-eight. There were a lot of stories, I'm not going to read it all to you. But the overview of these last few pages is simply, "Don't be passive". Don't just watch other people and wish it was you. You know enough to take control of your health. If you never watched me or anybody else ever, you should deep down know that you should probably go for a walk. You should probably move your body, and put down the coke or soda. You should probably put down the soda and grab some water. You should probably not eat the doughnut and make a better choice. You could eat some more vegetables and protein, and you don't have to eat all of the processed food. Even if that's all you knew, you could already make a huge headway on your health and fitness. If you just did the very basic steps of moving your body, drinking more water, and eating less junk...

You should know by now that your mindset matters
For those of you here, you should all know how important it is to renew your mind. You should be reading something that's going to help you be more positive. You really should look at life differently, it's like a half-empty glass or half-full glass. Am I thankful or am I grumpy?

Let's just say that if you never had anything else that was taught to you, do you feel like you could still be successful? I don't want you to ever get in the realm of "I don't know enough". Learning is great, and leaders are learners. I love to learn, I love to read, and with all that I've learned today, I should be able to execute my goals. It's not supposed to be complicated, it's not easy, but it's simple. It's a simple process of one percent (1%) better, one step at a time, and making the better choice. It doesn't mean it's easy, it's consistent action every single day. With that, this book is great. If you have the book, continue to read it. If you're just following along, you can tune in here every single day.

We probably could say we made it through the end of chapter two. We'll start chapter three tomorrow, and for the next few days. So continue to tune in here. If your goal is to learn about recipes, keto tips, and tricks, just scroll through the page. We've been here since 2015, and there is no shortage of recipes, tips, tricks, or ideas to help you on your journey. If you're brand new, you want some recipes, and you want to see how to get started, go to has hundreds of recipes, lots of different ways to help you get started on your journey. Otherwise, send me a message, I'm always here to help.

This is the book for those who've been asking, it's called "Chasing Daylight" by Erwin McManus. After this book, we're going to start the book called "The Five-second rule by Mel Robbins", we'll start that in December.
You are worthy, you are amazing, learn to love yourself

So I hope you guys have a great morning. Be thankful that you have a phone, you're watching me, you have the technology, you are breathing, you're alive, and you are worth it. I know a lot of you take care of other people and not yourself, but it is important to take care of yourself too. Because if you don't feel good, it's hard to give back to other people...

This is the last thing I'll say, oftentimes people say, "Me first, me first, self care". I've got two different viewpoints on that. All I'm saying is, it is important to take care of yourself. There is an extreme for sure if people are using the excuse of self-care. But self-care means knowing you are worthy to feel better, that you can do this. You can get up, read a couple of pages of a book, and you are worthy to be healthy. People are depending on you, so you've got to work on yourself. It's just simple actions...

All right! I hope you guys have a great day, and I'm always here to help. I hope you go smile and go look at yourself in the mirror. This is super awkward, but I promise you, if you do this a couple of times, you will learn to love yourself, a lot of you don't.

Go look at yourself in the mirror and say "I love you, Stephanie", "You are amazing", "You are worthy", "You can do this"...

What are the words that are causing you to stumble? You're the person, you are the one that has the loudest voice in your mind. Oftentimes you might go, "My husband doesn't believe in me", "My spouse, my kids, or my co-worker said something super hurtful, that I could never do this"... You want to know what the loudest voice in your head is? It's your own. So go talk out loud to yourself, until you believe it. I hope you guys have a great day, and we'll talk to you soon.

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